And sometimes the guy initiates it, and then becomes the fuckboy you were afraid he was going to turn in to.. You live and you learn I guess.. At least now I have a great boyfriend who treats me like he should (like a princess)
Your Mom can be your best friend. My Mom is my best friend. Your Mom just has to know how to balance being both your Mom and your best friend. It is possible to have that kind of relationship. 🙂
Applies to guys too. I have an ex who was very close to his mother, which I thought was great at first, but then he ended up breaking up with me because she didn’t like me. Once your mom starts controlling your life and you are unable to make your own decisions, it’s gone too far.
I don’t agree with anything in this article, and I feel kind of bad that you feel this way.
I had strict parents growing up, but once they sent me off to college, they trusted that they’d done a good enough job raising me to be a decent human being that my mom let go of the reigns a little bit and became one of my best friends.
I absolutely do not think a 14 year old and her mom should be “BFFs” because that is a time in life when kids need PARENTS. But after the initial part of raising you is over, they should be able to reap the benefits of helping to mold such an awesome human being.
I am one of the most independent (financially, academically, emotionally) college students that I know, and I call my mother every day. That’s not a bad thing. It means that I know she’s someone I can turn to with any- and everything!
I think people can have a close relationship with their mom’s without it being a pure, unhealthy friendship. As long as you still view and respect your mom as an authority figure, and she’s not afraid to say or do something that you disagree with, or to use her authority when necessary, then there’s nothing wrong with you being close to her! I think this article is more talking about mothers who are so afraid of upsetting their kids that they try to be a friend INSTEAD of an authority figure.
I agree with this soooo much! My mom and I are very close and overall have a great relationship even though we disagree at times, but she is definitely in the parent role and not the friend role. I can go to her for advice, but she’s not just going to say what I want to hear. She’s the voice of reason, but she also taught me how to think for myself and be independent, and I have so much respect for her as a parent.
I had a roommate my freshman year who talked to her mom for hours almost every day and couldn’t make a decision to save her life, and she’s the most annoying person I’ve ever met lol. And of course, she and her mommy are besties…
There are so many people in the world for us to be friends with, but out parents are generally the only people who can fill that authority figure/parent role. As long as we understand that, we can have a close relationship with our parents – they don’t have to be our best friends for us to have a good relationship with them.
I legitimately made an account just so I can comment on this. This is really stupid, to be honest. Just because you’re best friends with your mom doesn’t mean you’re dependent on them. I’ve found plenty of people dependent on their mothers and can’t make decisions without them and they fight all the time. Yes, being too dependent is a problem; however, having a good relationship with your mother doesn’t mean you’re too dependent or that the mom is living through their child. This is all really judgemental. My mom and I aren’t best friends. Our relationship is hardly that strong, so I’m not defending myself. This is just really the dumbest article I’ve ever come across.
El oh el. This sounds like a case of the kid being rebellious and thinking she can do whatever she wants because she’s a know-it-all, and her dad calling her out on it like a good parent because he wanted to stop her from going down the wrong path (which btw is every parent’s right and duty). But instead of thinking maybe, just maybe, she could be doing the wrong thing, she blames her dad for “oppressing” her and cuts him out of her life. What ever happened to fucking respect? People are supposed to respect their parents by default, whether they agree with their parents or not. Sounds like her dad isn’t perfect, but she’s definitely not perfect either.
Honestly some of this was a bit harsh (and I agree with other commenters that baking cakes and cleaning isn’t a mandatory part of the wife’s duties), but I do think you have some good points. Women tend to express themselves and communicate differently than women, and no one is perfect (including OP and both her parents). Father’s tend to be the most overly criticized and under appreciated family members, and just because OP didn’t learn to get along with her dad doesn’t mean he’s the villain. He sounds like a normal, realistic human being, and probably deserves a little more respect than he’s getting from his daughter. Also ALL parents argue sometimes, that’s nothing unusual at all. It does sound like OP has been living in a bit of a fantasy world, and I hope she can repair her relationship with her father. I bet he is genuinely sad that his own daughter feels this way and would be heartbroken if he read this article 🙁
To each their own. I personally love having my mom as one of my best friends and I love that I can trust her with anything, and she can trust me the same. It might be due to her being younger, she had me when she was 23 and was a single mom for a little while. While not everyone needs as close of a relationship with their mom, I don’t think you need to say that people shouldn’t be so close with their moms because I wouldn’t trade this relationship for the world!
How much did it cost you? I called the local hair salon most of my friends go to and they said $60 for each “sandwich” and they typically do around 17-18… That seems insanely pricey
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And sometimes the guy initiates it, and then becomes the fuckboy you were afraid he was going to turn in to.. You live and you learn I guess.. At least now I have a great boyfriend who treats me like he should (like a princess)
Your Mom can be your best friend. My Mom is my best friend. Your Mom just has to know how to balance being both your Mom and your best friend. It is possible to have that kind of relationship. 🙂
If you’re dating a guy who’s not a fuckboy, the “define the relationship” talk shouldn’t be a big deal. It’s part of *being in a relationship*
Applies to guys too. I have an ex who was very close to his mother, which I thought was great at first, but then he ended up breaking up with me because she didn’t like me. Once your mom starts controlling your life and you are unable to make your own decisions, it’s gone too far.
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I don’t agree with anything in this article, and I feel kind of bad that you feel this way.
I had strict parents growing up, but once they sent me off to college, they trusted that they’d done a good enough job raising me to be a decent human being that my mom let go of the reigns a little bit and became one of my best friends.
I absolutely do not think a 14 year old and her mom should be “BFFs” because that is a time in life when kids need PARENTS. But after the initial part of raising you is over, they should be able to reap the benefits of helping to mold such an awesome human being.
I am one of the most independent (financially, academically, emotionally) college students that I know, and I call my mother every day. That’s not a bad thing. It means that I know she’s someone I can turn to with any- and everything!
I think people can have a close relationship with their mom’s without it being a pure, unhealthy friendship. As long as you still view and respect your mom as an authority figure, and she’s not afraid to say or do something that you disagree with, or to use her authority when necessary, then there’s nothing wrong with you being close to her! I think this article is more talking about mothers who are so afraid of upsetting their kids that they try to be a friend INSTEAD of an authority figure.
I agree with this soooo much! My mom and I are very close and overall have a great relationship even though we disagree at times, but she is definitely in the parent role and not the friend role. I can go to her for advice, but she’s not just going to say what I want to hear. She’s the voice of reason, but she also taught me how to think for myself and be independent, and I have so much respect for her as a parent.
I had a roommate my freshman year who talked to her mom for hours almost every day and couldn’t make a decision to save her life, and she’s the most annoying person I’ve ever met lol. And of course, she and her mommy are besties…
There are so many people in the world for us to be friends with, but out parents are generally the only people who can fill that authority figure/parent role. As long as we understand that, we can have a close relationship with our parents – they don’t have to be our best friends for us to have a good relationship with them.
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I legitimately made an account just so I can comment on this. This is really stupid, to be honest. Just because you’re best friends with your mom doesn’t mean you’re dependent on them. I’ve found plenty of people dependent on their mothers and can’t make decisions without them and they fight all the time. Yes, being too dependent is a problem; however, having a good relationship with your mother doesn’t mean you’re too dependent or that the mom is living through their child. This is all really judgemental. My mom and I aren’t best friends. Our relationship is hardly that strong, so I’m not defending myself. This is just really the dumbest article I’ve ever come across.
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El oh el. This sounds like a case of the kid being rebellious and thinking she can do whatever she wants because she’s a know-it-all, and her dad calling her out on it like a good parent because he wanted to stop her from going down the wrong path (which btw is every parent’s right and duty). But instead of thinking maybe, just maybe, she could be doing the wrong thing, she blames her dad for “oppressing” her and cuts him out of her life. What ever happened to fucking respect? People are supposed to respect their parents by default, whether they agree with their parents or not. Sounds like her dad isn’t perfect, but she’s definitely not perfect either.
Honestly some of this was a bit harsh (and I agree with other commenters that baking cakes and cleaning isn’t a mandatory part of the wife’s duties), but I do think you have some good points. Women tend to express themselves and communicate differently than women, and no one is perfect (including OP and both her parents). Father’s tend to be the most overly criticized and under appreciated family members, and just because OP didn’t learn to get along with her dad doesn’t mean he’s the villain. He sounds like a normal, realistic human being, and probably deserves a little more respect than he’s getting from his daughter. Also ALL parents argue sometimes, that’s nothing unusual at all. It does sound like OP has been living in a bit of a fantasy world, and I hope she can repair her relationship with her father. I bet he is genuinely sad that his own daughter feels this way and would be heartbroken if he read this article 🙁
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To each their own. I personally love having my mom as one of my best friends and I love that I can trust her with anything, and she can trust me the same. It might be due to her being younger, she had me when she was 23 and was a single mom for a little while. While not everyone needs as close of a relationship with their mom, I don’t think you need to say that people shouldn’t be so close with their moms because I wouldn’t trade this relationship for the world!
How much did it cost you? I called the local hair salon most of my friends go to and they said $60 for each “sandwich” and they typically do around 17-18… That seems insanely pricey