The problem is that you’re putting the onus of asking on the guy. You are right in saying that flirting, making out, getting in bed, etc. is not consent. But, if you don’t give any indication that this isn’t what you want, it’s kind of hard for a guy to know what you are thinking. From my female friends, asking girls if they want to have sex as opposed to intuitively making a move is seen as a turn off.
In a perfect world we would all know what someone else is thinking but as someone else pointed out, there’s not lawyers with consent forms ready to pop up whenever two people are getting intimate.
The problem is that you’re putting the onus of asking on the guy. You are right in saying that flirting, making out, getting in bed, etc. is not consent. But, if you don’t give any indication that this isn’t what you want, it’s kind of hard for a guy to know what you are thinking. From my female friends, asking girls if they want to have sex as opposed to intuitively making a move is seen as a turn off.
In a perfect world we would all know what someone else is thinking but as someone else pointed out, there’s not lawyers with consent forms ready to pop up whenever two people are getting intimate.