If you believe consent can be non-verbal, can the revoking of consent also be non-verbal? Personally, I would view a sexual partner just laying there praying for it to be over as somebody who really did not want to have sex. Many young men who have done this aren’t rapist, but they are uneducated. If a guy would just ask, “Do you want to go any further?” I believe there would not be so many young women who are put in this position.
I know it’s easy to tell a random stranger that what the experienced wasn’t raped, but if your sister, best friend, or future daughter told you this story, could you tell her that she wasn’t taken advantage of? Could you tell them “I know you didn’t want to seem like a tease, but you really should have said something.”
It’s so sad to see so many men and boys acting that they are entitled to your body. Where are the gentlemen they all claim to be? A gentleman would ask for your consent. Trust me, they know when you don’t really want it. No one can ever say you “owe” them sex, it’s your decision. As a woman , you can always say no. I’ve been in this situation, where it is so hard to find your voice and it’s better to “just let it happen.” We don’t want to say “rape” because we know we could ruin somebody’s life. But this “gray area” is still an act of violation. It hurts women mentally and emotionally. We are never the same after. To all the ladies who have been through this, it’s not your fault. I’m so sorry that this happened to you.
This hurts my heart to hear women honestly say this. As a woman, we have the right to say stop at any point. No one has control over our body’s but us. If a women never says “Yes, let’s have sex” that is by law rape. And even if you never want to cry wolf, you still feel the shame and violation. The worst thing you can ever say is “you should have said no.” Matt could have easily said, “Are you okay with this?” Rape is NEVER the victim’s fault.
Hypothetically, a woman was fine just kissing a man and passed out. She awakes the next morning naked and hurting from having non-consensual sex while she was asleep. But by your definition, that isn’t rape?
If you believe consent can be non-verbal, can the revoking of consent also be non-verbal? Personally, I would view a sexual partner just laying there praying for it to be over as somebody who really did not want to have sex. Many young men who have done this aren’t rapist, but they are uneducated. If a guy would just ask, “Do you want to go any further?” I believe there would not be so many young women who are put in this position.
I know it’s easy to tell a random stranger that what the experienced wasn’t raped, but if your sister, best friend, or future daughter told you this story, could you tell her that she wasn’t taken advantage of? Could you tell them “I know you didn’t want to seem like a tease, but you really should have said something.”
It’s so sad to see so many men and boys acting that they are entitled to your body. Where are the gentlemen they all claim to be? A gentleman would ask for your consent. Trust me, they know when you don’t really want it. No one can ever say you “owe” them sex, it’s your decision. As a woman , you can always say no. I’ve been in this situation, where it is so hard to find your voice and it’s better to “just let it happen.” We don’t want to say “rape” because we know we could ruin somebody’s life. But this “gray area” is still an act of violation. It hurts women mentally and emotionally. We are never the same after. To all the ladies who have been through this, it’s not your fault. I’m so sorry that this happened to you.
This hurts my heart to hear women honestly say this. As a woman, we have the right to say stop at any point. No one has control over our body’s but us. If a women never says “Yes, let’s have sex” that is by law rape. And even if you never want to cry wolf, you still feel the shame and violation. The worst thing you can ever say is “you should have said no.” Matt could have easily said, “Are you okay with this?” Rape is NEVER the victim’s fault.
Hypothetically, a woman was fine just kissing a man and passed out. She awakes the next morning naked and hurting from having non-consensual sex while she was asleep. But by your definition, that isn’t rape?