I said no. Recently, I was having a fun night and feeling good, when my friend, who’s hooked up with many girls, similar to Matt, was going to walk me home, but I didn’t want the night to end; I decided to go back to his place. We talked, we kissed and things progressed. But when things got to the point of sex, in that moment, I knew it wasn’t something I wanted and I said no, not tonight, and continued kissing him until things slowed back down. He proceeded to tell me what a tease I was, and how much self-control I was asking of him. We’ve sort-of remained friends, but I remember the sort of feeling guilty and wishing I would have slept with him the next day, so I wouldn’t have heard those things. No one is to blame for anything. I don’t blame him; I sort of did lead him on, and he respected when I said no and didn’t ask again. But it’s just that this is the trend: you drink and you f*ck and you feel wrong or weird when you don’t; there are bigger issues here to our drunk hookup culture.
I am an Air Force ROTC Cadet and in a sorority, but know how much I admire you for your bold choice to sacrifice the sundresses and tailgates to attend USAFA. I have amazing “sisters” in my sorority, but the bond I have with my AF brothers and sisters, who I PT with at 6 am, is something way different. I can’t wait to serve with fellow future officers such as yourself. While I am proud throwing my Pi Phi angel wings in ABUs and Blues, I hope you are even more proud with that Academy ring on your finger. 😉
I said no. Recently, I was having a fun night and feeling good, when my friend, who’s hooked up with many girls, similar to Matt, was going to walk me home, but I didn’t want the night to end; I decided to go back to his place. We talked, we kissed and things progressed. But when things got to the point of sex, in that moment, I knew it wasn’t something I wanted and I said no, not tonight, and continued kissing him until things slowed back down. He proceeded to tell me what a tease I was, and how much self-control I was asking of him. We’ve sort-of remained friends, but I remember the sort of feeling guilty and wishing I would have slept with him the next day, so I wouldn’t have heard those things. No one is to blame for anything. I don’t blame him; I sort of did lead him on, and he respected when I said no and didn’t ask again. But it’s just that this is the trend: you drink and you f*ck and you feel wrong or weird when you don’t; there are bigger issues here to our drunk hookup culture.
I am an Air Force ROTC Cadet and in a sorority, but know how much I admire you for your bold choice to sacrifice the sundresses and tailgates to attend USAFA. I have amazing “sisters” in my sorority, but the bond I have with my AF brothers and sisters, who I PT with at 6 am, is something way different. I can’t wait to serve with fellow future officers such as yourself. While I am proud throwing my Pi Phi angel wings in ABUs and Blues, I hope you are even more proud with that Academy ring on your finger. 😉
Is it bad that I’m okay with less pay, as long as the guy is the one paying for dinner?
“43. Your family owns at least one pair of baby fatigues.” Not to mention the ones you wore in your 3rd grade school play…
All this is so true – grateful to be a military child!