I think pillow talk is better than sex. Actually scratch that. I know pillow talk is better than sex. The way I see it, pillow talk can be between anybody. This isn’t a strictly post-coitus scenario, although that version does have its perks. There’s pillow talk with your best friend, your roomie, and your pledge sister. There are plenty of times that we lay in our beds, unable to fall asleep, and so instead gush and mush about the issues in our lives. We discuss it all — what was making us happy, confused, anxious — all in the dark while slowly feeling closer to another person. Slowly letting our walls down.
I’m convinced there’s something that happens to the mind right before it sleeps that frees it from any restraints. I confessed some things to my best friend that the daylight could never get out of me. Pillow talk could get me to admit to failing my statistics midterm or how I was crushing on the absolute wrong person or concerns about family and friends. It takes a lot for me to let my guard down and admit that I’m not perfect. But for some reason, this atmosphere always made me defenseless. Pillow talk is like the therapist I never had.
But we can’t overlook the romantic pillow talk. The post bang, let’s talk about everything, pillow talk. It can be with a guy that I met that night or someone I’ve been seeing for months. It can be just a few sentences before he falls into his ejaculation-induced coma or an hour long conversation. I don’t care. I’m obsessed with it all. Giggling and talking all night with a cute (naked) boy is actually my go-to “favorite hobby” answer. And I know, some guys think pillow talk is the worst part of hooking up. But hey, if I had to stick it out for that 5-minute “performance” of yours, the least you could do is hang out for this 5-minute Q&A of mine. If we engage in some really good pillow talk, like so good you’re telling me why you resent your father or how you were bullied growing up, then I have a confession: I’ve just fallen in love with you and you might as well start picking out the names of our children.
I fully believe pillow talk is more intimate than sex and it’s time for you all to start believing it too. Two humans, completely unguarded, explaining the shit that makes them feel the most? That’s the good stuff. It’s an entire feature film that you can experience in the comfort of a bed. I’ve learned so much about others and myself from these simple, little conversations. It does not matter if you prefer down feather or memory foam, just start the discussion atop your pillows and feel your life change forever..
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