Ladies, if you value your love life and/or those of your friends, please share this video with everyone you know ( I’m too ashamed to admit I’m guilty, as well) and ask them to do the same. I have always believed that my failed attempts at relationships were due to the adage: Nice Guys Finish Last. Until I saw this video! Once I tried to ‘FIX’ a girl, whom I thought (then and now) was the love of my life. I had to Marry her to cut her drinking down and eliminate any further (4) DWI’s. Along with (but not limited to) potty training, her parent’s interfered with and defeated my CONVICTION to save her life. With deception and malice they cut our income in half (we never recovered financially) She threatened to divorce me if I had them arrested for purposely neglecting our Autistic son. I was powerless, not spineless…but it made me a WUSS, nonetheless. My hatred for them grew, as did her pain and sorrow. My depression turned me into an ASSHOLE. Near the end, I wasn’t able to sustain gainful employment….Her’s, turned her into a full blown alcoholic with Anemia. After 15 yrs, and once again being legally robbed by yet another Middle Eastern client/boss, I failed to bring home the bacon…she kicked me out citing ‘Laziness’ and ‘Vagrancy’. With the Only grounds being mine, I left my son with them and limped home to Texas with my tail between my legs and tears in my eyes. I did not give up! I vowed and succeeded (after 4 yrs) in returning to being the Nice Guy that she married, then call for her to re-marry or lose custody. However, I knew for a fact that she would “die and go to hell before she would move out of her parents rent house”!!! As usual, I was painfully right. Six weeks after the divorce was final, her liver failed. The ONLY thing I can take responsibility for was going against my first instincts/better judgement ONCE! By respecting her insistence to listen to her father (who lied to my face), I allowed him to convince me/us to give up our future and save him from losing his job (due to His alcohol abuse).I made Every Effort to take responsibility for what happened afterward, but was unable to do so. Just in case YOU ARE THINKING THAT ….consider this: Her parents had to be shamed into retrieving her ashes after leaving them at the hospital AND scattered them just over the back yard fence…NOT 20 feet past the gate to spend eternity with her favorite kitty, but on top of a decades-old accumulation of cat litter left by the former tenants!!! To this day, her parents and friends blame me for being a wuss and running away.
If anyone thinks or suspects that I could have done anything else, humanly possible that would have prevented this tragedy, I will gladly supply you with every detail and dare you to do so. She called me a DRAMA QUEEN while ignoring, justifying, then forgiving her parents abuse/cruelty. She claimed to have respected her parents too much to criticize any of their actions
If all that didnt teach me a lesson, I find myself at the end of yet another attempt to save a beautiful woman from substance abuse, in hopes of making her a suitable lover/mate. My failed efforts to do so, confirms what is wrong with me. I’d rather buy a vintage pick-up and rebuild/restore every bolt with my own hands, than buy a new one and be at the mercy of some low level factory worker suffering from a failed relationship due to being an asshole!!!
Every word that guy spoke is absolutely true and they hit me like a ton of bricks. He managed, in only 5 mins, to accurately analyze, diagnose, then translate into guy-speak what my gal-pal could/did not in 2 yrs!!! Like a driver’s license, this video should be required viewing for every male on the planet before being allowed to even talk to a woman!!!
Although some guys (like my brother) choose to be ASSHOLES…some of us dont. It’s statistically impossible to keep from getting a ticket when you’re Speedometer is Broken, your Signals are burned out, and you’ve only one headlight….no matter how well you Drive (pun int’d).
Ladies, your mission…should you choose to accept it, is to share this video with every man, woman, and child you know and request they do the same. Remember, if any one of your friends are caught being guilty of being a ‘Nice Guy’, they should disavow any knowledge of an ASSHOLE! Good Luck. John Harris, Arlington Texas (FB)
Ladies, if you value your love life and/or those of your friends, please share this video with everyone you know ( I’m too ashamed to admit I’m guilty, as well) and ask them to do the same. I have always believed that my failed attempts at relationships were due to the adage: Nice Guys Finish Last. Until I saw this video! Once I tried to ‘FIX’ a girl, whom I thought (then and now) was the love of my life. I had to Marry her to cut her drinking down and eliminate any further (4) DWI’s. Along with (but not limited to) potty training, her parent’s interfered with and defeated my CONVICTION to save her life. With deception and malice they cut our income in half (we never recovered financially) She threatened to divorce me if I had them arrested for purposely neglecting our Autistic son. I was powerless, not spineless…but it made me a WUSS, nonetheless. My hatred for them grew, as did her pain and sorrow. My depression turned me into an ASSHOLE. Near the end, I wasn’t able to sustain gainful employment….Her’s, turned her into a full blown alcoholic with Anemia. After 15 yrs, and once again being legally robbed by yet another Middle Eastern client/boss, I failed to bring home the bacon…she kicked me out citing ‘Laziness’ and ‘Vagrancy’. With the Only grounds being mine, I left my son with them and limped home to Texas with my tail between my legs and tears in my eyes. I did not give up! I vowed and succeeded (after 4 yrs) in returning to being the Nice Guy that she married, then call for her to re-marry or lose custody. However, I knew for a fact that she would “die and go to hell before she would move out of her parents rent house”!!! As usual, I was painfully right. Six weeks after the divorce was final, her liver failed. The ONLY thing I can take responsibility for was going against my first instincts/better judgement ONCE! By respecting her insistence to listen to her father (who lied to my face), I allowed him to convince me/us to give up our future and save him from losing his job (due to His alcohol abuse).I made Every Effort to take responsibility for what happened afterward, but was unable to do so. Just in case YOU ARE THINKING THAT ….consider this: Her parents had to be shamed into retrieving her ashes after leaving them at the hospital AND scattered them just over the back yard fence…NOT 20 feet past the gate to spend eternity with her favorite kitty, but on top of a decades-old accumulation of cat litter left by the former tenants!!! To this day, her parents and friends blame me for being a wuss and running away.
If anyone thinks or suspects that I could have done anything else, humanly possible that would have prevented this tragedy, I will gladly supply you with every detail and dare you to do so. She called me a DRAMA QUEEN while ignoring, justifying, then forgiving her parents abuse/cruelty. She claimed to have respected her parents too much to criticize any of their actions
If all that didnt teach me a lesson, I find myself at the end of yet another attempt to save a beautiful woman from substance abuse, in hopes of making her a suitable lover/mate. My failed efforts to do so, confirms what is wrong with me. I’d rather buy a vintage pick-up and rebuild/restore every bolt with my own hands, than buy a new one and be at the mercy of some low level factory worker suffering from a failed relationship due to being an asshole!!!
Every word that guy spoke is absolutely true and they hit me like a ton of bricks. He managed, in only 5 mins, to accurately analyze, diagnose, then translate into guy-speak what my gal-pal could/did not in 2 yrs!!! Like a driver’s license, this video should be required viewing for every male on the planet before being allowed to even talk to a woman!!!
Although some guys (like my brother) choose to be ASSHOLES…some of us dont. It’s statistically impossible to keep from getting a ticket when you’re Speedometer is Broken, your Signals are burned out, and you’ve only one headlight….no matter how well you Drive (pun int’d).
Ladies, your mission…should you choose to accept it, is to share this video with every man, woman, and child you know and request they do the same. Remember, if any one of your friends are caught being guilty of being a ‘Nice Guy’, they should disavow any knowledge of an ASSHOLE! Good Luck. John Harris, Arlington Texas (FB)