Talking About Your Ex
Let me think about maybe the worst conversation I could ever have with a guy I was interested in as I was getting to know him. Oh, I know, a spiel about his ex-girlfriend and their relationship. I don’t like talking about other girls with my friends for too long (my guy friends I mean, because with my girl friends that’s probably my favorite thing to talk about). I would NEVER want to sit through a conversation about how romantic a guy was on his first date with someone else. How about be romantic on OUR first date, asshole, and pay attention to something important, like, oh, I don’t know, ME. Guys LOVE to pretend they don’t care, but no one likes to be compared to someone else. I learned the hard way that unless you’re saying something like “Wow! I didn’t know what sex WAS before you. None of my ex-boyfriends compared. And gosh darn, you have the biggest penis I’ve ever seen!” then they also don’t want to hear about boys who aren’t them, and don’t want to picture you caring about (or sleeping with) boys who aren’t them. Being openly compared to someone else, especially when you’re not sure you come out the victor, is not a good feeling. Plus, it just really makes you seem like you’re not over him. Maybe you’re not, but if you want a rebound, or if you’re ready for a new boyfriend, keep your ex’s name (and all other parts of your ex for that matter) out of your mouth.