As a brother, boyfriend, and a gentleman, this issue has had me conflicted with myself as a man, and a brother and alumni of my fraternity. I’ve seen women “cry-wolf” and often gotten angry, thinking how real a possibility it would be that this could sink myself, my brothers, or my fraternity as a whole. but i’ve also heard my sister, girlfriend, and female friends relate experiences where they felt they had sex unconsensually. This is probably the fairest article i’ve seen describing it. I’m sorry you and others who commented had to experience that, and i’m grateful that your level-headed enough to see him not as the villain. there is a middle ground between rape and consensual sex, and that’s something both men and women need to realize.
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As a brother, boyfriend, and a gentleman, this issue has had me conflicted with myself as a man, and a brother and alumni of my fraternity. I’ve seen women “cry-wolf” and often gotten angry, thinking how real a possibility it would be that this could sink myself, my brothers, or my fraternity as a whole. but i’ve also heard my sister, girlfriend, and female friends relate experiences where they felt they had sex unconsensually. This is probably the fairest article i’ve seen describing it. I’m sorry you and others who commented had to experience that, and i’m grateful that your level-headed enough to see him not as the villain. there is a middle ground between rape and consensual sex, and that’s something both men and women need to realize.