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Sex Tips From A Porn Star, Week 1: Rim Jobs

by Tashareign

What a fucking honor! I am so thrilled to be asked to write for Total Sorority Move and here’s why:

1. I am a former (very brief stint) Gamma Phi Beta of UCLA.
2. I adore this website and think any community that accepts and supports women is amazing.

I want to be able to navigate and share my strange and unique life experiences with similarly minded people as well as not so similarly minded people. I have been creeping on your website for quite some time now and I can’t wait to really get acquainted with everyone on here and truly interact in the only capacity I know how: intimately. You can directly email me anytime at tashareign1@gmail.com, or tweet me at @tashareign with any questions, comments, or dialogue. I am in L.A. county so you know I get lonely and want sisters like yourselves to be able to bounce innovative ideas off of or really just talk about nonsense with. Some key information, I am a 5 and half year adult industry veteran, and currently contracted to Elegant Angel which is basically high end and glamorous as far as gonzo porn films are concerned. UCLA is my Alma Mater, I was born and raised in sunny Laguna Beach, CA, and experienced my first taste of the camera at 17 years old on “Laguna Beach” Season 3. From there, I pursued XXX modeling and acting in porn. That’s right. I am now your porn sister and you can ask me anything! This week, I will give you one of my favorite sex tips and you can choose to experiment with it or not, but at least think about it.

SEX TIP OF THE WEEK: Rim Jobs

Here’s why: Foreplay is imperative to having climatic sex for me. I love the massage, the spanking, the touching, so skipping straight to head and sex can be boring for your man and for you. Variety is the spice of life and we all need it. Anal rimming is safe, fun, and out of the box for some women. Many females I know receive this treatment but don’t dole it out in the same capacity, so let’s switch it up and give your man what he’s being dreaming of.

My first experience: It was a day like any other, before I became a pro ho. I was non-exclusively dating a semi pro-baseball player who just so happened to be super hot, and tall, and cute, and mmmm. Really though, ridiculous specimen of a man. He had flown me out to NYC to visit with him and watch him play. We had a few romantic nights in and out, but our regular sexy time routine was lacking something. That’s when I decided to plan a fabulous night he would never forget. Plans don’t always go according to schedule but there’s no harm in trying.

I purchased a sexy white one-piece with matching stockings from Victoria’s Secret, pretty #basic of me but I just wanted to dress up. I then decided to buy chocolate body frosting from “Foreplay,” a much more fun store if you ask me. I had a very specific act in mind. It was something *Pete hadn’t dabbled in before but was ready and willing to experiment with. In fact, I don’t even know if up until that point I had ever even been anally rimmed — the act of sticking ones tongue around and in another person’s asshole and eating it in the same way a guy would go down on you. That’s correct, I said it. It sounds daunting and gross at first but let me break it down in a more sanitary and germaphobic minded way. (I, myself, chose a strange profession considering I battle with psychotic germaphobic fears daily — so I get it — but first I’ll complete this adorable anecdote.)

I literally had no idea what I was doing, but I remember my man telling me this was a fantasy of his, so why not? After we hit the town and came home tipsy (wasted) to the fancy hotel room, I ran to the restroom and dressed up fully in my costume. It took close to 45 minutes to put on, no big deal. Who knew strapping those garter and stockings on was going to prove to be so difficult for drunk me. By the time I came out, Pete was passed out face down (perfect!), ready to be taken. I jumped him from behind slowly kissing his ripped back all the way down, then I sneakily put the chocolate frosting around his…anus. The brown color on this frosting should be noted as a really odd choice and not to be recommended at all. It’s my only regret in the whole ordeal. I started licking away ravishly, feeling so turned on knowing he loved it. He tasted so good (well, the chocolate did, anyway) and I felt like a badass doing this to him. He woke up to me rimming him and got hard immediately, taking me and my tight wet holes for himself, all night…. The end.

Taboos are in:. Part of the excitement in this act is that it’s pretty taboo. It’s not as out there as pegging him (fucking him in the ass with a strap-on dildo) and it’s pretty harmless, but it’s still considered “freaky” which makes for a more enhanced feeling associated with the act.

Downside: Your man might not clean perfectly or wash thoroughly enough for you, but you can test this out with two foolproof methods: smell first and use your finger. Kind of graphic, I know, but lesbihonest, testing the waters this way is better than diving in face first if he’s packing something funky. Besides, neither of this things are going to kill you. What will kill you is boring relationship sex.

Upside: MOST men love it. Every man I have been with wants a finger in his ass and would do anything to have me rim him, so I know from personal experience with lots of lovers. They feel embarrassed to tell you that they watch porn and they feel even more lame asking you to lick their asshole or put a finger in it and show it any love at all. So you have to draw his desire out of him, #vulnerable.

Tips: Okay let’s get a few things straight. Everyone needs to shower before this act- duh. Your partner will also need to shave. Who wants to taste hair down there? No one, that’s who. You’re already trying to find this hidden area — it’s so obscure — you don’t need a forcefield blocking the entrance. Have your man shave and shower and get it prepped. He will if you tell him too, and if he doesn’t comply then you bail, because nobody has time for that. Ask him about it beforehand and if he seems reluctant, make sure he knows that you are down for it and into it. The less judgment, the better, because he’s already probably more closed off and nervous than you are. Lastly, some yummy-tasting body gel is a fun add-on (especially if you are worried about the taste). Even a basic bottle of whipped cream works. I am all about sanctifying your sexy time. Happy rimming!

XOXOXO
LOVE, TASHA.

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