For some odd reason, girls think it’s cool to have to have a lot guy friends. What’s ironic is that this notion is completely one-sided, because if you ask a guy if he would rather have a bunch of girl friends over guy friends, he would say no. Unless he’s really flamboyantly gay, in which case, I get it. But girls love having a ton of guy friends. It makes them “chill,” and in this world of “everyone is offended at everything” PC bullshit, being chill is pretty cool.
Girls are materialistic and full of drama. They’re catty and can’t be trusted. Girls with a lot of guy friends are happy being just “one of the guys.”
Those girls are seriously mistaken. But they aren’t totally wrong.
Every girl needs a straight guy friend. Someone to tell them when they’re acting crazy, when the guy they’re talking to is really a fuckboy, and when they need to chill with the selfies on Snapchat. But when all you surround yourself with is dudes, you start to get the idea that you can’t or don’t need to be friends with girls. That couldn’t be farther from the truth.
Girls are complicated, crazy creatures. We stalk hot strangers like it’s our job, we use push up bras and high waisted shorts to trick boys into thinking we have a shape, and we talk a lot of shit. A LOT of shit. But even though we’re all a little insane, we understand each other. There’s a mutual agreement between a girl and her friends not to give up on each other. That bond can’t be replicated in a platonic girl-guy friendship because there’s some things guys just don’t understand, like our need to feel loved and appreciated, and the way we feel when we’re on our periods.
We’re also sensitive. If someone hurts us or says something mean, we can’t brush it off the way guys do. A really bad fight between girls can sometimes ruin a friendship, whereas guys rarely fight, unless it’s over the remote. Fighting doesn’t necessarily mean a friendship is bad or even over. Sometimes it just means someone cares enough to worry about you and your choices. If you say you don’t get along with girls, maybe it’s not them who are the bitches. Maybe it’s you.
You need someone who’s going to call you out on your shit. You need someone who’s going to protect your heart when you give it away too easily. Girls will have each other’s back, even when you don’t think you need them. Girls are fiercely protective over their friends, but sometimes you need someone to care that much. When your self-esteem is low and you have doubts about yourself, it’s your girlfriends who pick you back up.
Girls who only have guy friends aren’t doing it cause it’s easier or better to be friends with guys. They aren’t “one of the guys.” They never will be “one of the guys,” because they still have boobs and a butt and given the opportunity and enough alcohol, any guy will sleep with any girl. It’s biology, or something.
It’s not easier to be friends with guys. If a girl can only be friends with guys, it’s because guys are the only people who can tolerate them. They’ve alienated their girl friends in some way and carry a chip on their shoulder because of it. If you think all women are dramatic and catty, maybe you’re just not friends with the right kind of women. If you can’t be friends with the one type of person on this earth in which you have the most things in common with, it’s not them that’s the problem. It’s you.
Girls who pride themselves on having a ton of guy friends have a twisted sense of entitlement that they’re better than to be seen being friends with other women. They aren’t. We’re all in this together. You are not more of boss and less of a bitch because you surround yourself with men. Newsflash: you’re still female. Hanging out with guys doesn’t negate the fact that people will probably still see you as inferior, because that’s the kind of shit all women deal with on a daily basis. You don’t get to bypass all this shit just cause your best friends are dudes.
Look. I’m sorry for calling you a bitch earlier. But I take great offense that some girls don’t think they can be friends with other girls, and the archaic idea that men are somehow better people to be friends with.
We are all equally great and shitty humans. One gender is not better than the other. Get rid of the idea that you can’t or don’t want to be friends with women. We’re pretty cool, and we can make some bomb ass desserts. Who wouldn’t want to be friends with someone who loves to bake?
Keep your guy friends if the friendships are that strong. But don’t write off women as a lost cause. I know we can be bitchy sometimes, but I promise, we’re not all bad. You don’t have to be friends with me, or anyone like me. I get it, I’m kind of a bitch. But it’s okay, because I already have girl friends. Amazing, loving, caring girl friends who would take a bullet for me. I just want the same for every other female out there..
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Cristina Montemayor
Cristina is a Grandex Writer and Content Manager. She was an intern for over two years before she graduated a semester early to write about college full time, which makes absolutely no sense. She regretfully considers herself a Carrie, but is first and foremost a Rory. She tends to draw strong reactions from people. They are occasionally positive. You can find her in a bar as you're bending down to tie your shoes, drinking Dos XX and drunk crying to Elton John. Email her: cristina@grandex.co (not .com).
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