First, you cannot say “with all due respect” if you have no intention of respecting the person you are addressing. I hope you’ll find my comments to be respectful of you, even though I disagree with some of your thoughts.
Second, I did indeed read your entire article, twice in fact, before I posted my comment.
Third, I did use a generalization of being a wife and mom someday simply because I have found the majority of college age women have the aspiration to fill both roles someday. However, I will clarify, whether or not you are ever a wife / mom, you will experience consequences for the decisions you make. All decisions, not just those of sexual nature.
Furthermore, if you had read MY comment in full, you’d see that I in no way shamed anyone, in fact, I explicitly said to go for it if it’s something you’re totally comfortable with. To put it simply, after reading your article I felt your advice to be incomplete. I offered my thoughts for those who choose to read them.
With all due respect to the author of this article, I’d like to offer a different perspective.
I’m in my late 20’s, a few years removed from my incredible experiences with my sisters & the college dating scene, but not yet far enough removed that I don’t distinctly recall the beautiful insanity of it all.
This article made me sad for those girls who want to hear more than “don’t do anything you’re uncomfortable with”, followed by all the reasons you actually should go for it. I know college is a time to go a little wild and do all the things you won’t do when you’re a wife & mom, and some of that is understandable. But please, hear me: what is missing in this article is the truth that there are consequences for every decision you make throughout this stage of life that will follow you into “real” adulthood.
The types of guys you date now are the types of guys you’ll attract then. The freaky things you do behind closed doors will be burned into your memory long after you’ve closed the door on being a wild & free sorority girl. The lines you cross now that you swore you never would will make the next line not seem so scary. And the hardest truth? There’s a distinct possibility that somewhere down the line you may end up being someone you don’t want to be.
I’m not saying don’t have fun. I’m not even saying don’t have that threesome if you’re totally comfortable and confident. I am saying think long & hard about the decisions you’re making. Be able to answer honestly when you ask yourself why you do the things you do. And be willing to walk away, turn around, and ask for help if things go too far. You’re worth it.
These years are going to be some of the best of your life, but when they’re over I promise you’ll never regret the extra time spent caring for yourself.
Xoxo.
Ps. The best kind of college threesome is you, your two best girl friends, and a few bottles of wine. Those are the nights you’ll want to remember a few years down the road, trust me.
A few things:
First, you cannot say “with all due respect” if you have no intention of respecting the person you are addressing. I hope you’ll find my comments to be respectful of you, even though I disagree with some of your thoughts.
Second, I did indeed read your entire article, twice in fact, before I posted my comment.
Third, I did use a generalization of being a wife and mom someday simply because I have found the majority of college age women have the aspiration to fill both roles someday. However, I will clarify, whether or not you are ever a wife / mom, you will experience consequences for the decisions you make. All decisions, not just those of sexual nature.
Furthermore, if you had read MY comment in full, you’d see that I in no way shamed anyone, in fact, I explicitly said to go for it if it’s something you’re totally comfortable with. To put it simply, after reading your article I felt your advice to be incomplete. I offered my thoughts for those who choose to read them.
Best of luck to you, Stefon.
Ladies,
With all due respect to the author of this article, I’d like to offer a different perspective.
I’m in my late 20’s, a few years removed from my incredible experiences with my sisters & the college dating scene, but not yet far enough removed that I don’t distinctly recall the beautiful insanity of it all.
This article made me sad for those girls who want to hear more than “don’t do anything you’re uncomfortable with”, followed by all the reasons you actually should go for it. I know college is a time to go a little wild and do all the things you won’t do when you’re a wife & mom, and some of that is understandable. But please, hear me: what is missing in this article is the truth that there are consequences for every decision you make throughout this stage of life that will follow you into “real” adulthood.
The types of guys you date now are the types of guys you’ll attract then. The freaky things you do behind closed doors will be burned into your memory long after you’ve closed the door on being a wild & free sorority girl. The lines you cross now that you swore you never would will make the next line not seem so scary. And the hardest truth? There’s a distinct possibility that somewhere down the line you may end up being someone you don’t want to be.
I’m not saying don’t have fun. I’m not even saying don’t have that threesome if you’re totally comfortable and confident. I am saying think long & hard about the decisions you’re making. Be able to answer honestly when you ask yourself why you do the things you do. And be willing to walk away, turn around, and ask for help if things go too far. You’re worth it.
These years are going to be some of the best of your life, but when they’re over I promise you’ll never regret the extra time spent caring for yourself.
Xoxo.
Ps. The best kind of college threesome is you, your two best girl friends, and a few bottles of wine. Those are the nights you’ll want to remember a few years down the road, trust me.