Maybe people respect you more because you’re voicing your opinion than because you are or aren’t awkward … Because awkwardness is so context based. If you go somewhere unfamiliar and make a mistake in terms of etiquette because you don’t know the intricacies of it, does that immediately make you a worthless person? If you’re in an all male environment and they make you feel awkward because you’re a female for being there, is that acceptable? Is having a conversation with your family ever totally free from awkwardness? I feel like being comfortable with awkwardness is more relevant than condemning it. With that said, I comprehend the relevance of setting a standard for yourself, so I appreciate this article’s assertion of that.
This article is going to look different when you’re 30 and actually looking for something serious. The guy with manners is who you want to bring home to your parents (well at least I did, and still do). If you work, you want someone whom you can bring to work functions, if you plan on staying home, you want a husband who will represent your family well in the community. Guys: keep up the chivalry.
Once you’re in the working world, this app could have real financial consequences. I don’t really think there’s a place for an app for random people you possibly don’t even know that well to rate you. Do you really want your ex boyfriend’s opinion to have an effect on who hires you in the future? Do you really want to have ANOTHER social media platform to worry about in addition to everything else?
The fact that you’ve worked to get where you are doesn’t prove that people whose parents don’t pay for their education aren’t working a lot harder than you are. Either now, or after they graduate, they’ll make sacrifices you’re not making. I’m not saying feel bad, but feel compassionate. If your parents suddenly needed your college fund because they had a serious illness, your life would be different. No one likes thinking about anything but the fun stuff, but the reality is that people have financial situations that aren’t always easy to judge. This is the reason it’s not polite to talk about money. But since you started the discussion, it’s worthwhile to really listen. Saying you don’t care about peoples’ misfortune that’s beyond their sphere of influence causes a lot of animosity.
Hi Christina, so I get it that it’s not your fault that your parents elected to pay for your school. I don’t think most people diminish the hard work it actually takes to get through school and graduate. The issue is that it’s twice as difficult (I’d say exponentially more difficult because of the added stress of not only doing both but scheduling both around each other) if you work and go to school at the same time. While you probably don’t think you should have to think about it, because you’re 20, and your parents worked hard, you should. The work world is not as lenient as school is – bosses need work done on their schedule, and don’t extend deadlines. Imagine doing another full day of classes after a full day of classes. Plus, the jobs that accept college students are literally the worst customer service jobs where everyone treats you horribly because they assume you’re uneducated. If someone elects to take out a loan, it will be years and years before they can repay it. This effects peoples’ lives in very real ways like not being able to afford to have children. Unlike previous generations, like your parents’, when school tuition was proportionate to peoples’ incomes, it isn’t anymore. Tuition in the US is so exorbitant in comparison to every single other country in the world. If you think about this in another way, you’re kind of alienating yourself from the people who are smart and dedicated enough to juggle both of these. I’m in my 30’s, and the people who don’t end up asking for money are the ones who learned to budget it (and earn it) in their 20’s. Men, because of their work load, also hate to hear women brag about never having to pay for anything, because they are doing so much. It’s great to be happy with your life, but keeping the bragging in check will probably prevent people from completely hating on you. They really are doing more than you are, and as much as you should be proud of your family, the world is a lot more interconnected than just you and your family.
Maybe people respect you more because you’re voicing your opinion than because you are or aren’t awkward … Because awkwardness is so context based. If you go somewhere unfamiliar and make a mistake in terms of etiquette because you don’t know the intricacies of it, does that immediately make you a worthless person? If you’re in an all male environment and they make you feel awkward because you’re a female for being there, is that acceptable? Is having a conversation with your family ever totally free from awkwardness? I feel like being comfortable with awkwardness is more relevant than condemning it. With that said, I comprehend the relevance of setting a standard for yourself, so I appreciate this article’s assertion of that.
This article is going to look different when you’re 30 and actually looking for something serious. The guy with manners is who you want to bring home to your parents (well at least I did, and still do). If you work, you want someone whom you can bring to work functions, if you plan on staying home, you want a husband who will represent your family well in the community. Guys: keep up the chivalry.
Once you’re in the working world, this app could have real financial consequences. I don’t really think there’s a place for an app for random people you possibly don’t even know that well to rate you. Do you really want your ex boyfriend’s opinion to have an effect on who hires you in the future? Do you really want to have ANOTHER social media platform to worry about in addition to everything else?
The fact that you’ve worked to get where you are doesn’t prove that people whose parents don’t pay for their education aren’t working a lot harder than you are. Either now, or after they graduate, they’ll make sacrifices you’re not making. I’m not saying feel bad, but feel compassionate. If your parents suddenly needed your college fund because they had a serious illness, your life would be different. No one likes thinking about anything but the fun stuff, but the reality is that people have financial situations that aren’t always easy to judge. This is the reason it’s not polite to talk about money. But since you started the discussion, it’s worthwhile to really listen. Saying you don’t care about peoples’ misfortune that’s beyond their sphere of influence causes a lot of animosity.
Hi Christina, so I get it that it’s not your fault that your parents elected to pay for your school. I don’t think most people diminish the hard work it actually takes to get through school and graduate. The issue is that it’s twice as difficult (I’d say exponentially more difficult because of the added stress of not only doing both but scheduling both around each other) if you work and go to school at the same time. While you probably don’t think you should have to think about it, because you’re 20, and your parents worked hard, you should. The work world is not as lenient as school is – bosses need work done on their schedule, and don’t extend deadlines. Imagine doing another full day of classes after a full day of classes. Plus, the jobs that accept college students are literally the worst customer service jobs where everyone treats you horribly because they assume you’re uneducated. If someone elects to take out a loan, it will be years and years before they can repay it. This effects peoples’ lives in very real ways like not being able to afford to have children. Unlike previous generations, like your parents’, when school tuition was proportionate to peoples’ incomes, it isn’t anymore. Tuition in the US is so exorbitant in comparison to every single other country in the world. If you think about this in another way, you’re kind of alienating yourself from the people who are smart and dedicated enough to juggle both of these. I’m in my 30’s, and the people who don’t end up asking for money are the ones who learned to budget it (and earn it) in their 20’s. Men, because of their work load, also hate to hear women brag about never having to pay for anything, because they are doing so much. It’s great to be happy with your life, but keeping the bragging in check will probably prevent people from completely hating on you. They really are doing more than you are, and as much as you should be proud of your family, the world is a lot more interconnected than just you and your family.