To imply, as you have, that men can’t have BPD is ridiculous. It’s often misdiagnosed in men simply as “anger issues,” and the fact that it is so often coupled with substance abuse makes it even harder to detect the mental illness.
As someone who’s *actually* educated in mental illness, borderline personality disorder is primarily found in women and almost NEVER diagnosed in men. I’m sorry that you dated an emotionally abusive and manipulative man, but don’t add to the stigma.
I had endured emotional and verbal abuse for far too long with one of these monsters. I should have got out sooner before he turned to physical abusing me.
At one point he came home drunk and started to accuse me of sleeping with someone behind his back. He eventually attacked me and at one point I thought he was going to rape and strangle me.
I was fortunate in that I was able to fight him off. I remembered watching a TV program where a woman named Curtescine Lloyd had shared the story of how she had fought off her attacker after he had attacked her within her home, and threatened to hurt her if she didn’t do as she was told. Instead, she waited until he had removed his trousers before grabbing, twisting and pulling on his testicles, and refused to let go of them. He ended up collapsing and begging her to phone the police.
I fought back. I grabbed my long time abusers testicles and squeezed as hard as I could and didn’t let go. He immediately released his grip on me and went limp a few seconds later. He actually passed into unconsciousness and I later heard that I’d ruptured one of his testicles after he had to be taken to hospital.
I class myself as lucky and a survivor. I’m so glad that I’d watched that TV program. It could have saved my life. Don’t EVER let things get out of control. Get out sooner rather than later.
In exchange for the life saving selfie tips, I have a guaranteed way to permanently get rid of your huge pores and it’s not some weird home remedy! I can get you a free sample too
Hey classoversass, I think that maybe if your relationship with your grandbig’s other littles is still in tact then maybe don’t try and get adopted. I tried that and my grandbig got upset because she said that she, her big and other littles were trying to keep me involved with the family but maybe every situation is different.
Can confirm. My big transferred last spring after having one semester with her. I wanted to find someone else to help me because I was struggling with everything. When I tried my Grandbig called me and was furious. Now she’s “adopted” another girl who’s big left her just as mine did but they don’t call each other secret anything. They call themselves Big/Little loud and proud and do family pictures that I’m not in. Feel the love.
I remember vividly the very first time I saw and touched a penis. It was the penis of my first crush, and I’d saved myself for this special occasion.
He’d invited me over to his place while his parents were away for half the day, and he kept on telling me how hot and special I was. I’d expected that he might want something to happen between us as he was more forward than usual towards me. And by “something” I of course mean some sexual activity.
Anyway, at some stage he ended up fully naked on his bed after he’d taken a shower and his towel “accidentally” fell off as he walked back into his room.
So there we were, myself fully clothed while he lay on his back with his penis fully erect, with me staring at it not knowing what to do next. He just lay there doing nothing other than breathing heavily.
I really don’t know fully why to this day why I said what I said next. I think that it was due to part to being so nervous, partly because of the awkward silence between us, and partly because he’d always crack jokes and make comments about how “well hung” he was in the past.
Then I just blurted it out “can I measure it”. My cheeks immediately set on fire and I’d never felt so awkward in my life. A small giggle escaped my mouth as I said those words. Luckily he laughed and just said “sure”.
So here was my first real sexual encounter – measuring the fully erect penis of my first crush! I can still remember the details (really, how could I ever forget). Exactly 5.75 inches long and 1.75 inches across at the base. I thought to myself at the time that it looked quite small.
I ended up giving him a handjob and I watched the mini fireworks display with avid interest as he ejaculated onto his stomach. Even that event was awkward as his penis slipped out of my fingers after just after I felt it swell when it was about to shoot, and it pulsed and bobbed about spitting out its goo when I didn’t manage to properly grab hold of it again. I just watched it bobbing about and found it all quite funny. I thought that it looked like a little angry worm which had totally lost control, and was cursing and spitting venom everywhere in frustration.
My clothes stayed on throughout and nothing further happened. He later sent me a “dick pic” of his erect penis to remind me of the “good time” we’d had together. We soon broke up afterwards though after I found out that he’d cheated on me.
It felt good getting my revenge as I ended up telling all of my girlfriends that his boasts of being well hung were unfounded – I’d actually measured him at only 5.75 inches. I told them all everything and showed every one of them them the (little) dick pic. Their reactions were hilarious! One funny response I remember was “no wonder our sense of distance is all messed up, it’s because men keep on telling us that that’s ten inches!”
That was my first experience touching a penis.
What he had was certainly nothing for him to boast about like he had done in the past. It always seems to be the case though doesn’t it!
Preach.
“Frankly, blacking out is your brain’s way of saying ‘these memories aren’t meant for you.'”
^^^literally how I’ve justified deleting all my drunk convos to my friends.
What is so wrong with being happy for my friends when they get engaged? I like all my best friend’s ring selfies because she’s genuinely excited. I’m not going to resent her for it.
To imply, as you have, that men can’t have BPD is ridiculous. It’s often misdiagnosed in men simply as “anger issues,” and the fact that it is so often coupled with substance abuse makes it even harder to detect the mental illness.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-almost-effect/201405/men-borderline-personality-disorder
As someone who’s *actually* educated in mental illness, borderline personality disorder is primarily found in women and almost NEVER diagnosed in men. I’m sorry that you dated an emotionally abusive and manipulative man, but don’t add to the stigma.
I had endured emotional and verbal abuse for far too long with one of these monsters. I should have got out sooner before he turned to physical abusing me.
At one point he came home drunk and started to accuse me of sleeping with someone behind his back. He eventually attacked me and at one point I thought he was going to rape and strangle me.
I was fortunate in that I was able to fight him off. I remembered watching a TV program where a woman named Curtescine Lloyd had shared the story of how she had fought off her attacker after he had attacked her within her home, and threatened to hurt her if she didn’t do as she was told. Instead, she waited until he had removed his trousers before grabbing, twisting and pulling on his testicles, and refused to let go of them. He ended up collapsing and begging her to phone the police.
I fought back. I grabbed my long time abusers testicles and squeezed as hard as I could and didn’t let go. He immediately released his grip on me and went limp a few seconds later. He actually passed into unconsciousness and I later heard that I’d ruptured one of his testicles after he had to be taken to hospital.
I class myself as lucky and a survivor. I’m so glad that I’d watched that TV program. It could have saved my life. Don’t EVER let things get out of control. Get out sooner rather than later.
In exchange for the life saving selfie tips, I have a guaranteed way to permanently get rid of your huge pores and it’s not some weird home remedy! I can get you a free sample too
Both.r.good.but.i.will.take.kendall
You’re an asshole. Ed Sheeran is famous for legit reasons, unlike other people who are only famous for their looks.
I love Corrine.on the bachelor.should have pick her.looks down 2 fuck all the time
Pretty too.no homo here.100% straight and no WANNABe here either. k
I bet u.the writer veronica has a cute ass just saying.100% respect thou 4 real.no disrespect ok
Hey classoversass, I think that maybe if your relationship with your grandbig’s other littles is still in tact then maybe don’t try and get adopted. I tried that and my grandbig got upset because she said that she, her big and other littles were trying to keep me involved with the family but maybe every situation is different.
Can confirm. My big transferred last spring after having one semester with her. I wanted to find someone else to help me because I was struggling with everything. When I tried my Grandbig called me and was furious. Now she’s “adopted” another girl who’s big left her just as mine did but they don’t call each other secret anything. They call themselves Big/Little loud and proud and do family pictures that I’m not in. Feel the love.
Ali, you’re intelligence is way too advanced for us. I can’t believe I didn’t think of this sooner….
I remember vividly the very first time I saw and touched a penis. It was the penis of my first crush, and I’d saved myself for this special occasion.
He’d invited me over to his place while his parents were away for half the day, and he kept on telling me how hot and special I was. I’d expected that he might want something to happen between us as he was more forward than usual towards me. And by “something” I of course mean some sexual activity.
Anyway, at some stage he ended up fully naked on his bed after he’d taken a shower and his towel “accidentally” fell off as he walked back into his room.
So there we were, myself fully clothed while he lay on his back with his penis fully erect, with me staring at it not knowing what to do next. He just lay there doing nothing other than breathing heavily.
I really don’t know fully why to this day why I said what I said next. I think that it was due to part to being so nervous, partly because of the awkward silence between us, and partly because he’d always crack jokes and make comments about how “well hung” he was in the past.
Then I just blurted it out “can I measure it”. My cheeks immediately set on fire and I’d never felt so awkward in my life. A small giggle escaped my mouth as I said those words. Luckily he laughed and just said “sure”.
So here was my first real sexual encounter – measuring the fully erect penis of my first crush! I can still remember the details (really, how could I ever forget). Exactly 5.75 inches long and 1.75 inches across at the base. I thought to myself at the time that it looked quite small.
I ended up giving him a handjob and I watched the mini fireworks display with avid interest as he ejaculated onto his stomach. Even that event was awkward as his penis slipped out of my fingers after just after I felt it swell when it was about to shoot, and it pulsed and bobbed about spitting out its goo when I didn’t manage to properly grab hold of it again. I just watched it bobbing about and found it all quite funny. I thought that it looked like a little angry worm which had totally lost control, and was cursing and spitting venom everywhere in frustration.
My clothes stayed on throughout and nothing further happened. He later sent me a “dick pic” of his erect penis to remind me of the “good time” we’d had together. We soon broke up afterwards though after I found out that he’d cheated on me.
It felt good getting my revenge as I ended up telling all of my girlfriends that his boasts of being well hung were unfounded – I’d actually measured him at only 5.75 inches. I told them all everything and showed every one of them them the (little) dick pic. Their reactions were hilarious! One funny response I remember was “no wonder our sense of distance is all messed up, it’s because men keep on telling us that that’s ten inches!”
That was my first experience touching a penis.
What he had was certainly nothing for him to boast about like he had done in the past. It always seems to be the case though doesn’t it!
Preach.
“Frankly, blacking out is your brain’s way of saying ‘these memories aren’t meant for you.'”
^^^literally how I’ve justified deleting all my drunk convos to my friends.
Eh. More or less tbh. It is what it is.
There 3 I think.but cool.
Someone seems bitter
Did you have to bash girls that choose to be virgins like that, super good way to empower your fellow woman.
Way to go trash mouth. Your sorority must be so proud!
What is so wrong with being happy for my friends when they get engaged? I like all my best friend’s ring selfies because she’s genuinely excited. I’m not going to resent her for it.
Wow this was really intense