Not Sleeping With Him At All
Guys like having sex. (So do girls.) And I really don’t have time for that “well we do EVERYTHING else” BS. Umm, everything else isn’t sex. It’s not the same. You might have gotten away with that in high school, but most college guys who have already lost their virginity, (which is most college guys), and are in the literal prime of their virility have a problem with the thought of having to give that up. If you have some sort of serious religious or moral aversion to pre-marital sex, I’m not saying you should compromise your values. I’m also not saying it’s impossible to find a guy who is willing to wait. You may…somewhere. I’m just saying, you can’t expect every guy to be ok with that. If I was dating a guy, and he didn’t want to have sex with me, after I laughed because I thought he was kidding, cried because I realized he wasn’t, and spent a significant amount of time coping with my utter confusion over this novelty, I would probably have to walk away. Just because this is something that’s right for you, doesn’t make it right for everyone, and I don’t think it’s wrong for a guy, especially a college guy, to end things because of this. Sex is great and for those of us who have decided that living in sin was the right path for us, it’s a really important part of a relationship. I don’t know what the magical amount of waiting time is that will make him stick around, I really don’t…sometime after day 1 and before day 180, I assume…all I know is that P-V insertion is something he’s probably expecting at some point throughout your time together.