I feel like what you should be campaigning for here is for girls to know that they can have courage under any circumstances. To know that no matter what’s already happened or what position they find themselves in, they can always say no. Most of us guys out here wouldn’t want to have sex with you if we knew it wasn’t going to be enjoyable for you as well.
But if you go through the entire process: flirting, going to his room, having a heart-to-heart, making out with him, getting in bed, and then having sex with him, all without EVER saying you are uncomfortable or telling him to stop, then that IS consensual.
I agree that this story plays out frequently, and I hate that it does, but it’s not a rape grey area. It’s not rape at all. If something’s happening that you want to stop, then you have to say something. Men, believe it or not, cannot read your mind. How was Matt supposed to know you didn’t want to go through with this?
I feel like what you should be campaigning for here is for girls to know that they can have courage under any circumstances. To know that no matter what’s already happened or what position they find themselves in, they can always say no. Most of us guys out here wouldn’t want to have sex with you if we knew it wasn’t going to be enjoyable for you as well.
But if you go through the entire process: flirting, going to his room, having a heart-to-heart, making out with him, getting in bed, and then having sex with him, all without EVER saying you are uncomfortable or telling him to stop, then that IS consensual.
I agree that this story plays out frequently, and I hate that it does, but it’s not a rape grey area. It’s not rape at all. If something’s happening that you want to stop, then you have to say something. Men, believe it or not, cannot read your mind. How was Matt supposed to know you didn’t want to go through with this?