You can’t complaint about the writer when your own comment is very confusing. You said you refer to the black women at your school as black pearls. Which is weird because you should just call them people like you would, the non black students. You countered that by saying it’s just a group with women of all races but that just doesn’t add up to what you said earlier. Everything you said loses credibility in my eyes. Also feminism isn’t about women being more baddass than men. It’s about equality. I have wonderful men in my life and I or no other woman is superior to them just by the “virtue” of being a woman. We are all equal and can be just as badass as each other.
Everything in your comment is confusing and that makes the whatever truth their may be in what you said, sound like nonsense.
I think the author meant that as someone else’s cousin. Like talking to a guy about HIS cousins and first cousins. At least I hope that’s what she meant but if she actually means your own then god bless her heart
If a guy gives me intimate compliments and becomes affectionate from the very beginning then it leads me to believe this is how he acts with every girl he starts dating. That’s not really special it’s just overwhelming! It’s like if a new girl friend starts acting like she’s your best friend from day 1. It comes off as fake and weird! Every guy isn’t a careless douchebag or a clingy weirdo. There are normal guys who can treat girls with respect and decency, like you should treat any individual and they can keep it casual till they start developing real feelings for you. If a guy starts showing signs of having strong feelings right away and does things that display sweet romantic love then yes I’m going to run the other way! It makes me question his emotional maturity level.
No it’s because certain level of feelings take time to develope. Being polite is fine and expected of all individuals but when you first meet someone and that person becomes super affectionate right away seems fake! It’s like making a new girl friend but then the girl starts sharing super personal things and starts talking trash talking and starts claiming that you have “inside joke” and captions every picture with you as “bestie” or “obsessed.” All these things would be totally cool if you two had been friends for a while but if it’s someone you just met then it’s fake as hell! That’s exactly how guys who’re super clingy and try to be romantic from day one come off as. It’s overwhelming! Just keep it casual and fun! You can say sweet things and do romantic stuff when you get to a point in the relationship that it feels natural and not like it’s being forced. If you think your feelings are that strong right away then you need to grow the fuck up! This isn’t high school!
What 40squeen said but I will also like to add the fact women are still fighting for the right to voluntarily join the military. There are still certain positions we are not allowed to hold even if we pass the same exact test. So yes if there were a draft we (feminists) would want women to have to register just like men! Since there’s currently no draft we’re focused on women being allowed to join the military for every position they can pass the same test requirements as the men.
Many times I have struggled with walking away from the wrong nice guy and felt so much guilt every time. But I’m glad I didn’t settle for the wrong guy just because he was a nice guy who liked me because now I’m happily dating an amazing man who texts me randomly and leaves voice mail just to make me smile, puts me before everything else, cares about everything important to me, supports me in everything and is simply the most amazing person I have ever met! He also gives me butterflies everytime I think about him and even after 2 years the spark is still there!
Why would you lose respect for yourself for having sex because YOU want to? As long as you are having safe consensual sex with the person you want and only because you want to, it shouldn’t effect how much you respect yourself. Having sex to get someone to like you or not having sex to get someone to like you is when a person’s self respect could be damaged.
So when you say, “it’s not always easy to turn down sex in exchange for self respect,” that’s where I see the real problem lies. I think this is what we all need to think about and figure out why would anyone tie the respect they have for themselves to not doing something they want to and making their own lives so “hard
When you’re getting mad at the girl living her life and having sex for no one else but herself and telling her, “that guy only wants her for one thing.” Did you stop to think maybe she also only wants to have sex. Sometimes girls just wanna get laid and sure having a guy pal to do it with all the time is great but until you find that guy pal it doesn’t hurt to have fun with randos(as long as it’s safe fun)
We shouldn’t tie our self respect and self worth to what goes in and out of our vagina, by our choice of course. We’re more than our vaginas so ladies have sex if you want, with who you want or don’t if you don’t want but bottom line is do what you want and be safe!
It’s a TSM because its the truth for sorority girls just like, It’s not considered a desirable characteristics of a fraternity man to be promiscuous either but it’s still a TFM
You can’t complaint about the writer when your own comment is very confusing. You said you refer to the black women at your school as black pearls. Which is weird because you should just call them people like you would, the non black students. You countered that by saying it’s just a group with women of all races but that just doesn’t add up to what you said earlier. Everything you said loses credibility in my eyes. Also feminism isn’t about women being more baddass than men. It’s about equality. I have wonderful men in my life and I or no other woman is superior to them just by the “virtue” of being a woman. We are all equal and can be just as badass as each other.
Everything in your comment is confusing and that makes the whatever truth their may be in what you said, sound like nonsense.
I think the author meant that as someone else’s cousin. Like talking to a guy about HIS cousins and first cousins. At least I hope that’s what she meant but if she actually means your own then god bless her heart
If a guy gives me intimate compliments and becomes affectionate from the very beginning then it leads me to believe this is how he acts with every girl he starts dating. That’s not really special it’s just overwhelming! It’s like if a new girl friend starts acting like she’s your best friend from day 1. It comes off as fake and weird! Every guy isn’t a careless douchebag or a clingy weirdo. There are normal guys who can treat girls with respect and decency, like you should treat any individual and they can keep it casual till they start developing real feelings for you. If a guy starts showing signs of having strong feelings right away and does things that display sweet romantic love then yes I’m going to run the other way! It makes me question his emotional maturity level.
No it’s because certain level of feelings take time to develope. Being polite is fine and expected of all individuals but when you first meet someone and that person becomes super affectionate right away seems fake! It’s like making a new girl friend but then the girl starts sharing super personal things and starts talking trash talking and starts claiming that you have “inside joke” and captions every picture with you as “bestie” or “obsessed.” All these things would be totally cool if you two had been friends for a while but if it’s someone you just met then it’s fake as hell! That’s exactly how guys who’re super clingy and try to be romantic from day one come off as. It’s overwhelming! Just keep it casual and fun! You can say sweet things and do romantic stuff when you get to a point in the relationship that it feels natural and not like it’s being forced. If you think your feelings are that strong right away then you need to grow the fuck up! This isn’t high school!
What 40squeen said but I will also like to add the fact women are still fighting for the right to voluntarily join the military. There are still certain positions we are not allowed to hold even if we pass the same exact test. So yes if there were a draft we (feminists) would want women to have to register just like men! Since there’s currently no draft we’re focused on women being allowed to join the military for every position they can pass the same test requirements as the men.
Many times I have struggled with walking away from the wrong nice guy and felt so much guilt every time. But I’m glad I didn’t settle for the wrong guy just because he was a nice guy who liked me because now I’m happily dating an amazing man who texts me randomly and leaves voice mail just to make me smile, puts me before everything else, cares about everything important to me, supports me in everything and is simply the most amazing person I have ever met! He also gives me butterflies everytime I think about him and even after 2 years the spark is still there!
That was on point TSM!
Why would you lose respect for yourself for having sex because YOU want to? As long as you are having safe consensual sex with the person you want and only because you want to, it shouldn’t effect how much you respect yourself. Having sex to get someone to like you or not having sex to get someone to like you is when a person’s self respect could be damaged.
So when you say, “it’s not always easy to turn down sex in exchange for self respect,” that’s where I see the real problem lies. I think this is what we all need to think about and figure out why would anyone tie the respect they have for themselves to not doing something they want to and making their own lives so “hard
When you’re getting mad at the girl living her life and having sex for no one else but herself and telling her, “that guy only wants her for one thing.” Did you stop to think maybe she also only wants to have sex. Sometimes girls just wanna get laid and sure having a guy pal to do it with all the time is great but until you find that guy pal it doesn’t hurt to have fun with randos(as long as it’s safe fun)
We shouldn’t tie our self respect and self worth to what goes in and out of our vagina, by our choice of course. We’re more than our vaginas so ladies have sex if you want, with who you want or don’t if you don’t want but bottom line is do what you want and be safe!
It’s a TSM because its the truth for sorority girls just like, It’s not considered a desirable characteristics of a fraternity man to be promiscuous either but it’s still a TFM
The problem might be with the fact that you associate nice attributes as feminine and jerky behavior as masculine.
hahah boys can be so naive sometimes
It’s sad to think about how the responses would be totally different if this wast posted as a TFM
I agree!
Skin Cancer TSTC
Not needing three hours to look cute cause you already look extra cute without all that work TSM
So true!
Not needing to put hours of work in to look good. TSM
OMG My mom does this all the time! I get so annoyed by it lol
^ This!
Ladies are allowed to enjoy sex too!