seriously what the fuck is wrong with you????????? she had 20+ girls agreeing with her. Personally I SO glad my actual dad left the home when I was really young. Nothing my mom did was ever right. My mother is a typical old school house wife (even though she has a law degree). When my siblings and I were little she did all of those things and my step dad treated her like a freakin queen. Once we all were in kindergarten or older she went back to work. They took turns cooking dinner and doing all that makes a family happy. I will be a Bitch here and since I stopped reading your nonsense half way that you aren’t even in a sorority and you are just some bitter bitch. Get it over yourself. my actual dad is a bad guy but my step dad is awesome yet I still have some “daddy issues” or issues with a self absorbed man who never gave a shit but always played child support. Is hope to god you aren’t part of my panhel family!!!
This hits me so deep and I’m honestly so thankful someone wrote this. I literally had to run out of my dads house and drive home in tears this morning (Happy Fathers Day, anyone?) because he was being so verbally abusive. The whole ride back I kept thinking about this article and it gave me so much peace to know I wasn’t alone!
a great dad isn’t one who provides money for the family, it’s one who supports his children emotionally. her father left her with anxiety issues because of the way he treated her, so obviously he didn’t support her emotionally. I think she’s completely justified in feeling a disconnect between her and her father. it doesn’t matter how much money they provide or how much time they spend working, a good father is one who loves and cares for his children.
I’m sorry but cleaning the house and baking birthday cakes are what “good wives” do? Please take your sexist, archaic way of thinking and realize it’s not 1955 anymore. She is allowed to feel this way about her dad
Srattttybiotch, I just looked him up and he was convicted of a weapons violation, not murder. He could have killed someone, he just hasn’t been caught. Not every murder results in finding the guy who did it.
Basically, this is a disrespectful, entitled American princess, writing an article about how she hates her dad and blames him for a lot of her problems.
Did he leave when she was born? No, he was an involved father who supported his family.
Did he beat her? No.
Was he a pedophile? No.
So what is her problem with him exactly? Below is the text with my notes.
“My dad kind of sucks. I guess I can’t really complain. He isn’t an alcoholic. He never caused me any physical harm. He didn’t abandon my family or leave my mom to struggle as a single mom. He’s just not a great guy.”
Really? Because he sounds pretty great so far. In every way he filled the role of a provider-father and avoided many of the vices that harm families.
“Even when I was younger, I was never really a “daddy’s girl.” I don’t know how I was able to recognize it so young, but I would see the way he treated my mom and the way they bickered. The way he under-appreciated the things she’d go out of her way to do for him, pick on her for the way she handled her finances, make her feel like nothing she ever did was enough. I’d see the way he’d make her feel so small, and they way she tried to conceal it and pretend like nothing was wrong around my siblings and me. But I could see it.”
Here we start to see it, he occasionally argued with her mom and “under-appreciated” the things she did. She doesn’t go into it, but I guarantee she’s talking about cleaning the house or baking a birthday cake – the things a good wife is supposed to do. I wonder how much he was under-appreciated for providing for the family. Further, he told her mom she was spending too much money. That one stuck for her. I pity her future husband as she spends through his money, then divorces him when he runs out.
“The years went by. He never skipped out on a Christmas. He never forgot a birthday or anniversary. He was a good man that supported his family. Yet, something was just not right. As I got older, he started treating me more like an adult. He’d unleash his worries on me. He’d talk to me about his marital problems with my mom. It was a heavy weight on my young shoulders. After each of these talks I’d get a nervous and guilty feeling (which I now know is anxiety). After each of these talks I would try to be as perfect and good as I could be. One less thing my parents would have to stress about.”
Again, the guy is thanklessly caring for his family. Now she’s a little older so he starts to shatter her princess fantasy by explaining how adults behave and how to be a better wife than her mother. This is the moment she starts to really resent him. Had he been abusive, she would have loved him, but how dare he shatter the fantasy!! How dare he require her to consider a life outside of her emotions.
“Then it was off to college. I tried my hardest in class. Worked multiple jobs. Never did any drugs. I was doing my best. Did I party with my friends? Yes. Did I wear tight dresses and high heels. Sure. Did that make me a bad daughter? Absolutely not. Even after moving out, those talks continued. But this time, they shifted to me. I was an emotional wreck. I felt like I couldn’t do anything right. If I wasn’t going to church every Sunday in a turtleneck, or volunteering with a charity on Friday nights, then I might as well have been working on the corner smoking crack. I was never enough. I felt constantly judged.”
Some of his good parenting rubbed off on her, she studied, worked and avoided drugs (which she says as if these things are massive accomplishments). But she was also partying. In another article she says that she has, at around 20 years old, a “low” notch count of 5 (add several to that and don’t count the multitude of BJs she admits to giving). Again, her dad told her ways to improve – the modern definition of mental abuse.
” I tried working it out. Talking out our differences. It was a lose/lose situation. I would have him in my life, and feel miserable because I was constantly getting verbal lashes. Or I would shut him out, and feel like a terrible person for abandoning my family. No one wants to be the girl with “daddy issues.” I’d think about this title often. Did I have daddy issues? Or did I just have issues with my dad? Are those two even different?”
Looking to avoid the one person in her life who is honest with her and doesn’t reinforce her fantasy world, she mostly abandons her family.
Basically, this is a disrespectful, entitled American princess, writing an article about how she hates her dad and blames him for a lot of her problems.
Did he leave when she was born? No, he was an involved father who supported his family.
Did he beat her? No.
Was he a pedophile? No.
So what is her problem with him exactly? Below is the text with my notes.
“My dad kind of sucks. I guess I can’t really complain. He isn’t an alcoholic. He never caused me any physical harm. He didn’t abandon my family or leave my mom to struggle as a single mom. He’s just not a great guy.”
Really? Because he sounds pretty great so far. In every way he filled the role of a provider-father and avoided many of the vices that harm families.
“Even when I was younger, I was never really a “daddy’s girl.” I don’t know how I was able to recognize it so young, but I would see the way he treated my mom and the way they bickered. The way he under-appreciated the things she’d go out of her way to do for him, pick on her for the way she handled her finances, make her feel like nothing she ever did was enough. I’d see the way he’d make her feel so small, and they way she tried to conceal it and pretend like nothing was wrong around my siblings and me. But I could see it.”
Here we start to see it, he occasionally argued with her mom and “under-appreciated” the things she did. She doesn’t go into it, but I guarantee she’s talking about cleaning the house or baking a birthday cake – the things a good wife is supposed to do. I wonder how much he was under-appreciated for providing for the family. Further, he told her mom she was spending too much money. That one stuck for her. I pity her future husband as she spends through his money, then divorces him when he runs out.
“The years went by. He never skipped out on a Christmas. He never forgot a birthday or anniversary. He was a good man that supported his family. Yet, something was just not right. As I got older, he started treating me more like an adult. He’d unleash his worries on me. He’d talk to me about his marital problems with my mom. It was a heavy weight on my young shoulders. After each of these talks I’d get a nervous and guilty feeling (which I now know is anxiety). After each of these talks I would try to be as perfect and good as I could be. One less thing my parents would have to stress about.”
Again, the guy is thanklessly caring for his family. Now she’s a little older so he starts to shatter her princess fantasy by explaining how adults behave and how to be a better wife than her mother. This is the moment she starts to really resent him. Had he been abusive, she would have loved him, but how dare he shatter the fantasy!! How dare he require her to consider a life outside of her emotions.
“Then it was off to college. I tried my hardest in class. Worked multiple jobs. Never did any drugs. I was doing my best. Did I party with my friends? Yes. Did I wear tight dresses and high heels. Sure. Did that make me a bad daughter? Absolutely not. Even after moving out, those talks continued. But this time, they shifted to me. I was an emotional wreck. I felt like I couldn’t do anything right. If I wasn’t going to church every Sunday in a turtleneck, or volunteering with a charity on Friday nights, then I might as well have been working on the corner smoking crack. I was never enough. I felt constantly judged.”
Some of his good parenting rubbed off on her, she studied, worked and avoided drugs (which she says as if these things are massive accomplishments). But she was also partying. In another article she says that she has, at around 20 years old, a “low” notch count of 5 (add several to that and don’t count the multitude of BJs she admits to giving). Again, her dad told her ways to improve – the modern definition of mental abuse.
” I tried working it out. Talking out our differences. It was a lose/lose situation. I would have him in my life, and feel miserable because I was constantly getting verbal lashes. Or I would shut him out, and feel like a terrible person for abandoning my family. No one wants to be the girl with “daddy issues.” I’d think about this title often. Did I have daddy issues? Or did I just have issues with my dad? Are those two even different?”
Looking to avoid the one person in her life who is honest with her and doesn’t reinforce her fantasy world, she mostly abandons her family.
^^seriously
wow you can copy and paste!!!!!
seriously what the fuck is wrong with you????????? she had 20+ girls agreeing with her. Personally I SO glad my actual dad left the home when I was really young. Nothing my mom did was ever right. My mother is a typical old school house wife (even though she has a law degree). When my siblings and I were little she did all of those things and my step dad treated her like a freakin queen. Once we all were in kindergarten or older she went back to work. They took turns cooking dinner and doing all that makes a family happy. I will be a Bitch here and since I stopped reading your nonsense half way that you aren’t even in a sorority and you are just some bitter bitch. Get it over yourself. my actual dad is a bad guy but my step dad is awesome yet I still have some “daddy issues” or issues with a self absorbed man who never gave a shit but always played child support. Is hope to god you aren’t part of my panhel family!!!
How did Clemson make this list wen they have a tiny Greek community compared to the REAL USC? Bogus article.
This hits me so deep and I’m honestly so thankful someone wrote this. I literally had to run out of my dads house and drive home in tears this morning (Happy Fathers Day, anyone?) because he was being so verbally abusive. The whole ride back I kept thinking about this article and it gave me so much peace to know I wasn’t alone!
You can’t tell someone they can’t be upset about something just because their situation isn’t as bad as others
You are not entitled to being called a great person just because you stuck around
From one person with daddy issues to another, thank you for this.
a great dad isn’t one who provides money for the family, it’s one who supports his children emotionally. her father left her with anxiety issues because of the way he treated her, so obviously he didn’t support her emotionally. I think she’s completely justified in feeling a disconnect between her and her father. it doesn’t matter how much money they provide or how much time they spend working, a good father is one who loves and cares for his children.
A bunch of northern schools… This article is a joke
go frogs!! riff ram !
I’m sorry but cleaning the house and baking birthday cakes are what “good wives” do? Please take your sexist, archaic way of thinking and realize it’s not 1955 anymore. She is allowed to feel this way about her dad
Lol you salty much?
YAS Pi phi
Srattttybiotch, I just looked him up and he was convicted of a weapons violation, not murder. He could have killed someone, he just hasn’t been caught. Not every murder results in finding the guy who did it.
Wait you guys look so adorable, rather refreshing because lately all we see is dresses that could probably pass as shirts
I feel like if he had actually killed someone he’d probably still be in prison tho
This is kind of jealous, insecure and pathetic. She let the girl have complete control over her. Be the alpha female ladies
Basically, this is a disrespectful, entitled American princess, writing an article about how she hates her dad and blames him for a lot of her problems.
Did he leave when she was born? No, he was an involved father who supported his family.
Did he beat her? No.
Was he a pedophile? No.
So what is her problem with him exactly? Below is the text with my notes.
“My dad kind of sucks. I guess I can’t really complain. He isn’t an alcoholic. He never caused me any physical harm. He didn’t abandon my family or leave my mom to struggle as a single mom. He’s just not a great guy.”
Really? Because he sounds pretty great so far. In every way he filled the role of a provider-father and avoided many of the vices that harm families.
“Even when I was younger, I was never really a “daddy’s girl.” I don’t know how I was able to recognize it so young, but I would see the way he treated my mom and the way they bickered. The way he under-appreciated the things she’d go out of her way to do for him, pick on her for the way she handled her finances, make her feel like nothing she ever did was enough. I’d see the way he’d make her feel so small, and they way she tried to conceal it and pretend like nothing was wrong around my siblings and me. But I could see it.”
Here we start to see it, he occasionally argued with her mom and “under-appreciated” the things she did. She doesn’t go into it, but I guarantee she’s talking about cleaning the house or baking a birthday cake – the things a good wife is supposed to do. I wonder how much he was under-appreciated for providing for the family. Further, he told her mom she was spending too much money. That one stuck for her. I pity her future husband as she spends through his money, then divorces him when he runs out.
“The years went by. He never skipped out on a Christmas. He never forgot a birthday or anniversary. He was a good man that supported his family. Yet, something was just not right. As I got older, he started treating me more like an adult. He’d unleash his worries on me. He’d talk to me about his marital problems with my mom. It was a heavy weight on my young shoulders. After each of these talks I’d get a nervous and guilty feeling (which I now know is anxiety). After each of these talks I would try to be as perfect and good as I could be. One less thing my parents would have to stress about.”
Again, the guy is thanklessly caring for his family. Now she’s a little older so he starts to shatter her princess fantasy by explaining how adults behave and how to be a better wife than her mother. This is the moment she starts to really resent him. Had he been abusive, she would have loved him, but how dare he shatter the fantasy!! How dare he require her to consider a life outside of her emotions.
“Then it was off to college. I tried my hardest in class. Worked multiple jobs. Never did any drugs. I was doing my best. Did I party with my friends? Yes. Did I wear tight dresses and high heels. Sure. Did that make me a bad daughter? Absolutely not. Even after moving out, those talks continued. But this time, they shifted to me. I was an emotional wreck. I felt like I couldn’t do anything right. If I wasn’t going to church every Sunday in a turtleneck, or volunteering with a charity on Friday nights, then I might as well have been working on the corner smoking crack. I was never enough. I felt constantly judged.”
Some of his good parenting rubbed off on her, she studied, worked and avoided drugs (which she says as if these things are massive accomplishments). But she was also partying. In another article she says that she has, at around 20 years old, a “low” notch count of 5 (add several to that and don’t count the multitude of BJs she admits to giving). Again, her dad told her ways to improve – the modern definition of mental abuse.
” I tried working it out. Talking out our differences. It was a lose/lose situation. I would have him in my life, and feel miserable because I was constantly getting verbal lashes. Or I would shut him out, and feel like a terrible person for abandoning my family. No one wants to be the girl with “daddy issues.” I’d think about this title often. Did I have daddy issues? Or did I just have issues with my dad? Are those two even different?”
Looking to avoid the one person in her life who is honest with her and doesn’t reinforce her fantasy world, she mostly abandons her family.
Basically, this is a disrespectful, entitled American princess, writing an article about how she hates her dad and blames him for a lot of her problems.
Did he leave when she was born? No, he was an involved father who supported his family.
Did he beat her? No.
Was he a pedophile? No.
So what is her problem with him exactly? Below is the text with my notes.
“My dad kind of sucks. I guess I can’t really complain. He isn’t an alcoholic. He never caused me any physical harm. He didn’t abandon my family or leave my mom to struggle as a single mom. He’s just not a great guy.”
Really? Because he sounds pretty great so far. In every way he filled the role of a provider-father and avoided many of the vices that harm families.
“Even when I was younger, I was never really a “daddy’s girl.” I don’t know how I was able to recognize it so young, but I would see the way he treated my mom and the way they bickered. The way he under-appreciated the things she’d go out of her way to do for him, pick on her for the way she handled her finances, make her feel like nothing she ever did was enough. I’d see the way he’d make her feel so small, and they way she tried to conceal it and pretend like nothing was wrong around my siblings and me. But I could see it.”
Here we start to see it, he occasionally argued with her mom and “under-appreciated” the things she did. She doesn’t go into it, but I guarantee she’s talking about cleaning the house or baking a birthday cake – the things a good wife is supposed to do. I wonder how much he was under-appreciated for providing for the family. Further, he told her mom she was spending too much money. That one stuck for her. I pity her future husband as she spends through his money, then divorces him when he runs out.
“The years went by. He never skipped out on a Christmas. He never forgot a birthday or anniversary. He was a good man that supported his family. Yet, something was just not right. As I got older, he started treating me more like an adult. He’d unleash his worries on me. He’d talk to me about his marital problems with my mom. It was a heavy weight on my young shoulders. After each of these talks I’d get a nervous and guilty feeling (which I now know is anxiety). After each of these talks I would try to be as perfect and good as I could be. One less thing my parents would have to stress about.”
Again, the guy is thanklessly caring for his family. Now she’s a little older so he starts to shatter her princess fantasy by explaining how adults behave and how to be a better wife than her mother. This is the moment she starts to really resent him. Had he been abusive, she would have loved him, but how dare he shatter the fantasy!! How dare he require her to consider a life outside of her emotions.
“Then it was off to college. I tried my hardest in class. Worked multiple jobs. Never did any drugs. I was doing my best. Did I party with my friends? Yes. Did I wear tight dresses and high heels. Sure. Did that make me a bad daughter? Absolutely not. Even after moving out, those talks continued. But this time, they shifted to me. I was an emotional wreck. I felt like I couldn’t do anything right. If I wasn’t going to church every Sunday in a turtleneck, or volunteering with a charity on Friday nights, then I might as well have been working on the corner smoking crack. I was never enough. I felt constantly judged.”
Some of his good parenting rubbed off on her, she studied, worked and avoided drugs (which she says as if these things are massive accomplishments). But she was also partying. In another article she says that she has, at around 20 years old, a “low” notch count of 5 (add several to that and don’t count the multitude of BJs she admits to giving). Again, her dad told her ways to improve – the modern definition of mental abuse.
” I tried working it out. Talking out our differences. It was a lose/lose situation. I would have him in my life, and feel miserable because I was constantly getting verbal lashes. Or I would shut him out, and feel like a terrible person for abandoning my family. No one wants to be the girl with “daddy issues.” I’d think about this title often. Did I have daddy issues? Or did I just have issues with my dad? Are those two even different?”
Looking to avoid the one person in her life who is honest with her and doesn’t reinforce her fantasy world, she mostly abandons her family.