But of course I did, and of course I saw that she was Hispanic. That’s why no where in my article did I attack her ethnicity, or connect her ethnicity to her wealth. I said that millions of people (minorities especially) do not/did not get the opportunities that her parents might have gotten. If you read my response critically, I stated that people who have worked just as hard as her parents and “maybe 40X harder” STILL and HAVE NOT gained such monetary wealth.
I never, ever, ever in my statement said that her parents did not, or that their wealth was handed to them. Of course they struggled, that isn’t the point.
I think you might be confusing prevention and protection. There’s hundreds of things that women can do to physically lower the rate of sexual assault, sure. Consider this analogy: I can protect myself from the rain but I can’t prevent it from happening. The same applies to rape (albeit, men aren’t some unconquerable phenomenon like rain, but unfortunately rape is a consequence of the misogynistic and patriarchal society). As a female you can try to implement any kind of ideology or use any kind of equipment that protects you from assault. But that’s not problem. The problem lies with educating the people doing the rapes, not the victims.
Your article does nothing of the sort. It still, as I have said ad nauseam, tells what women what they should do to prevent rape; but the majority of women aren’t raping women (although it does happen, and that needs to stop too). What would’ve been a better article is educating the TSM audience and saying “hey! we should tell our fathers, sons, mothers, and daughters, and everyone we love that no means no.”
I didn’t miss any point, you just don’t get it. Why do we need to teach WOMEN how not to perpetuate rape culture, when they are the majority victim (men can get sexually assaulted/raped too)? When the violence is being enacted towards them? It’s like asking people to stop getting murdered. Do you see how that doesn’t make sense? Who would you educate in this situation? The murderer or the victim? Think real hard buddy.
Your advice is the epitome of rape culture, no matter how you tried to shield it as innocent advice. You’re again, clear as day, putting the responsibility on women by asking them to stop “playing hard to get” because it confuses men. Fuck that. The problem lies not within women, but with men and their perceived entitlement to woman’s body. More than that, it’s a play on power (as someone brilliantly pointed out earlier).
If you honestly, honestly, don’t get that, then I will say a thousand prayers for you and hope you learn to pick-up a few books on this topic before you post another ignorant, and incredibly damaging article on something as terrible as rape.
^I can’t believe that this has so many downvotes. This whole article is what’s wrong with rape culture. It doesn’t matter the situation, people always have to put the ultimate responsibility on woman.
“Well, what was she wearing?”–it doesn’t matter if she’s wearing a potato sack or bathing suite; her body is not an invitation for unwanted-sex.
“Did she talk him?”–and if she did? How does her voice warrant intrusive, sexual violence
“Was she flirty?”—flirtation does not equal rape.
“Did they sleep together before?”–just because you borrowed someone’s car once before, doesn’t mean you can take it whenever you want.
“Was she drunk?” If she’s drunk, that an even bigger reason NOT to have sex with her.
“Did she reallly say no?” Why IS HER SAYING NO so so so hard to believe?
How bout we teach men not to rape. How about, the first time a woman says no, it stops there. There should be no time for the guy to say “well, she must be playing mind games, I’m just going to ignore”.
NO.
Even if the girl wants it, and she says no, IT SHOULD STOP THERE. It’s her body, and it’s her decision. She’s the one loosing out on satisfying her need. But it men need to learn that NO is NO.
And all this BS about it not being your money, but your parents is just that, BS. Because its yours by birth and association. And how foolish would your parents be not to give you a slice of their wealth? How do you think generational wealth is built? Money is passed from mother to daughter and from father to son. Please.
I take it you didn’t spend at least two minutes of reflection or critical thinking before you posted this article for the entire world to see.
“I’m rich why should I be ashamed of that?”
Let me explain: Do you know that the distribution of wealth in this country is extremely lop-sided? Do you know that between 1963 and 2013, those with income in the middle and top percentile saw their wealth double and quadruple in value, while those in the bottom actually sank into a deficit? And that people in the top 1% control roughly 48-50% of the shared global wealth?
(read: http://datatools.urban.org/Features/wealth-inequality-charts/, and http://fortune.com/2014/10/31/inequality-wealth-income-us/)
“I’m rich why should I be ashamed of that?”
Did you sit and think about how that kind of unequal-wealth distribution came about? That in America, in particular, racist policies were implemented so that minorities could not climb the socio-economic ladder (read: http://www.theatlantic.com/features/archive/2014/05/the-case-for-reparations/361631/), and that those who are poor, remained poor unless they worked 40X harder.
No, you didn’t. Because if you did, you would realize that the guilt you may feel about your parents wealth, or you being wealthy does not stem from mere jealousy. It stems from vast and rampant inequality. It is because those who have worked hard, maybe 40X harder then your parents have yet, and still not achieved the monetary gain your parents have–and let me emphasize that it isn’t because they didn’t work hard enough.
This is article is not about you seeking sympathy for being labeled as “stuck up” or “lazy”, it’s really about you not checking your privilege and realizing that you have been blessed, and that your parents have achieved their success, not just because they themselves worked hard (which I’m sure they did), but they had opportunities that millions of people did not.
“I’m rich why should I be ashamed of that?”
Would you go to the poorest counties in the nation and preach the garbage you have written here? Would you go to south-side Chicago, or San Bernardino and ask them to sympathize with you on this? If your only issue in life is trying to prove to people that you’re not lazy or not stuck up or that you have backbone, you realize that this ABSOLUTELY does not compared to the trauma, violence, inequity, injustice, poverty that millions of people have to endure every. single. day.
I’m glad you wrote this article, and I hope that you take some time to really reflect on what you write on the internet. I hope that the next time you decide to publish an article on wealth and perception, that you take great, great, care in critically analyzing what you are saying and/or writing. Because this entire article makes you sound so jaded, immature, and frankly un-intelligent. It also does the opposite of what you wanted it to and makes you look very lazy, because you couldn’t spend two minutes looking up “income-equality” before you hit send. But hey, how dumb of me to expect NYT quality article from a website called “totalysororitymove.com”. I did, however, expect more from a UT student.
But of course I did, and of course I saw that she was Hispanic. That’s why no where in my article did I attack her ethnicity, or connect her ethnicity to her wealth. I said that millions of people (minorities especially) do not/did not get the opportunities that her parents might have gotten. If you read my response critically, I stated that people who have worked just as hard as her parents and “maybe 40X harder” STILL and HAVE NOT gained such monetary wealth.
I never, ever, ever in my statement said that her parents did not, or that their wealth was handed to them. Of course they struggled, that isn’t the point.
Please, please read carefully.
I think you might be confusing prevention and protection. There’s hundreds of things that women can do to physically lower the rate of sexual assault, sure. Consider this analogy: I can protect myself from the rain but I can’t prevent it from happening. The same applies to rape (albeit, men aren’t some unconquerable phenomenon like rain, but unfortunately rape is a consequence of the misogynistic and patriarchal society). As a female you can try to implement any kind of ideology or use any kind of equipment that protects you from assault. But that’s not problem. The problem lies with educating the people doing the rapes, not the victims.
Your article does nothing of the sort. It still, as I have said ad nauseam, tells what women what they should do to prevent rape; but the majority of women aren’t raping women (although it does happen, and that needs to stop too). What would’ve been a better article is educating the TSM audience and saying “hey! we should tell our fathers, sons, mothers, and daughters, and everyone we love that no means no.”
LOL!
I didn’t miss any point, you just don’t get it. Why do we need to teach WOMEN how not to perpetuate rape culture, when they are the majority victim (men can get sexually assaulted/raped too)? When the violence is being enacted towards them? It’s like asking people to stop getting murdered. Do you see how that doesn’t make sense? Who would you educate in this situation? The murderer or the victim? Think real hard buddy.
Your advice is the epitome of rape culture, no matter how you tried to shield it as innocent advice. You’re again, clear as day, putting the responsibility on women by asking them to stop “playing hard to get” because it confuses men. Fuck that. The problem lies not within women, but with men and their perceived entitlement to woman’s body. More than that, it’s a play on power (as someone brilliantly pointed out earlier).
If you honestly, honestly, don’t get that, then I will say a thousand prayers for you and hope you learn to pick-up a few books on this topic before you post another ignorant, and incredibly damaging article on something as terrible as rape.
^I can’t believe that this has so many downvotes. This whole article is what’s wrong with rape culture. It doesn’t matter the situation, people always have to put the ultimate responsibility on woman.
“Well, what was she wearing?”–it doesn’t matter if she’s wearing a potato sack or bathing suite; her body is not an invitation for unwanted-sex.
“Did she talk him?”–and if she did? How does her voice warrant intrusive, sexual violence
“Was she flirty?”—flirtation does not equal rape.
“Did they sleep together before?”–just because you borrowed someone’s car once before, doesn’t mean you can take it whenever you want.
“Was she drunk?” If she’s drunk, that an even bigger reason NOT to have sex with her.
“Did she reallly say no?” Why IS HER SAYING NO so so so hard to believe?
How bout we teach men not to rape. How about, the first time a woman says no, it stops there. There should be no time for the guy to say “well, she must be playing mind games, I’m just going to ignore”.
NO.
Even if the girl wants it, and she says no, IT SHOULD STOP THERE. It’s her body, and it’s her decision. She’s the one loosing out on satisfying her need. But it men need to learn that NO is NO.
And all this BS about it not being your money, but your parents is just that, BS. Because its yours by birth and association. And how foolish would your parents be not to give you a slice of their wealth? How do you think generational wealth is built? Money is passed from mother to daughter and from father to son. Please.
Wow.
I take it you didn’t spend at least two minutes of reflection or critical thinking before you posted this article for the entire world to see.
“I’m rich why should I be ashamed of that?”
Let me explain: Do you know that the distribution of wealth in this country is extremely lop-sided? Do you know that between 1963 and 2013, those with income in the middle and top percentile saw their wealth double and quadruple in value, while those in the bottom actually sank into a deficit? And that people in the top 1% control roughly 48-50% of the shared global wealth?
(read:
http://datatools.urban.org/Features/wealth-inequality-charts/, and http://fortune.com/2014/10/31/inequality-wealth-income-us/)
“I’m rich why should I be ashamed of that?”
Did you sit and think about how that kind of unequal-wealth distribution came about? That in America, in particular, racist policies were implemented so that minorities could not climb the socio-economic ladder (read: http://www.theatlantic.com/features/archive/2014/05/the-case-for-reparations/361631/), and that those who are poor, remained poor unless they worked 40X harder.
No, you didn’t. Because if you did, you would realize that the guilt you may feel about your parents wealth, or you being wealthy does not stem from mere jealousy. It stems from vast and rampant inequality. It is because those who have worked hard, maybe 40X harder then your parents have yet, and still not achieved the monetary gain your parents have–and let me emphasize that it isn’t because they didn’t work hard enough.
This is article is not about you seeking sympathy for being labeled as “stuck up” or “lazy”, it’s really about you not checking your privilege and realizing that you have been blessed, and that your parents have achieved their success, not just because they themselves worked hard (which I’m sure they did), but they had opportunities that millions of people did not.
“I’m rich why should I be ashamed of that?”
Would you go to the poorest counties in the nation and preach the garbage you have written here? Would you go to south-side Chicago, or San Bernardino and ask them to sympathize with you on this? If your only issue in life is trying to prove to people that you’re not lazy or not stuck up or that you have backbone, you realize that this ABSOLUTELY does not compared to the trauma, violence, inequity, injustice, poverty that millions of people have to endure every. single. day.
I’m glad you wrote this article, and I hope that you take some time to really reflect on what you write on the internet. I hope that the next time you decide to publish an article on wealth and perception, that you take great, great, care in critically analyzing what you are saying and/or writing. Because this entire article makes you sound so jaded, immature, and frankly un-intelligent. It also does the opposite of what you wanted it to and makes you look very lazy, because you couldn’t spend two minutes looking up “income-equality” before you hit send. But hey, how dumb of me to expect NYT quality article from a website called “totalysororitymove.com”. I did, however, expect more from a UT student.