The situation you are describing is a legal and ethical gray area. On one hand, if you feel violated and do not believe you would have consented, it sounds like rape and would not be your fault. On the other hand, if you and the guy were both drunk and were both into it at the time, then it’s unfair to blame the guy (who was also drunk) for not predicting that you wouldn’t be okay with it when you sobered up. At the time it would have been no different than any other drunken hook up, and the guy wouldn’t have been internationally taking advantage of you. Basically if you feel uncomfortable with it after the fact, you shouldn’t blame yourself at all, but depending on the details of the situation, it might not be fair to blame the guy either. Based on the information you gave, it could have been rape or it could have just been a drunken hook up that you regret. Without knowing more specific details surrounding the situation, it’s impossible to say for sure whether or not it would or should be considered rape.
She is honestly a repulsive person who doesn’t deserve to be in the spotlight for anything. Maybe if everyone would just ignore her, she’ll take the hint and just sit down and shut up already lol
My parents had a similar timeline and they’ve been happily married almost 30 years now! Proof that there’s no universal timeline of how long to date before getting married. It all depends on the couple
Also if a safe male birth control gets developed, it’s really only practical for couples who are in committed relationships. If I was single, there’s no way in hell I’d sleep with a guy who claimed he was on birth control without using another form of protection. There’s really nothing to stop a guy from lying about it (since he probably won’t have to deal with the consequences). So basically most single girls would still need to be on birth control unless they just want to rely on condoms or trust what some random guy says to them.
Yeah just because the side effects are the same doesn’t mean the severity is the same. Sure the pill use to make me moody when I was on it, but that side effect was mild enough to not hurt my mental health or relationships with others. This study was actually making a lot of the guys crazy and the side effects were much more severe than they are for almost all women (obviously there’s a change that anyone can have an abnormal reaction to almost any medication). Hopefully with more research, they can come up with more options for birth control for both men and women that are non-hormonal or at least have fewer, milder side effects. And at least they’re researching methods for men now. It’s a first step in the right direction but obviously needs a lot more work before it’s safe enough to actually be used.
Our new advisor is also an alum from our chapter as she’s the best! She has worked so hard with our nationals to get us exceptions to some rules, helped improve our chapter morale and reputation, and has given a lot more decision making authority back to our exec. So yeah some advisors suck, but some are actually really great and use their authority to make good changes that the collegiate members want but don’t have the ability to make.
Love this article! With society being so obsessed with “loving yourself,” the “real” you, (which definitely isn’t a bad thing in moderation) as well as all the PC bs we have to deal with, sometimes society almost seems like a bad thing to want to be skinnier/prettier/trendier. Sure maybe it’s kinda superficial, but it’s still what a lot of girls want, and I think even though this is a funny article on tsm, it’s still nice for us to hear that other people still have the same thought process of wanting to be the “hot girl.” There’s honestly nothing wrong with that, or any other type of self-improvement, especially when those lifestyle changes should also lead to better health!
Seriously impressed by ATO for doing that, and would love to see other Greek organizations follow suit! Making mental health easier to talk about and making help more accessible is a huge step in the right direction. Hopefully as more people open up about mental illnesses, that will lead to better research and understanding for how to prevent and cure them instead of just treating the symptoms in many cases.
It also depends on how serious the relationship is. If you’ve been dating a guy for 2 weeks, that’s not an excuse to drop off the face of the earth, but as the relationship goes on longer and gets more serious, then it’s 100% reasonable to put that relationship first.
Judgemental? If he doesn’t watch porn himself and thinks it’s disgusting and bad, then it’s perfectly valid for watching porn to be a deal breaker for him in a relationship. Sounds like they probably just weren’t compatible with each other, but neither of them did anything wrong.
Finally a college with some common sense. Time to stop condoning all the adult babies and give them a nice dose of reality and welcome them to the real world where not everyone will cater to their chronically hurt feelings.
That’s exactly why 90 day birth control pill packs exist
The situation you are describing is a legal and ethical gray area. On one hand, if you feel violated and do not believe you would have consented, it sounds like rape and would not be your fault. On the other hand, if you and the guy were both drunk and were both into it at the time, then it’s unfair to blame the guy (who was also drunk) for not predicting that you wouldn’t be okay with it when you sobered up. At the time it would have been no different than any other drunken hook up, and the guy wouldn’t have been internationally taking advantage of you. Basically if you feel uncomfortable with it after the fact, you shouldn’t blame yourself at all, but depending on the details of the situation, it might not be fair to blame the guy either. Based on the information you gave, it could have been rape or it could have just been a drunken hook up that you regret. Without knowing more specific details surrounding the situation, it’s impossible to say for sure whether or not it would or should be considered rape.
3 out of the last 6 articles are about the Kardashians… the topic really is getting old.
Those are all hideous though tbh
She is honestly a repulsive person who doesn’t deserve to be in the spotlight for anything. Maybe if everyone would just ignore her, she’ll take the hint and just sit down and shut up already lol
I kinda cared about this until I remembered that Nick is the bachelor. Gross.
Wtf if this is real it’s exactly why people shouldn’t have sex until they’re mature enough to deal with the potential consequences.
My parents had a similar timeline and they’ve been happily married almost 30 years now! Proof that there’s no universal timeline of how long to date before getting married. It all depends on the couple
Also if a safe male birth control gets developed, it’s really only practical for couples who are in committed relationships. If I was single, there’s no way in hell I’d sleep with a guy who claimed he was on birth control without using another form of protection. There’s really nothing to stop a guy from lying about it (since he probably won’t have to deal with the consequences). So basically most single girls would still need to be on birth control unless they just want to rely on condoms or trust what some random guy says to them.
Yeah just because the side effects are the same doesn’t mean the severity is the same. Sure the pill use to make me moody when I was on it, but that side effect was mild enough to not hurt my mental health or relationships with others. This study was actually making a lot of the guys crazy and the side effects were much more severe than they are for almost all women (obviously there’s a change that anyone can have an abnormal reaction to almost any medication). Hopefully with more research, they can come up with more options for birth control for both men and women that are non-hormonal or at least have fewer, milder side effects. And at least they’re researching methods for men now. It’s a first step in the right direction but obviously needs a lot more work before it’s safe enough to actually be used.
Our new advisor is also an alum from our chapter as she’s the best! She has worked so hard with our nationals to get us exceptions to some rules, helped improve our chapter morale and reputation, and has given a lot more decision making authority back to our exec. So yeah some advisors suck, but some are actually really great and use their authority to make good changes that the collegiate members want but don’t have the ability to make.
As long as people aren’t bringing him into their dorm rooms, why tf is this even a problem?
Love this article! With society being so obsessed with “loving yourself,” the “real” you, (which definitely isn’t a bad thing in moderation) as well as all the PC bs we have to deal with, sometimes society almost seems like a bad thing to want to be skinnier/prettier/trendier. Sure maybe it’s kinda superficial, but it’s still what a lot of girls want, and I think even though this is a funny article on tsm, it’s still nice for us to hear that other people still have the same thought process of wanting to be the “hot girl.” There’s honestly nothing wrong with that, or any other type of self-improvement, especially when those lifestyle changes should also lead to better health!
Literally wtf. Whatever dumbass decided that was offensive deserves to lose their citizenship lmao
Seriously impressed by ATO for doing that, and would love to see other Greek organizations follow suit! Making mental health easier to talk about and making help more accessible is a huge step in the right direction. Hopefully as more people open up about mental illnesses, that will lead to better research and understanding for how to prevent and cure them instead of just treating the symptoms in many cases.
Ugh I hate number 17! Does anyone know what causes that or how to prevent it???
It also depends on how serious the relationship is. If you’ve been dating a guy for 2 weeks, that’s not an excuse to drop off the face of the earth, but as the relationship goes on longer and gets more serious, then it’s 100% reasonable to put that relationship first.
Judgemental? If he doesn’t watch porn himself and thinks it’s disgusting and bad, then it’s perfectly valid for watching porn to be a deal breaker for him in a relationship. Sounds like they probably just weren’t compatible with each other, but neither of them did anything wrong.
I was totally expecting there to be a ring in the middle box lol
Finally a college with some common sense. Time to stop condoning all the adult babies and give them a nice dose of reality and welcome them to the real world where not everyone will cater to their chronically hurt feelings.