I am 60 years old and literally made an account just to let you know that this cultural attitude is “rape culture” Here’s the thing. Did the man whose trunks dropped grab them instantly and react in horror? No. There’s your answer. Since when is grabbing an ass in public ever appropriate? Since when is it appropriate as a “first move” in any flirting relationship? I can’t recall an age where I wouldn’t have been shocked at that. I’ve got LOTS of #metoo’s, but lo and behold, that’s not want of them. You’re clear that someone can withdraw consent at any time. You’re less clear on the idea that MEN should be the ones to know when they don’t have consent before THEY engage in inappropriate behavior. A young woman I’ve known since she was 4 is now dealing with sexual harassment of her 8 year old. Another 8 year old told this child a vulgar vulgar “joke”. By your standards, if she thought the boy was cute last week, how could he know not to behave in a sexually vulgar manner? Because It’s Not EVER Appropriate. That’s how. That is what we are fighting for. No more 8 year olds having to question themselves because of the culture of “boys will be boys”.
The “first move” is usually holding hands, not grabbing ass. Stop excusing this behavior.
I am 60 years old and literally made an account just to let you know that this cultural attitude is “rape culture” Here’s the thing. Did the man whose trunks dropped grab them instantly and react in horror? No. There’s your answer. Since when is grabbing an ass in public ever appropriate? Since when is it appropriate as a “first move” in any flirting relationship? I can’t recall an age where I wouldn’t have been shocked at that. I’ve got LOTS of #metoo’s, but lo and behold, that’s not want of them. You’re clear that someone can withdraw consent at any time. You’re less clear on the idea that MEN should be the ones to know when they don’t have consent before THEY engage in inappropriate behavior. A young woman I’ve known since she was 4 is now dealing with sexual harassment of her 8 year old. Another 8 year old told this child a vulgar vulgar “joke”. By your standards, if she thought the boy was cute last week, how could he know not to behave in a sexually vulgar manner? Because It’s Not EVER Appropriate. That’s how. That is what we are fighting for. No more 8 year olds having to question themselves because of the culture of “boys will be boys”.