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Your Definition of “Classy” Is So Completely Wrong

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Classy. Not trashy. Just a little bit sassy.

Shut. Up.

Every time I hear a girl describe herself as “classy” I cringe a little inside. “Oh, I’m not like that. I’m classy,” she says as she explains her superiority over someone else. Sorry, sweetie, but that’s bullshit. I break all the stereotypes of your version of classy every single day and still consider myself one of the classiest ladies around. It’s time to stop throwing around this word as an insult and learn what it really means.

Being classy is all about having self-respect. A classy lady is helpful and kind. She compliments strangers and volunteers her time for others. She is prompt, timely, and considerate. She is self-reliant and don’t need no man. Classy can also mean being stylish. It can mean sipping fine wine and attending black-tie events. It can mean being faithful in a relationship. It can mean putting others before yourself. A classy person is basically just a synonym for being an overall good person.

Being classy means you’re not judgmental or immature. It’s not how much money you have or who your friends are. It has nothing to do with saving yourself for marriage or never getting blackout drunk. You can be the party girl AND a classy motherfucker. Stop pretending the two can’t go hand-in-hand.

I’m also so sick of hearing classy in a sarcastic manner.

“Did you hear she slept with three different guys this weekend?

“Wow, so classy of her.”

Damn right, that is classy of her. She got what she wanted and was confident in doing what made her happy. I can’t think of a classier person.

Being classy has nothing to do with what you wear or who you screw. It does have to do with being authentic, genuine, and true to yourself. It means being confident and supportive. It means respecting yourself and those around you.

But most importantly, classy women don’t have restrictions on their lives in order to fit the stereotype. Classy women can swear! Classy women can show cleavage! Classy women can get drunk! Classy women can text him first! Classy women can stay out as late as they want! Making your own rules for your own life and being confident in them is the highest level of classy anyone can achieve.

True class is on the inside and if you’re calling another girl “not classy” that makes you anything but. The people I consider to be classy in my life can be found helping out sisters in the daytime and funneling beer at nighttime. Don’t give a fuck if someone calls you out on not being classy to their standards. Chances are, it’s them, not you.

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Blackout_B

Blackout_B (@b_m4rie) enjoys drinking beer by the gallon and making memories she'll never actually remember. When she isn't embarrassing herself by making out with randos on the dance floor, you can find her pretending it's normal to drink a glass of wine with breakfast every day. It's fun to sit down with her on Sunday mornings and hear how fucked up her weekend was.

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