I totally get the article, I just think that the point should be that not everyone is beautiful to everybody else. Beauty is about perception more than anything, especially when you throw in different cultures and their own standards of beauty, because even blonde haired, blue eyed Marissa can be “ugly” to someone, believe it or not. But are we as a society completely over obsessed with the idea of it all in the first place? Definitely agree with you with a resounding yes on that one.
Love this article, because I think it shows how societal expectations have skewed everyone’s body image, thin, athletic, plus sized, and everything in between.
Also, keep in mind that there are just as many girls who aren’t the “skinniest” by societal standards or are more muscular or maybe have a few extra pounds are indeed told that they need to be skinny by other ppl in their lives. It’s not necessarily something ppl decide in their heads and get jealous of in other people. Some ppl really are pressured to be thin, unfortunately. I think all the body shaming from both ends of the spectrum needs to stop.
Of course there’s nothing wrong with being naturally thin, that’s just one of the many diverse body types someone can have and that’s perfectly fine. The problem comes in when “skinny” becomes the only body type that we’re taught we should have and when it is the only type that is celebrated. What LC did was a bit unnecessary I will say, as the word “skinny” alone isn’t so much the problem as the culture surrounding the attainment of “thin” and “skinny” equating to health is.
For everyone that keeps saying this is sarcasm, it’s sarcasm meant to poke fun at ppl who call out distasteful mixer themes. Yes, sometimes nongreeks criticism of the greek system gets ridiculous at times, but there is truth to the idea that some of our mixer themes are indeed offensive sometimes.
Couldn’t agree more. Yes, political correctness does go way too far sometimes. But articles likes these kind of add to the stereotypes about pan and ifc mocking people who stand against parts of greek culture that are done in poor taste and downplaying these things when they’re done. I’m a minority in a pan sorority and sorry to say, sometimes mixer themes are offensive, and we do need to do better.
And I also want to add that it is up to us as women to stop disrespecting each other with the slut/hoe/whore/bitch title. But that’s another sermon for another day. It’s these types of things that keep negative attitudes about women afloat, might I add. Bill Clinton knew what he was doing too but I don’t see anyone calling him a “disgusting slut.” Just sayin’.
There is no need for name calling, hun, be an adult. Let me rephrase this better: Of course it will never be okay for ANYONE to cheat/come between relationships. Ever. Relationships, especially marriage, should be one of the most respected bonds on this planet. But the fact of the matter is, people will make mistakes in/surrounding them because that is the simple nature of humans and how we behave and think. Sometimes we make small mistakes, and sometimes we get all caught up in our feelings and go after that person we know we don’t need to be involved with and make bigger mistakes. Are we to look down on them for the rest of their lives as if we too are perfect? I don’t think so. The article isn’t saying she was the victim in the Clinton infidelity situation (because she obviously knew what she was doing, I agree with you there), but that she was a victim of slut-shaming and cyberbullying later on. Are we to applaud and let those who come between relationships just get away with their actions without repercussions? Of course not. Do people who have gone through this like you have to treat that significant other like nothing ever happened and that their actions were okay? Definitely not. Are we to make them the bane of societal existence and always treat them with disrespect? Most definitely not. The issue, like any other social issue, is much larger than our own personal opinions and experiences.
You really, really, reeeeallly need to stop. It’s these same attitudes held BY WOMEN that perpetuate all the problems we still have to deal with in this world. She made her mistake, she paid for it (way more than Bill Clinton did btw, seeing as he went down as one of the greatest presidents in history despite all that) now let’s let this woman live her life and not be looked down upon for something she did when she was barely even an adult please. What the hell is this, 1950? Why in the world is it still okay to always place more blame on the woman as if we’re supposed to be the bastion of piety while “men are just men”? Do you not see how epically wrong this is? STAHP.
Actually, if anything TSM has gotten WORLDS better since it’s early days and is steadily improving. It’s trying hard to shake that overly conservative, fake classy, slut-shaming, anti-women’s rights image it used to have. Sure some of the articles/posts are still a little iffy at times but this is not the site it used to be. It’s good someone out there is having this conversation since, on a smaller scale, it’s something a lot of us twenty something young women can relate to, since we or our friends/sisters/female family members have been through it: A guy and girl get a little too crazy and he’s a hero but the girl’s some kind of whore treated like crap for as long as anyone can remember what they did. There’s something reeeeaaalll wrong with that and I’m glad TSM is shedding light on it. Keep at it TSM !
-Former TSM hater.
I LITERALLY found myself in the same situation when I was in the sixth grade. I can truly say that’s how my seven year battle with EDNOS began. The darkest corners of the internet and what you will find I tell you.
I totally get the article, I just think that the point should be that not everyone is beautiful to everybody else. Beauty is about perception more than anything, especially when you throw in different cultures and their own standards of beauty, because even blonde haired, blue eyed Marissa can be “ugly” to someone, believe it or not. But are we as a society completely over obsessed with the idea of it all in the first place? Definitely agree with you with a resounding yes on that one.
Love this article, because I think it shows how societal expectations have skewed everyone’s body image, thin, athletic, plus sized, and everything in between.
“Remind his girlfriend how lucky she is to have him, and most of all, beat her ass if she ever breaks his heart.” Favorite line. <3
Dear God this was one of the best things I’ve ever read.
Also, keep in mind that there are just as many girls who aren’t the “skinniest” by societal standards or are more muscular or maybe have a few extra pounds are indeed told that they need to be skinny by other ppl in their lives. It’s not necessarily something ppl decide in their heads and get jealous of in other people. Some ppl really are pressured to be thin, unfortunately. I think all the body shaming from both ends of the spectrum needs to stop.
Of course there’s nothing wrong with being naturally thin, that’s just one of the many diverse body types someone can have and that’s perfectly fine. The problem comes in when “skinny” becomes the only body type that we’re taught we should have and when it is the only type that is celebrated. What LC did was a bit unnecessary I will say, as the word “skinny” alone isn’t so much the problem as the culture surrounding the attainment of “thin” and “skinny” equating to health is.
Still waiting for you to escort yourself out.
TSM matched the picture with the article, not the author.
Finally, someone with a brain.
Tell that to your African American sisters.
For everyone that keeps saying this is sarcasm, it’s sarcasm meant to poke fun at ppl who call out distasteful mixer themes. Yes, sometimes nongreeks criticism of the greek system gets ridiculous at times, but there is truth to the idea that some of our mixer themes are indeed offensive sometimes.
Couldn’t agree more. Yes, political correctness does go way too far sometimes. But articles likes these kind of add to the stereotypes about pan and ifc mocking people who stand against parts of greek culture that are done in poor taste and downplaying these things when they’re done. I’m a minority in a pan sorority and sorry to say, sometimes mixer themes are offensive, and we do need to do better.
And I also want to add that it is up to us as women to stop disrespecting each other with the slut/hoe/whore/bitch title. But that’s another sermon for another day. It’s these types of things that keep negative attitudes about women afloat, might I add. Bill Clinton knew what he was doing too but I don’t see anyone calling him a “disgusting slut.” Just sayin’.
There is no need for name calling, hun, be an adult. Let me rephrase this better: Of course it will never be okay for ANYONE to cheat/come between relationships. Ever. Relationships, especially marriage, should be one of the most respected bonds on this planet. But the fact of the matter is, people will make mistakes in/surrounding them because that is the simple nature of humans and how we behave and think. Sometimes we make small mistakes, and sometimes we get all caught up in our feelings and go after that person we know we don’t need to be involved with and make bigger mistakes. Are we to look down on them for the rest of their lives as if we too are perfect? I don’t think so. The article isn’t saying she was the victim in the Clinton infidelity situation (because she obviously knew what she was doing, I agree with you there), but that she was a victim of slut-shaming and cyberbullying later on. Are we to applaud and let those who come between relationships just get away with their actions without repercussions? Of course not. Do people who have gone through this like you have to treat that significant other like nothing ever happened and that their actions were okay? Definitely not. Are we to make them the bane of societal existence and always treat them with disrespect? Most definitely not. The issue, like any other social issue, is much larger than our own personal opinions and experiences.
You really, really, reeeeallly need to stop. It’s these same attitudes held BY WOMEN that perpetuate all the problems we still have to deal with in this world. She made her mistake, she paid for it (way more than Bill Clinton did btw, seeing as he went down as one of the greatest presidents in history despite all that) now let’s let this woman live her life and not be looked down upon for something she did when she was barely even an adult please. What the hell is this, 1950? Why in the world is it still okay to always place more blame on the woman as if we’re supposed to be the bastion of piety while “men are just men”? Do you not see how epically wrong this is? STAHP.
Honey, have a seat.
Actually, if anything TSM has gotten WORLDS better since it’s early days and is steadily improving. It’s trying hard to shake that overly conservative, fake classy, slut-shaming, anti-women’s rights image it used to have. Sure some of the articles/posts are still a little iffy at times but this is not the site it used to be. It’s good someone out there is having this conversation since, on a smaller scale, it’s something a lot of us twenty something young women can relate to, since we or our friends/sisters/female family members have been through it: A guy and girl get a little too crazy and he’s a hero but the girl’s some kind of whore treated like crap for as long as anyone can remember what they did. There’s something reeeeaaalll wrong with that and I’m glad TSM is shedding light on it. Keep at it TSM !
-Former TSM hater.
Words cannot explain how much I loved this article.
I LITERALLY found myself in the same situation when I was in the sixth grade. I can truly say that’s how my seven year battle with EDNOS began. The darkest corners of the internet and what you will find I tell you.
That’s her point idiot. Editing created an unattainable standard of beauty for EVERYONE.