Bottom line: quit looking it as a “us” vs “them” issue. I seriously doubt that you can honestly say that none of your friends have ever in their entire lives whistled at a girl as she walked by or said something obnoxious. It’s not like only crazy, mentally deranged hobos are doing it. Every type of guy does. My AP US History teacher (who has a daughter my age) used to tell me how great I smelled every time I went in for tutoring in the morning and would poke me in the sides like an adolescent boy. My old boss used to make incredibly explicit comments and invited me over to his house to skinny dip in his pool. I lost count of the number of times some frat guy I had never spoken to grabbed my ass. The dad of the family I used to babysit for would insist on driving me home and say the creepiest shit the whole ride ride, asking what I thought would happen if we were the same age. And none of this even compares to the comments I would get from the country club crop. This is how we get treated by everyone, homeless bums and supremely successful business men. So quit pointing fingers at everyone else, and asking us what the fuck we should expect. I expect better of men. For fucks sake, all of you need to start holding each other accountable.
Yes, your experiences getting hit on by prostitutes and trannys a few times (who were soliciting you to pay for their services, which is and should be expected of a SEX WORKER) is comparable to all of us who have been leered at and cat called by guys old enough to be our fathers and grandfathers since we were in middle school. While I know the statements I added on weren’t directly your point, I was trying to show you how that attitude is bullshit. It shoves the blame on us and absolves cat callers of any responsibility for their actions. You’re right, we might not experience the same overt, in-person cat calling at a tech convention, but those same guys are leading the charge in extreme online sexual harassment, reddit revenge porn, and things like the fappening, all of which are arguably much more invasive and demeaning. But what the fuck should we expect? We’re women who aren’t virgins expressing our opinions. We obviously have it coming.
“Look at what you’re wearing, what the fuck did you expect?”
“You were walking alone, what the fuck did you expect?”
“You’re pretty, what the fuck did you expect?”
As someone who has been catcalled by guys from every race, age, and social class (from the homeless to a douche driving a Maserati), I can say with confidence that cat calling is not exclusive to any demographic in particular. The problem isn’t any one group, it’s the fact that you’re still asking us “what the fuck did you expect?” I expect to be able to walk somewhere by myself without being bothered and degraded. Is that really too much to ask for?
Bottom line: quit looking it as a “us” vs “them” issue. I seriously doubt that you can honestly say that none of your friends have ever in their entire lives whistled at a girl as she walked by or said something obnoxious. It’s not like only crazy, mentally deranged hobos are doing it. Every type of guy does. My AP US History teacher (who has a daughter my age) used to tell me how great I smelled every time I went in for tutoring in the morning and would poke me in the sides like an adolescent boy. My old boss used to make incredibly explicit comments and invited me over to his house to skinny dip in his pool. I lost count of the number of times some frat guy I had never spoken to grabbed my ass. The dad of the family I used to babysit for would insist on driving me home and say the creepiest shit the whole ride ride, asking what I thought would happen if we were the same age. And none of this even compares to the comments I would get from the country club crop. This is how we get treated by everyone, homeless bums and supremely successful business men. So quit pointing fingers at everyone else, and asking us what the fuck we should expect. I expect better of men. For fucks sake, all of you need to start holding each other accountable.
Yes, your experiences getting hit on by prostitutes and trannys a few times (who were soliciting you to pay for their services, which is and should be expected of a SEX WORKER) is comparable to all of us who have been leered at and cat called by guys old enough to be our fathers and grandfathers since we were in middle school. While I know the statements I added on weren’t directly your point, I was trying to show you how that attitude is bullshit. It shoves the blame on us and absolves cat callers of any responsibility for their actions. You’re right, we might not experience the same overt, in-person cat calling at a tech convention, but those same guys are leading the charge in extreme online sexual harassment, reddit revenge porn, and things like the fappening, all of which are arguably much more invasive and demeaning. But what the fuck should we expect? We’re women who aren’t virgins expressing our opinions. We obviously have it coming.
“Look at what you’re wearing, what the fuck did you expect?”
“You were walking alone, what the fuck did you expect?”
“You’re pretty, what the fuck did you expect?”
As someone who has been catcalled by guys from every race, age, and social class (from the homeless to a douche driving a Maserati), I can say with confidence that cat calling is not exclusive to any demographic in particular. The problem isn’t any one group, it’s the fact that you’re still asking us “what the fuck did you expect?” I expect to be able to walk somewhere by myself without being bothered and degraded. Is that really too much to ask for?
Texas was one of the original states to secede from the union, I’d say it’s the south
Love it!
It’s called looking at the pink sailboats, darling. It’s not that hard
I think I’ve said this TSM verbatim on multiple occasions. Hilarious!
Same here girl! AOT
I definitely wore my green and white! AOT