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Students and profs both think about it, sure, but the professor has an ethical and professional responsibility not to pursue anything until the other person is no longer their student. Sleeping with someone whose academic future you partially control is like sleeping with someone who works under you at an office: it puts all your evaluations of them in question, since you have an obvious bias, opens you up to accusations of favoritism and potentially even lawsuits, and it’s in a very grey area in terms of consent – no matter what either of you says – because the balance of power between you is so uneven. This professor made a very poor decision and I think the university responded appropriately.
This is super sweet! I always get a little jealous when I hear about people who have good relationships with their fathers. It’s a rarer thing than a lot of us realize imo.
Smh, this advice isn’t helpful at all. Girls, if you want to trap a man in a relationship, there’s only one thing for it: Pull out some of his hairs and steal a scrap of his clothing. (Shack shirts are great for this!) Attach them to a cornhusk doll. Then, during the next full moon, go outside at exactly midnight. Prick your finger with a needle, set the doll on fire and say a prayer to all the ancient mystical forces of the universe. From then on, he’ll be powerless to to resist you.
It worked for me, anyway.
(Disclaimer: You may or may not have to sell your soul. The thing I summoned was speaking ancient Sumerian so I’m not exactly sure what the terms of the agreement really are. It’s kind of like iTunes in that way.)
I love the floral design, but the quote is…kind of weird, don’t you think? It’s meant to be really sad — like, Daisy’s saying that the only way for a woman to be happy is to make herself so stupid she can’t realize how bad her situation is. I wouldn’t give that to anyone if I wanted to inspire him.
Thanks so much for writing this article! I’ve been in a couple of scary situations where guys who I thought were my friends became very aggressive when I made it clear I wasn’t attracted to them. Some just abruptly broke off all contact and refused to speak to me, which definitely hurt, but one sent me an increasingly threatening series of Facebook messages about how much I “owed him” for all the nice things he’d done for me. Like, I’m sorry for thinking that you did those things because we were friends and friends do nice stuff for one another — I didn’t realize you were trying to put a down payment on future blowjobs. The friendzone mindset leads to a really cold, transactional view of relationships: “If I input X amount of time and kindness, I should receive Y amount of attention and sex.” It’s borderline sociopathic, to be honest.
I understand the feeling of disappointment that comes when you learn that someone you like doesn’t think of you the same way, but I think it’s important to remember that — whoever you are — nobody owes you anything in terms of love or sex. And if you really care about someone, you’ll respect them enough to back off when they tell you they aren’t interested in having a certain kind of relationship with you. It’s not a mind game. It’s not a test. If you’re such an entitled, self-obsessed asshole that you can’t accept their boundaries, they’re better off without you.
Students and profs both think about it, sure, but the professor has an ethical and professional responsibility not to pursue anything until the other person is no longer their student. Sleeping with someone whose academic future you partially control is like sleeping with someone who works under you at an office: it puts all your evaluations of them in question, since you have an obvious bias, opens you up to accusations of favoritism and potentially even lawsuits, and it’s in a very grey area in terms of consent – no matter what either of you says – because the balance of power between you is so uneven. This professor made a very poor decision and I think the university responded appropriately.
Wouldn’t Pocahontas be far more All-American than Snow White? I mean, really.
This is super sweet! I always get a little jealous when I hear about people who have good relationships with their fathers. It’s a rarer thing than a lot of us realize imo.
Smh, this advice isn’t helpful at all. Girls, if you want to trap a man in a relationship, there’s only one thing for it: Pull out some of his hairs and steal a scrap of his clothing. (Shack shirts are great for this!) Attach them to a cornhusk doll. Then, during the next full moon, go outside at exactly midnight. Prick your finger with a needle, set the doll on fire and say a prayer to all the ancient mystical forces of the universe. From then on, he’ll be powerless to to resist you.
It worked for me, anyway.
(Disclaimer: You may or may not have to sell your soul. The thing I summoned was speaking ancient Sumerian so I’m not exactly sure what the terms of the agreement really are. It’s kind of like iTunes in that way.)
And by him I mean them. Whew. It’s been a long day, guys.
I love the floral design, but the quote is…kind of weird, don’t you think? It’s meant to be really sad — like, Daisy’s saying that the only way for a woman to be happy is to make herself so stupid she can’t realize how bad her situation is. I wouldn’t give that to anyone if I wanted to inspire him.
Thanks so much for writing this article! I’ve been in a couple of scary situations where guys who I thought were my friends became very aggressive when I made it clear I wasn’t attracted to them. Some just abruptly broke off all contact and refused to speak to me, which definitely hurt, but one sent me an increasingly threatening series of Facebook messages about how much I “owed him” for all the nice things he’d done for me. Like, I’m sorry for thinking that you did those things because we were friends and friends do nice stuff for one another — I didn’t realize you were trying to put a down payment on future blowjobs. The friendzone mindset leads to a really cold, transactional view of relationships: “If I input X amount of time and kindness, I should receive Y amount of attention and sex.” It’s borderline sociopathic, to be honest.
I understand the feeling of disappointment that comes when you learn that someone you like doesn’t think of you the same way, but I think it’s important to remember that — whoever you are — nobody owes you anything in terms of love or sex. And if you really care about someone, you’ll respect them enough to back off when they tell you they aren’t interested in having a certain kind of relationship with you. It’s not a mind game. It’s not a test. If you’re such an entitled, self-obsessed asshole that you can’t accept their boundaries, they’re better off without you.
Guess he didn’t want to build a snowman. 🙁