I feel like this is so off base from everyone I know…I can’t think of a single one of my friends who’ve only slept with one person by the time they hit their early twenties
“Men who think [women] have been drinking alcohol…feel sexually aroused and are more responsive to erotic stimuli, including rape scenarios.” I think I just threw up a little…the fact that they published that on their website as “research” makes it really hard to not feel like university administration is a HUGE part of the problem
Totally agree that girls need to stop being shamed for doing what makes them feel confident (ie putting on foundation or mascara or just makeup in general). If that’s what you want to do, do it!! It’s your face!!
But also – not to sound like your mom in junior high – wearing makeup will only make your acne/skin worse if it’s bad, so going a day or two a week without it to give your skin a break is pretty great too 🙂
As someone who has worked as a Starbucks barista, let me just tell you that after being up for a 6:30 AM shift and being on your feet for eight hours, multiple children/teenagers coming in and ordering frappachinos (the most annoying, messy, tedious things to make off the entire menu) makes part of your soul die a little.
Awe – I feel like this article touches on a lot of things that freshen struggle with. There’s so much pressure to be having THE BEST TIME EVER and making a ton of friends and doing really well…but for a lot of them it’s really stressful, when in reality everyone has difficulties being away from home for the first time, new classes, and adjusting to a new sorority (or other things on campus).
I don’t think she’s ‘humble bragging’ at all – she pointed out that there’s a difference in how every sorority girl pays for their dues, and acknowledged that she’s privileged that her parents are able to help her. If you think about it, most sorority dues range in the $1000+ range, so girls that are REALLY financially struggling cannot afford to be part of it. Everyone that is in the Greek system is privileged in some form, whether you work to support yourself or not, so it’s important to acknowledge that.
Also find it ironic that she quotes (the movie version) of Pride and Prejudice when Elizabeth Bennett was most certainly not the typical, superstar character. She was poor and unconventional, and often did things that weren’t really expected of women in her society – and yes, she was awkward at times and refused to conform to certain social norms.
^Exactly. It also automatically assumes that anyone who is “quirky,” “awkward,” “weird” (which are all totally subjective adjectives and the definitions of them change from person to person) is somehow TRYING to be that way, and that shows like New Girl are encouraging girls to be like that – when in actuality, they’re giving girls who maybe don’t fit a typical mold the confidence to just be themselves. I’m not really a Zooey Deschanel fan (or a Beyonce fan, for that matter) but the point is that it’s different strokes for different folks, and this author is desperately trying to paint one way of being as the only good way.
…She literally says in the article that if someone were to meet their soulmate on the way to getting a degree, then that’s great; she’s just saying it shouldn’t be the primary goal of going to university.
From the article: “Before anyone thinks that I am against getting engaged in college, that is simply not the case. My problem with it is that if you are paying upwards of $50,000 a year at an institution and your main goal is to find someone to marry, then you are not allocating your funds correctly. If I am paying upwards of $50,000 to go to get a degree, my main goal is going to be to get that degree. If I find my husband along the way, then that is spectacular, but it is not the reason I came to college.”
Okay. Not that it doesn’t suck that this will impact sororities at Harvard, but the real point of this decision was aimed primarily at “final clubs” at Harvard, which are exclusively men-only.
From the Dean’s statement: “The discriminatory membership policies of these organizations have led to the perpetuation of spaces that are rife with power imbalances. The most entrenched of these spaces send an unambiguous message that they are the exclusive preserves of men…in their recruitment practices and through their extensive resources and access to networks of power, these organizations propagate exclusionary values that undermine those of the larger Harvard College community.”
Agreed. Typically the girls that talk about “white feminism” as if they’re so enlightened and intersectional are the ones who are the least self-aware and close-minded.
Haha I was JUST thinking this, glad someone pointed it out
I feel like this is so off base from everyone I know…I can’t think of a single one of my friends who’ve only slept with one person by the time they hit their early twenties
“Men who think [women] have been drinking alcohol…feel sexually aroused and are more responsive to erotic stimuli, including rape scenarios.” I think I just threw up a little…the fact that they published that on their website as “research” makes it really hard to not feel like university administration is a HUGE part of the problem
Totally agree that girls need to stop being shamed for doing what makes them feel confident (ie putting on foundation or mascara or just makeup in general). If that’s what you want to do, do it!! It’s your face!!
But also – not to sound like your mom in junior high – wearing makeup will only make your acne/skin worse if it’s bad, so going a day or two a week without it to give your skin a break is pretty great too 🙂
Woah, she is so inspirational!!!
As someone who has worked as a Starbucks barista, let me just tell you that after being up for a 6:30 AM shift and being on your feet for eight hours, multiple children/teenagers coming in and ordering frappachinos (the most annoying, messy, tedious things to make off the entire menu) makes part of your soul die a little.
Oh my god my ovaries
This is kinda mean……
Agreed! I LOVED this article 🙂 <3 going to go call my high school bff now
Awe – I feel like this article touches on a lot of things that freshen struggle with. There’s so much pressure to be having THE BEST TIME EVER and making a ton of friends and doing really well…but for a lot of them it’s really stressful, when in reality everyone has difficulties being away from home for the first time, new classes, and adjusting to a new sorority (or other things on campus).
Awe this is actually super cute 🙂
I don’t think she’s ‘humble bragging’ at all – she pointed out that there’s a difference in how every sorority girl pays for their dues, and acknowledged that she’s privileged that her parents are able to help her. If you think about it, most sorority dues range in the $1000+ range, so girls that are REALLY financially struggling cannot afford to be part of it. Everyone that is in the Greek system is privileged in some form, whether you work to support yourself or not, so it’s important to acknowledge that.
Amazing
So sorry you and your family went through this but it sounds like you have an amazing sisterhood!! <3
“Probably from all the kale” amazing
Also find it ironic that she quotes (the movie version) of Pride and Prejudice when Elizabeth Bennett was most certainly not the typical, superstar character. She was poor and unconventional, and often did things that weren’t really expected of women in her society – and yes, she was awkward at times and refused to conform to certain social norms.
^Exactly. It also automatically assumes that anyone who is “quirky,” “awkward,” “weird” (which are all totally subjective adjectives and the definitions of them change from person to person) is somehow TRYING to be that way, and that shows like New Girl are encouraging girls to be like that – when in actuality, they’re giving girls who maybe don’t fit a typical mold the confidence to just be themselves. I’m not really a Zooey Deschanel fan (or a Beyonce fan, for that matter) but the point is that it’s different strokes for different folks, and this author is desperately trying to paint one way of being as the only good way.
…She literally says in the article that if someone were to meet their soulmate on the way to getting a degree, then that’s great; she’s just saying it shouldn’t be the primary goal of going to university.
From the article: “Before anyone thinks that I am against getting engaged in college, that is simply not the case. My problem with it is that if you are paying upwards of $50,000 a year at an institution and your main goal is to find someone to marry, then you are not allocating your funds correctly. If I am paying upwards of $50,000 to go to get a degree, my main goal is going to be to get that degree. If I find my husband along the way, then that is spectacular, but it is not the reason I came to college.”
Okay. Not that it doesn’t suck that this will impact sororities at Harvard, but the real point of this decision was aimed primarily at “final clubs” at Harvard, which are exclusively men-only.
From the Dean’s statement: “The discriminatory membership policies of these organizations have led to the perpetuation of spaces that are rife with power imbalances. The most entrenched of these spaces send an unambiguous message that they are the exclusive preserves of men…in their recruitment practices and through their extensive resources and access to networks of power, these organizations propagate exclusionary values that undermine those of the larger Harvard College community.”
Agreed. Typically the girls that talk about “white feminism” as if they’re so enlightened and intersectional are the ones who are the least self-aware and close-minded.