Very few therapists nowadays use the Freudian method.
There are many different types of therapists, and while it’s true that some forms of therapy work better for certain people, for the most part any therapy at all is beneficial.
Plus, a lot of times the cost isn’t an issue because a lot of health insurance companies will help a lot in paying for it. Even if you don’t have that sort of insurance coverage, there’s a lot of organizations that help people get access to free or low-cost therapy! (My college offers it for free to any students who want it)
I completely agree! Anyone and everyone could (and should) benefit from therapy! Even if there’s nothing “wrong” in your life, there are ALWAYS ways to improve and be better. Therapy can definitely help you do this, and I don’t see why anyone wouldn’t want such a resource (even if they have many others) for self-improvement. I hope a lot of people will see your post, and hopefully some will consider beginning therapy themselves. It’s such a great thing and I hope more people will begin to see it that way, instead of with negative stigmas or thinking it’s only for “certain people” with “problems.”
I don’t think anyone’s trying to say that you should still treat them completely like a sister, but the problem arises when people begin to treat them TOTALLY differently. what you said about maintaining close relationships is great… even any kind of friendly relationship at all is good. however, cutting out a former member completely, ignoring/avoiding her, talking about her behind her back, or worse actually going out of your way to be mean to her are not okay.
unfortunately, that’s pretty often how these situations are handled. although i understand sometimes well-meaning girls behave that way because they feel uncomfortable or awkward about it, a lot of girls tend to react with hate or unkindness towards a former member, even if they don’t know the details of why she is no longer affiliated. I appreciate that the author of this article is calling attention to this, because i think the real reason this happens is because that’s the culture in sororities. since sister = love and not sister = the opposite of sister and hate = the opposite of love, sometimes it translates into hating girls that are not sisters. a big part of it also comes from gossip and rumors circulating because most people don’t know the true details of the situation. also, sometimes there’s peer pressure to turn on a certain girl because your friends or especially older members are doing so and suggest (either overtly or subtly) that you do the same.
i hope that this post can at least make a small difference in improving some of those negative aspects of greek life culture. there’s so many things to love about sororities, and so many things these organizations should be proud of… it would be unfortunate to let the good things and accomplishments be overshadowed by some of the issues they face
this is literally the most relatable, best TSM post i have ever read! i made an account just so that i could comment on here telling you how much i loved it and how glad i am you wrote this. i too have been through some tough times and i don’t understand how someone could be your “sister” one day and then completely cut you out. a house with true sisterhood should never turn on any of its current or former members… regardless of the circumstances of their disaffiliation. fortunately, there are a few girls who know the true meaning of sisterhood and have stuck by me regardless of my letters.
anyone out there who reads my comment- please think about this before treating one of your former sisters poorly. i know each sorority’s individual values and mission statements differ slightly, but i don’t think any of them would condone behaving in a way that would hurt another girl’s feelings. consider this too for any girl, even ones that never were affiliated. try to go out of your way to treat others well! you never know the inner battles someone is fighting so always be a source of support, not more stress.
Very few therapists nowadays use the Freudian method.
There are many different types of therapists, and while it’s true that some forms of therapy work better for certain people, for the most part any therapy at all is beneficial.
Plus, a lot of times the cost isn’t an issue because a lot of health insurance companies will help a lot in paying for it. Even if you don’t have that sort of insurance coverage, there’s a lot of organizations that help people get access to free or low-cost therapy! (My college offers it for free to any students who want it)
I completely agree! Anyone and everyone could (and should) benefit from therapy! Even if there’s nothing “wrong” in your life, there are ALWAYS ways to improve and be better. Therapy can definitely help you do this, and I don’t see why anyone wouldn’t want such a resource (even if they have many others) for self-improvement. I hope a lot of people will see your post, and hopefully some will consider beginning therapy themselves. It’s such a great thing and I hope more people will begin to see it that way, instead of with negative stigmas or thinking it’s only for “certain people” with “problems.”
Thanks for writing this!
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I don’t think anyone’s trying to say that you should still treat them completely like a sister, but the problem arises when people begin to treat them TOTALLY differently. what you said about maintaining close relationships is great… even any kind of friendly relationship at all is good. however, cutting out a former member completely, ignoring/avoiding her, talking about her behind her back, or worse actually going out of your way to be mean to her are not okay.
unfortunately, that’s pretty often how these situations are handled. although i understand sometimes well-meaning girls behave that way because they feel uncomfortable or awkward about it, a lot of girls tend to react with hate or unkindness towards a former member, even if they don’t know the details of why she is no longer affiliated. I appreciate that the author of this article is calling attention to this, because i think the real reason this happens is because that’s the culture in sororities. since sister = love and not sister = the opposite of sister and hate = the opposite of love, sometimes it translates into hating girls that are not sisters. a big part of it also comes from gossip and rumors circulating because most people don’t know the true details of the situation. also, sometimes there’s peer pressure to turn on a certain girl because your friends or especially older members are doing so and suggest (either overtly or subtly) that you do the same.
i hope that this post can at least make a small difference in improving some of those negative aspects of greek life culture. there’s so many things to love about sororities, and so many things these organizations should be proud of… it would be unfortunate to let the good things and accomplishments be overshadowed by some of the issues they face
i can totally relate to this! it’s so true, too often elections are popularity contests. it’s sad
this is literally the most relatable, best TSM post i have ever read! i made an account just so that i could comment on here telling you how much i loved it and how glad i am you wrote this. i too have been through some tough times and i don’t understand how someone could be your “sister” one day and then completely cut you out. a house with true sisterhood should never turn on any of its current or former members… regardless of the circumstances of their disaffiliation. fortunately, there are a few girls who know the true meaning of sisterhood and have stuck by me regardless of my letters.
anyone out there who reads my comment- please think about this before treating one of your former sisters poorly. i know each sorority’s individual values and mission statements differ slightly, but i don’t think any of them would condone behaving in a way that would hurt another girl’s feelings. consider this too for any girl, even ones that never were affiliated. try to go out of your way to treat others well! you never know the inner battles someone is fighting so always be a source of support, not more stress.