I just want to thank you so much for sharing this article, as it truly related to me and my past experiences. As a freshman last year, I couldn’t be more excited to participate in formal recruitment at my University. However, when I got to the third round and all of the houses, except 2 (with whom I had legitimately no connection or foreseeable future with) dropped me, I was truly devastated. More than that I was confused: How could these girls get a sense of who I truly was by 5 minute conversations based on generic small talk? How could they know I dedicated hours of my life to philanthropy, was a fiercely loyal friend, and worked my butt off every day in school just from asking me where I was from? As a relatively shy girl, putting myself on display for those sorority members to judge was something very hard for me to do and the overall recruitment experience left me legitimately heartbroken as well as with a nagging feeling of rejection, something that took me a very long time to shake. Now, I am a sophomore at a new University (the transfer was not related to recruitment) and will be going through formal recruitment beginning next weekend. My previous experience has led me to be very cautious about this process and I have high feelings of nerves that my previous heartbreak will happen to me again at my new school. Reading this column made me feel much better to know I am not alone in thinking how unjust the recruitment process is, and I am glad to know that I am not the only girl that suffered this devastating heartbreak. I am hoping that recruitment goes well this year and I will finally be able to have the sorority experience I so deeply crave. Thank you for shedding light on something so close to my heart and letting everyone know that they’re not alone if this happens to them.
I just want to thank you so much for sharing this article, as it truly related to me and my past experiences. As a freshman last year, I couldn’t be more excited to participate in formal recruitment at my University. However, when I got to the third round and all of the houses, except 2 (with whom I had legitimately no connection or foreseeable future with) dropped me, I was truly devastated. More than that I was confused: How could these girls get a sense of who I truly was by 5 minute conversations based on generic small talk? How could they know I dedicated hours of my life to philanthropy, was a fiercely loyal friend, and worked my butt off every day in school just from asking me where I was from? As a relatively shy girl, putting myself on display for those sorority members to judge was something very hard for me to do and the overall recruitment experience left me legitimately heartbroken as well as with a nagging feeling of rejection, something that took me a very long time to shake. Now, I am a sophomore at a new University (the transfer was not related to recruitment) and will be going through formal recruitment beginning next weekend. My previous experience has led me to be very cautious about this process and I have high feelings of nerves that my previous heartbreak will happen to me again at my new school. Reading this column made me feel much better to know I am not alone in thinking how unjust the recruitment process is, and I am glad to know that I am not the only girl that suffered this devastating heartbreak. I am hoping that recruitment goes well this year and I will finally be able to have the sorority experience I so deeply crave. Thank you for shedding light on something so close to my heart and letting everyone know that they’re not alone if this happens to them.