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I’m Not Looking For A Relationship In Hopes That One Just Falls In My Lap

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Being an independent single woman is part of my brand. It has taken a lot of work, and a smidgen of therapy, but I feel like I can proudly stand on my own two feet and recognize my worth as a woman. I’m at a point in my life where anything is possible. I can do anything I want, live anywhere I want, and not have to answer to anyone except for myself. It’s such a privilege to have endless opportunities to explore on your own. Falling in love with yourself is the best relationship you could ever have. Spending quality time alone allows you to learn more about not only yourself, but how you interact with others. So for now, I am not looking for a relationship. I want to spend this time on me. But, you know, if it just happens to work out, I would not be opposed.

It’s been a long time coming, but I am finally happy being alone. I’ve read more, worried less, eaten better, slept sounder, and been nicer. I’ve found my true passions and focused on my future. I’ve been enjoying quality time with my friends and I’ve gotten to know them better than I have in the years of knowing them. They, too, are such strong, driven women that it inspires me to keep pressing on towards my own goals. The goals that I, and I alone, have set for myself. Having a boyfriend at this point in my life would be a distraction and a disservice to my future. I need to keep an open mind about what can happen in my life. Which, in this case, would mean keeping an open mind about a possible relationship that could just meander into my life at any given moment.

All I’m saying is I’m not going to rush anything. It will happen when it happens. When you actively look for love, that’s when you end up in something that is not worthwhile. So here I am. Not looking. Not expecting a single thing to happen. Nope, not this girl. I’m totally oblivious to the fact that I am one of the few of my friends who are single. I’m happy to be the fun single friend. My friends in relationships are so anxious to set me up with someone that they know. At first, I’ll refuse, but after stalking them on social media, I might oblige. I mean, who am I to doubt my friends? They know me better than anyone, and if they think this guy would be perfect for me because he’s also single and that’s about it, then I trust them whole heartedly. It’s not like I’m looking for anything serious. Unless he is, in which case I would totally be down.

When I choose to allow someone in my life, they better be pretty special. I won’t give everything I have away to just anyone. There is no way I will give up my freedom that easily. I’m keeping my standards high and my heart guarded. And as soon as anyone who is even remotely interested in me shows up in my life, I will be ready for a relationship. Like, so ready.

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Ali Hin

A born and raised Jersey girl, she can always be found covered in sand and pizza sauce. Her personal brand is "that girl." She prefers wine in bottles because she thinks outside of the box. Send fan mail to sratbroTSM@gmail.com or by smoke signal.

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