It seems like our whole world revolves around sex, which if you think about it, is really weird. You don’t keep track or put that much thought into literally anything else in your life. There are a million different “numbers” that apply to you — your age, your weight, your graduation year, the age you got your first period, number of friends, the place you got in your second grade spelling bee — the list goes on. But when someone asks for “your number,” you unequivocally think of your body count. How many men you have under your belt. And it’s weird.
You don’t count how many girls you’ve gone to lunch with or how many teachers you went to study hours with. Yet this thing that’s essential to the survival of the human race, and one of the most innate experiences in the human condition must be tracked. Makes no fucking sense.
Further, sex is a game, and we can’t play our hand too soon, or guys are turned off by it — because it implies you do this with everyone, and some primal instinct tells them that if you’ve been penetrated by too many other guys, somehow that devalues them and their penis. On the flip side, though, you can’t wait too long and have him think you’re not interested. Ever fuck one of your friends? It doesn’t always work out.
So what’s the magic amount of time. How long are we supposed to wait to seal the deal to ensure guys respect us, but without letting them lose interest. I asked a few dudes this very question. Their answers are below.
So the verdict? It doesn’t really matter much for most guys, which is generally how I live my life. It’s not really about how long you wait, just about how much they like you. If they like you, they’ll call you again after the first night. If they don’t, you won’t hear from them again even if you wait three months.
But…consider waiting a week or two, just to be safe. Or sleep with everyone the first night to weed out the guys who have a double standard. Up to you..
To read about what guys are looking for in bed, click here.