41 Things You Should Never Apologize For


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In life, there’s always going to be people who put you down or judge your choices. They’re going to try and tell you what to do or tell you that what you’re doing is wrong. Especially as a woman, it’s hard to stick up for yourself. It’s easy to fall into a submissive state and apologize for things you do, things you say, or even things you wear, because as women we’re made to feel guilty. If we don’t, we’re called “bitchy” or “stubborn,” while guys who act the same way are called “tough” or “assertive.”

There’s definitely times where you should own up to your mistakes, but here are a few things you should never have to apologize for:

  1. Being in a sorority. You shouldn’t have to defend your choices to people who don’t want to understand. 
  2. Eating that last slice of cake, even though you told yourself you were on a diet.
  3. Having a body type that’s different than everyone else’s.
  4. The guys you dated/slept with/messed around with before you met your current boyfriend. The past is in the past.
  5. Having an opinion. You’re entitled to believe what you want to believe, and so is everyone else.
  6. Experiencing and embracing your emotions. People have emotions; showing them doesn’t make you weak, it makes you human.
  7. Breaking someone’s heart by deciding you don’t want to be with that person anymore. You’re allowed to feel bad, but in the long term, you’re really doing them a favor.
  8. Wearing a dress that shows off your figure. If you got it, flaunt it.
  9. Telling a guy who’s being a little too handsy to back off. He can call you a bitch all he wants, but you’re allowed a say in who’s touching you.
  10. Turning down a drink.
  11. Or asking for another one.
  12. Crying over an ex that you know isn’t worth your time.
  13. Moving on too quickly.
  14. Or not moving on quickly enough.
  15. Placing your friends or family over your boyfriend. A guy who doesn’t understand that is trying to manipulate you.
  16. Wanting to be single.
  17. Wanting to be in a relationship.
  18. Getting back together with an ex.
  19. Not knowing what to do. You always have time to figure it out.
  20. Changing your major when everyone is telling you it’s too late. It’s never too late to go after what you want, and besides, you’re the one who has to live with that decision for the rest of your life — not them.
  21. Asking for help when you need it.
  22. Using your privilege to your advantage.
  23. Taking a risk and falling flat on your face. At least you gave it a shot.
  24. Being a guys’ girl
  25. Or being a girly girl.
  26. Cutting off your friend when you think she’s had way, way too much. Even if she’s mad at you right now, she’ll thank you in the morning.
  27. Canceling all plans on a Friday night to lay in bed with a pint of ice cream and watch Netflix, because sometimes we all need some time for ourselves.
  28. Asking people you love to kindly butt out of a situation and let you figure your shit out on your own.
  29. Telling your roommate to kindly clean her part of the apartment via a passive aggressive post it.
  30. Speaking up for something you believe in.
  31. Wanting to be a stay at home mom instead of a rocket scientist. It’s a job, too.
  32. Disagreeing with someone’s opinion.
  33. Being the most put together one of all your friends.
  34. Or being the hot mess one. YOLO.
  35. Being a stereotype.
  36. Having morals you refuse to break, whether that be staying a virgin in college or things concerning your religion.
  37. Being a feminist.
  38. Not giving a f*ck what anyone thinks of you or your choices.
  39. Being a boss. In the classroom, your sorority, or the workplace.
  40. Being smarter, prettier, or more successful than someone else. That’s just life. Bragging about it, however, is a different story.
  41. Saying “no” in any situation you don’t want to be in, even if you think it’s too late. It’s never too late to change your mind.
Cristina is a Grandex Writer and Content Manager. She was an intern for over two years before she graduated a semester early to write about college full time, which makes absolutely no sense. She regretfully considers herself a Carrie, but is first and foremost a Rory. She tends to draw strong reactions from people. They are occasionally positive. You can find her in a bar as you're bending down to tie your shoes, drinking Dos XX and drunk crying to Elton John. Email her: cristina@grandex.co (not .com).

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