Why does it say Alabama, I'm not from Alabama!
I am a 5th generation Austinite, born and raised in Austin. I just graduated from UT, was/am a GDi, but I like the articles on this website! I am a would-be legacy and respect sororities...the women in my family are a testament to the benefits of joining one. It just wasn't for me.
I felt almost certain i was the girlfriend in this scenario, everything fits,
Except for the fb message. Everything. My on again off again is a pathological liar, owns/manages a restaraunt which I go into Occassionally, we’ve been seeing eachother for a year (I know I need to get my shit together). He works with all guys at his bbq place, and I heard his coworker mention a girl named gabby several times in reference to another coworker. My on/off bf calls this new coworker “gabe”. I figured if she didn’t know about me eventually his coworker I’m kind of friends with would tell her or he would tell me, if there was anything even going on. But I’m certain there was/is but I’m so burnt out from his lies I almost don’t care anymore, the only part I care about is playing a role in something that will hurt another person the way he used to hurt me.
I mean, how can you be mad that a guy wants to please you in bed? If he’s asking “do you like that” or “what do you want me to do to you” good for him; you should be asking the same of him, otherwise how will either of you know how to give eachother the best sex you can?
If you are uncomfortable responding with what you want in bed, and uncomfortable talking with your partner about sex in general, that’s not a good sign. sex is one of the most intimate things 2 (or 3/4/5 etc.) people can do with eachother, and if you aren’t comfortable enough to be open verbally with a person, maybe you should rethink being comfortable sexually with that person.
Communication is key in everything, otherwise the chances of an orgasm are basically 0, and it won’t be his fault, bc he asked you how to get you there and you refused to tell him.
I just hope the guys reading this don’t take this article as representation of the majority opinion. Dirty talk is a major part of what gets many girls off, just talk to eachother about what you want to hear/what turns each of you on…etc. silent sex, in my opinion, is bad sex.
And you are totally right, girl! It’s a waste of 2 sexual activities girls could totally learn to LOVE doing, that the guy will love just as much (okay he might love it even more, he may even kiss the ground you walk on…). Which sucks!! I’m big believer in research and the saying “practice makes perfect”…and realizing I could apply this to sex things changed everything!
I want to write an article about how to do “buttstuff” correctly and comfortably, and what things to do to make sure the first time is as painless as possible… bc I know it was terrifying for me at first but I wanted to try…and I imagine other girls night feel the same way. But it doesn’t AT ALL have to hurt and I wish there was more written about it…but I’m afraid it would get a bad response or something.
Like anything sexual that may not be “fun” the first time, or first dozen times I’ve done it, blowjobs can become something enjoyable to do (with the right partner who respects you and who you can trust to not choke you to death forcibly) just by a) getting pleasure from seeing him in pleasure B) learning how to make it a comfortable experience for yourself and practicing things that you want to do but they’re too uncomfortable until you find a way to do them comfortably and lastly, b/c being insecure about doing a good job was a huge part of why I didn’t like giving blowjobs, and if that’s true for you, too: C) research the hell out of it, watch porn (especially gay blowjobs bc guys give better blowjobs than porn girls), ask him what he likes, and with a partner you trust ask if you can practice on him and ask him to teach you what more you could be doing and what you shouldn’t be doing. Getting confident and comfortable about it has gotten me to a point where I really do actually like doing it, as long as I’m into the guy and can trust him to let me up for air when I give the signal (a couple pats on the leg). And every guy is different so communication is obviously always important.
Oh and y’all are based out of Austin, where I live.
Sorry my comment was so poorly worded and confusing…
I felt almost certain i was the girlfriend in this scenario, everything fits,
Except for the fb message. Everything. My on again off again is a pathological liar, owns/manages a restaraunt which I go into Occassionally, we’ve been seeing eachother for a year (I know I need to get my shit together). He works with all guys at his bbq place, and I heard his coworker mention a girl named gabby several times in reference to another coworker. My on/off bf calls this new coworker “gabe”. I figured if she didn’t know about me eventually his coworker I’m kind of friends with would tell her or he would tell me, if there was anything even going on. But I’m certain there was/is but I’m so burnt out from his lies I almost don’t care anymore, the only part I care about is playing a role in something that will hurt another person the way he used to hurt me.
I mean, how can you be mad that a guy wants to please you in bed? If he’s asking “do you like that” or “what do you want me to do to you” good for him; you should be asking the same of him, otherwise how will either of you know how to give eachother the best sex you can?
If you are uncomfortable responding with what you want in bed, and uncomfortable talking with your partner about sex in general, that’s not a good sign. sex is one of the most intimate things 2 (or 3/4/5 etc.) people can do with eachother, and if you aren’t comfortable enough to be open verbally with a person, maybe you should rethink being comfortable sexually with that person.
Communication is key in everything, otherwise the chances of an orgasm are basically 0, and it won’t be his fault, bc he asked you how to get you there and you refused to tell him.
I just hope the guys reading this don’t take this article as representation of the majority opinion. Dirty talk is a major part of what gets many girls off, just talk to eachother about what you want to hear/what turns each of you on…etc. silent sex, in my opinion, is bad sex.
I actually like almost all of these things…
What do a house full of older guys and a rep for getting double teamed have to do with one another? I don’t understand.
You can tell someone is sheltered when she thinks hooking up means kissing.:)
Minus the humble, emphasis on the brag. 🙂
Girl….please.
I’ve never really heard a guy call a girl basic before…am I missing it?
Your*
From what I understand, North Korea IS a special place in hell.
More self deprecating and humorous, and clearly many people found it relatable…it wouldn’t be insulting unless you’re name is Skinny Fat.
That dress is well done!
Same.
And you are totally right, girl! It’s a waste of 2 sexual activities girls could totally learn to LOVE doing, that the guy will love just as much (okay he might love it even more, he may even kiss the ground you walk on…). Which sucks!! I’m big believer in research and the saying “practice makes perfect”…and realizing I could apply this to sex things changed everything!
Should I submit them here? You guys this is making my day seriously! Thank yall for the votes of confidence!!:)
Plus I wouldn’t know where I’d be able to get it submitted to.
I want to write an article about how to do “buttstuff” correctly and comfortably, and what things to do to make sure the first time is as painless as possible… bc I know it was terrifying for me at first but I wanted to try…and I imagine other girls night feel the same way. But it doesn’t AT ALL have to hurt and I wish there was more written about it…but I’m afraid it would get a bad response or something.
Like anything sexual that may not be “fun” the first time, or first dozen times I’ve done it, blowjobs can become something enjoyable to do (with the right partner who respects you and who you can trust to not choke you to death forcibly) just by a) getting pleasure from seeing him in pleasure B) learning how to make it a comfortable experience for yourself and practicing things that you want to do but they’re too uncomfortable until you find a way to do them comfortably and lastly, b/c being insecure about doing a good job was a huge part of why I didn’t like giving blowjobs, and if that’s true for you, too: C) research the hell out of it, watch porn (especially gay blowjobs bc guys give better blowjobs than porn girls), ask him what he likes, and with a partner you trust ask if you can practice on him and ask him to teach you what more you could be doing and what you shouldn’t be doing. Getting confident and comfortable about it has gotten me to a point where I really do actually like doing it, as long as I’m into the guy and can trust him to let me up for air when I give the signal (a couple pats on the leg). And every guy is different so communication is obviously always important.