That’s not how sex happens. Maybe for some people, but in the heat of the moment, most people don’t just stop and ask. If one person isn’t feeling the heat, it is their responsibility to take a step back. If a person doesn’t protest, it wasn’t rape because it wasn’t forced. I’m sorry if you’ve been through something where you’re not sure it was rape, or maybe you know it wasn’t rape but still feel bad about it. That sucks. But there is a reality to this situation. It is both partners responsibility to be straightforward, no matter who initiates it. Communication is key on both ends.
This is a myth. If a women says ‘No,’ it is rape. There have been times when I never said yes because they didn’t ask me, but it doesn’t matter, because they didn’t force me.
It’s not anybody’s job to ask first. If someone says, “Here have some water.” And you take it and drink it, did that person force you to drink the water because they didn’t ask if you wanted it? No. If you had said, “No I don’t want the water,” and then the other person poured it down your throat, then they forced you to drink it.
I think that this is an unfortunate situation, but this is not rape. Consensual means, “two people who are willing,” not “two people who want,” to have sex. Now if one person makes it clear to the other person that they do not want to have sex, then it is rape. Rape is forced sex. The key word here being “forced.” If two people are hanging out, he comes on to her, she doesn’t say no, she doesn’t resist, and then she turns around and says that he raped her, it wasn’t rape. And I hate judging situations because I know that people react differently to their experiences, but how was he supposed to know that she didn’t want to have sex? He didn’t force her. Rape is also coerced sex. When a woman repeatedly tells a man that she doesn’t want to have sex, but he keeps pushing until she gives in. It’s normal, for women especially, to feel dirty after a meaningless hookup because we require an emotional connection to validate the sex. And the above article describes a situation where two people who are inexperienced, get together and have meaningless sex. So for all of you out there who have had the sexual experience in the article above, you have a right to feel dirty and violated, because there was no emotional connection, but it wasn’t rape because he did not force you. By calling that situation “Rape” is an insult to people who have been actually raped.
That’s not how sex happens. Maybe for some people, but in the heat of the moment, most people don’t just stop and ask. If one person isn’t feeling the heat, it is their responsibility to take a step back. If a person doesn’t protest, it wasn’t rape because it wasn’t forced. I’m sorry if you’ve been through something where you’re not sure it was rape, or maybe you know it wasn’t rape but still feel bad about it. That sucks. But there is a reality to this situation. It is both partners responsibility to be straightforward, no matter who initiates it. Communication is key on both ends.
Yes but non verbal revoking of consent is not as easily interpreted as non verbal consent.
This is a myth. If a women says ‘No,’ it is rape. There have been times when I never said yes because they didn’t ask me, but it doesn’t matter, because they didn’t force me.
It’s not anybody’s job to ask first. If someone says, “Here have some water.” And you take it and drink it, did that person force you to drink the water because they didn’t ask if you wanted it? No. If you had said, “No I don’t want the water,” and then the other person poured it down your throat, then they forced you to drink it.
I think that this is an unfortunate situation, but this is not rape. Consensual means, “two people who are willing,” not “two people who want,” to have sex. Now if one person makes it clear to the other person that they do not want to have sex, then it is rape. Rape is forced sex. The key word here being “forced.” If two people are hanging out, he comes on to her, she doesn’t say no, she doesn’t resist, and then she turns around and says that he raped her, it wasn’t rape. And I hate judging situations because I know that people react differently to their experiences, but how was he supposed to know that she didn’t want to have sex? He didn’t force her. Rape is also coerced sex. When a woman repeatedly tells a man that she doesn’t want to have sex, but he keeps pushing until she gives in. It’s normal, for women especially, to feel dirty after a meaningless hookup because we require an emotional connection to validate the sex. And the above article describes a situation where two people who are inexperienced, get together and have meaningless sex. So for all of you out there who have had the sexual experience in the article above, you have a right to feel dirty and violated, because there was no emotional connection, but it wasn’t rape because he did not force you. By calling that situation “Rape” is an insult to people who have been actually raped.