I agree. My school does deferred recruitment and it works out really well. We still have informal in the fall for upperclassmen but having formal recruitment in the spring allows for the freshmen to get involved in other organizations first, gives us more time to promote recruitment, and also helps them figure out that our Greek life is very different from that of bigger school (our undergrad is about 5,000 and about 15% of that is Greek. We also are a liberal arts college so we have a lot of non-stereotypical Greeks). While formal recruitment in the fall may work for some schools, it definitely isn’t for everyone.
The first paragraph literally describes my hometown to a T, except that the only place to be on Friday nights was the high school football games. I couldn’t wait to get out and I’m so glad I did. I’ve changed so much in college and gotten so many opportunities that I never even dreamed of in high school. I’ve thought about possibly moving back to a small town (though not my hometown) once I finally settle down and start a family, just because it is so quiet, but until then I would feel too tied down and bored in a small town. I’m young and free, so why not take full advantage of that while I can?
I definitely agree. This happened to me all throughout high school with my ex. We had already broken up but he was the only guy I had ever slept with and I still felt inferior to him, for multiple reasons. We had reached a point to where he would be dating other girls but still come back to me saying that he missed me and wanted to be with me, so I would hook up with him, even though he never had any intention of breaking up with whoever he was with at the time. I was just so desperate for the attention and to be reminded of a time that wasn’t as shitty as what I was going through that I went along with it all. I knew he would be gone as soon as our clothes were back on. I knew that I was nothing more than a dirty little secret to him for whenever he got bored with other girls. But he was all I knew and I just wanted to feel better for a little while. So thank you for writing this. I felt so alone and shameful at the time and still kind of do. It helps so much to know that I’m not the only one.
P.S. Update on the guy- he’s now engaged and stationed across the country for the military. He has already cheated on his fiancee at least once (she knows and has done nothing about it) and has tried to come back and flirt with me several times before I finally told him to never speak to me again. Glad I dodged that bullet.
I agree. My school does deferred recruitment and it works out really well. We still have informal in the fall for upperclassmen but having formal recruitment in the spring allows for the freshmen to get involved in other organizations first, gives us more time to promote recruitment, and also helps them figure out that our Greek life is very different from that of bigger school (our undergrad is about 5,000 and about 15% of that is Greek. We also are a liberal arts college so we have a lot of non-stereotypical Greeks). While formal recruitment in the fall may work for some schools, it definitely isn’t for everyone.
I saw him in concert last week. This was totally me hahaha
The first paragraph literally describes my hometown to a T, except that the only place to be on Friday nights was the high school football games. I couldn’t wait to get out and I’m so glad I did. I’ve changed so much in college and gotten so many opportunities that I never even dreamed of in high school. I’ve thought about possibly moving back to a small town (though not my hometown) once I finally settle down and start a family, just because it is so quiet, but until then I would feel too tied down and bored in a small town. I’m young and free, so why not take full advantage of that while I can?
I feel like there should be more Southern schools on here..
This is def my new favorite show
This is literally exactly how it happened…
I definitely agree. This happened to me all throughout high school with my ex. We had already broken up but he was the only guy I had ever slept with and I still felt inferior to him, for multiple reasons. We had reached a point to where he would be dating other girls but still come back to me saying that he missed me and wanted to be with me, so I would hook up with him, even though he never had any intention of breaking up with whoever he was with at the time. I was just so desperate for the attention and to be reminded of a time that wasn’t as shitty as what I was going through that I went along with it all. I knew he would be gone as soon as our clothes were back on. I knew that I was nothing more than a dirty little secret to him for whenever he got bored with other girls. But he was all I knew and I just wanted to feel better for a little while. So thank you for writing this. I felt so alone and shameful at the time and still kind of do. It helps so much to know that I’m not the only one.
P.S. Update on the guy- he’s now engaged and stationed across the country for the military. He has already cheated on his fiancee at least once (she knows and has done nothing about it) and has tried to come back and flirt with me several times before I finally told him to never speak to me again. Glad I dodged that bullet.