I copypasted this in case you dont read my reply to another user
I agree that we don’t need to act like robots and not having to go through certain protocols before initiating contact…
BUT, we need to change what behaviours are acceptable. Reading comments on how some think touching someones butt is acceptable worries me. Touching someones butt can be very personal to many.
The problem here is that many (MANY) boys develop behaviours and actions that can be uncomfortable to women, but these boys (to be men) do not understand the problem because to them it is just the way they are..
We need to change what behaviours are acceptable. Boys and men need to understand that all forms of contact and all types of behaviour towards women is not right or acceptable.
For example, many men have no problem looking a women up and down, really giving them that intense (many times dirty) look. These men don’t go home and think that they did something wrong, they just did what they usually do when they see someone good looking and won’t reflect over their actions. That’s the problem with our society, that we just see it as normal behaviour. Noticing someone attractice isn’t a problem, the problem is what many think as acceptable actions.
We need to remember that flirting does not have to mean women are asking for IT (whatever IT is). When we think like that, than IT can become anything from grabbing someones ass to sticking it in. Are we still going to justify that she was asking for IT?
We need to remember that not everyone is strong willed, so forced sex isn’t always violent. A stubborn guy can force a women to have sex by talking her into it (usually happens with smooth talking and alot of close contact, kissing etc) Most of the time, she didn’t want to, but saying no is very hard for some.
Then there are those moments when women DO say no (sometimes repeatedly) without any effect, the man just goes on and this is because most women don’t feel strong enough to fight someone off. The man doing this sees the whole sex act as consensual, when in reality it is NOT consensual.
These are just a few examples on what many men have as normal behaviours and don’t think twice about, but what makes many women uncomfortable and scared.
It is important for men to understand what makes women uncomfortable so that we can learn what is appropriate and when something is unappropriate.
I agree that we don’t need to act like robots and not having to go through certain protocols before initiating contact…
BUT, we need to change what behaviours are acceptable. Reading comments on how some think touching someones butt is acceptable worries me. Touching someones butt can be very personal to many.
The problem here is that many (MANY) boys develop behaviours and actions that can be uncomfortable to women, but these boys (to be men) do not understand the problem because to them it is just the way they are..
We need to change what behaviours are acceptable. Boys and men need to understand that all forms of contact and all types of behaviour towards women is not right or acceptable.
For example, many men have no problem looking a women up and down, really giving them that intense (many times dirty) look. These men don’t go home and think that they did something wrong, they just did what they usually do when they see someone good looking and won’t reflect over their actions. That’s the problem with our society, that we just see it as normal behaviour. Noticing someone attractice isn’t a problem, the problem is what many think as acceptable actions.
We need to remember that flirting does not have to mean women are asking for IT (whatever IT is). When we think like that, than IT can become anything from grabbing someones ass to sticking it in. Are we still going to justify that she was asking for IT?
We need to remember that not everyone is strong willed, so forced sex isn’t always violent. A stubborn guy can force a women to have sex by talking her into it (usually happens with smooth talking and alot of close contact, kissing etc) Most of the time, she didn’t want to, but saying no is very hard for some.
These are just a few examples on what many men have as normal behaviours and don’t think twice about, but what makes many women uncomfortable and scared.
It is important for men to understand what makes women uncomfortable so that we can learn what is appropriate and when something is unappropriate.
I copypasted this in case you dont read my reply to another user
I agree that we don’t need to act like robots and not having to go through certain protocols before initiating contact…
BUT, we need to change what behaviours are acceptable. Reading comments on how some think touching someones butt is acceptable worries me. Touching someones butt can be very personal to many.
The problem here is that many (MANY) boys develop behaviours and actions that can be uncomfortable to women, but these boys (to be men) do not understand the problem because to them it is just the way they are..
We need to change what behaviours are acceptable. Boys and men need to understand that all forms of contact and all types of behaviour towards women is not right or acceptable.
For example, many men have no problem looking a women up and down, really giving them that intense (many times dirty) look. These men don’t go home and think that they did something wrong, they just did what they usually do when they see someone good looking and won’t reflect over their actions. That’s the problem with our society, that we just see it as normal behaviour. Noticing someone attractice isn’t a problem, the problem is what many think as acceptable actions.
We need to remember that flirting does not have to mean women are asking for IT (whatever IT is). When we think like that, than IT can become anything from grabbing someones ass to sticking it in. Are we still going to justify that she was asking for IT?
We need to remember that not everyone is strong willed, so forced sex isn’t always violent. A stubborn guy can force a women to have sex by talking her into it (usually happens with smooth talking and alot of close contact, kissing etc) Most of the time, she didn’t want to, but saying no is very hard for some.
Then there are those moments when women DO say no (sometimes repeatedly) without any effect, the man just goes on and this is because most women don’t feel strong enough to fight someone off. The man doing this sees the whole sex act as consensual, when in reality it is NOT consensual.
These are just a few examples on what many men have as normal behaviours and don’t think twice about, but what makes many women uncomfortable and scared.
It is important for men to understand what makes women uncomfortable so that we can learn what is appropriate and when something is unappropriate.
Read what I have written to the finish.
I agree that we don’t need to act like robots and not having to go through certain protocols before initiating contact…
BUT, we need to change what behaviours are acceptable. Reading comments on how some think touching someones butt is acceptable worries me. Touching someones butt can be very personal to many.
The problem here is that many (MANY) boys develop behaviours and actions that can be uncomfortable to women, but these boys (to be men) do not understand the problem because to them it is just the way they are..
We need to change what behaviours are acceptable. Boys and men need to understand that all forms of contact and all types of behaviour towards women is not right or acceptable.
For example, many men have no problem looking a women up and down, really giving them that intense (many times dirty) look. These men don’t go home and think that they did something wrong, they just did what they usually do when they see someone good looking and won’t reflect over their actions. That’s the problem with our society, that we just see it as normal behaviour. Noticing someone attractice isn’t a problem, the problem is what many think as acceptable actions.
We need to remember that flirting does not have to mean women are asking for IT (whatever IT is). When we think like that, than IT can become anything from grabbing someones ass to sticking it in. Are we still going to justify that she was asking for IT?
We need to remember that not everyone is strong willed, so forced sex isn’t always violent. A stubborn guy can force a women to have sex by talking her into it (usually happens with smooth talking and alot of close contact, kissing etc) Most of the time, she didn’t want to, but saying no is very hard for some.
These are just a few examples on what many men have as normal behaviours and don’t think twice about, but what makes many women uncomfortable and scared.
It is important for men to understand what makes women uncomfortable so that we can learn what is appropriate and when something is unappropriate.