Having Less Sex With Your Boyfriend Will Make Him Love You More In The Long Run


Are guys ever not horny? I swear I can be on my period, wearing granny panties, and plucking an ingrown hair out of my armpit and my boyfriend will still be humping my leg. As much as I want to believe that I’m just *that hot,* I have to blame his behavior on biology. Men want to fuck all. the. time. and they’ve been that way that since the cavemen days.

It’s been proven by researchers that men tend to “over-perceive” how interested a woman is in doing the nasty with him in order to not “miss out” on the opportunity to spread his seed. If he strikes out, he strikes out, but at least he gave it a shot. You see it all the time: a guy sees a cute girl at the bar, smiles at her, and she smiles back. He’s thinking “oh yeah, she wants this D,” while she’s more likely thinking, “I hope he buys me a drink.” Single guys are biologically created to be over-confident about their ability to seal the deal, but what about guys in relationships?

Amy Miuse, a researcher at the University of Toronto wanted to explore what happens when people enter into an established relationship, so she had couples complete individual background surveys about their sexual desire and subsequent surveys over a period of 21 days.

From Broadly:

“For the most part, the lovers could accurately assess if their partner was in the mood or not. But the researchers discovered—surprisingly—that men in relationships consistently tend to think that their partners want to have less sex than they actually do. The reason for this, Muise said, is that latent under-perception of desire could have long-term benefits. While believing that your partner doesn’t want to have sex with you (accurately or not) could be a bummer for you in the short term, the researchers found that the partners of under-perceiving men reported higher relationship satisfaction and commitment.”

That’s it. That’s the key to tricking your boyfriend into loving you and being dedicated to you. Deny him sex every once in awhile, make him believe you’re “not in the mood” (even if you are, suck it up and take one for the team) and before long, you’ll have yourself a perfect, committed boyfriend.

Miuse doesn’t understand why under-perception of desire is good for relationships, but she has a theory.

“There’s still some more work to be done to figure out exactly what’s going on there. But one possibility is that perhaps when men are under-perceiving, they’re much more motivated to do things to entice their partner, make their partner feel good, and express their love and commitment to the relationship. And women are feeling more satisfied and committed as a result.”

It’s amazing how simple-minded the male species is. Simply take away something he enjoys every once in awhile, and he’ll become a better boyfriend in the hopes of getting it more. Motivate him by making him work harder to get what he wants, and your relationship will improve, just like that. And you don’t even have to do butt stuff!

Try this out tonight. If you do it right, you could be engaged in no time.

[via Broadly]

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Cristina Montemayor

Cristina is a Grandex Writer and Content Manager. She was an intern for over two years before she graduated a semester early to write about college full time, which makes absolutely no sense. She regretfully considers herself a Carrie, but is first and foremost a Rory. She tends to draw strong reactions from people. They are occasionally positive. You can find her in a bar as you're bending down to tie your shoes, drinking Dos XX and drunk crying to Elton John. Email her: (not .com).

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