The problem is smaller sororities don’t even have venues for parties. My school has small, no-living in, non-meal serving lodges. Alcohol distribution would most likely be under lock and key due to legal and insurance concerns (sorry parties without alcohol kind of stink). There’s also a worry about damage to the house, and maybe I’m a little old-fashioned in that I think the guys should pay for and provide drinks.
Sexual assault is real and happens more than we think (personal experience), but at the same time girls have some responsibility in choosing to go to questionable houses where they feel uncomfortable. We don’t have to consume alcohol at a place we feel we are being hunted like deer; leave. At first I read this thinking yesssss but after digging into the major problems, which are very important major problems, I don’t think it will really work. Local sororities don’t have nationals to report to, and because of that the consequences would never impact a whole sorority the way a chapter of a national sorority would impact other chapters. I say keep the parties at the frats, make them accountable but not like Virginia’s nazi completely biased crap, be responsible for yourself and your sisters as well, and it will get better.
If I was in that pledge class I’d be sort of flattered and the older girls should be proud they got awesome baby doves. I know a lot of girls will get mad at me for saying that but we say the exact same thing about fraternity pledge classes; girls and guys are visual and driven by sex at the basic level. There’s a lot more to us than that but I’m just pointing out that it’s not the worst thing in the world. I mean the only difference is girls tend to not write that stuff down whereas guys do. Most fraternity guys I have found to be gentlemen (open doors, pay for dates, etc) but they are allowed to talk about how hot they think a sorority is or if they aren’t. It’s shallow but don’t act like girls are any less judgmental. Sure it’s not the classiest thing but I’m not terribly offended. Maybe that’s because I don’t buy into the whole politically correct, liberal-leaning feminist ideology and don’t get worked over stupid things like this. But that’s just my opinion, don’t tear me apart ladies.
This is what a politically correct obsessed society produces. A fraternity is for guys, the crazy feminist liberals need to get over it. Sororities are for girls. Create a coed organization if you wish for both genders to work together, leave the Greek systems that are perfectly happy the way they are alone. Things like this just boggle my mind and I can’t wrap my brain around the people who do this who have never participated in anything with Greek letters besides an honor society (which I’m not putting down, academic achievement is critical to the college experience). I think the people who decide these things are actually in the minority but the rest of us are too scared to be called anti-women or sexist or whatever else these people want to label people who disagree. They can’t change a national organization’s policies. The chapters need to protest this or risk ruining their years of tradition.
This really hits home. I’ve struggled with depression since the 6th grade and have been struggling since coming to school. It’s hard to explain to people that it’s not just the freshman blues, but that the added pressures of college and sorority life in general make it even more difficult to cope. I am such an upbeat, loud, all about having a good time person, but underneath all that there’s this dark cloud that always hangs over me. You want to be someone people want to be around, so you overcompensate, but after the party or event is over and you come back to your room, the pain just swallows you whole. I know I’m not the only one, but depression is one of the most isolating things on this earth and it’s hard to see past it. I can talk to a few people, but they don’t quite understand, as much as I appreciate them trying to. Just want other girls like me to know that you are not alone, you aren’t crazy, and that it’s ok to not be ok.
The problem is smaller sororities don’t even have venues for parties. My school has small, no-living in, non-meal serving lodges. Alcohol distribution would most likely be under lock and key due to legal and insurance concerns (sorry parties without alcohol kind of stink). There’s also a worry about damage to the house, and maybe I’m a little old-fashioned in that I think the guys should pay for and provide drinks.
Sexual assault is real and happens more than we think (personal experience), but at the same time girls have some responsibility in choosing to go to questionable houses where they feel uncomfortable. We don’t have to consume alcohol at a place we feel we are being hunted like deer; leave. At first I read this thinking yesssss but after digging into the major problems, which are very important major problems, I don’t think it will really work. Local sororities don’t have nationals to report to, and because of that the consequences would never impact a whole sorority the way a chapter of a national sorority would impact other chapters. I say keep the parties at the frats, make them accountable but not like Virginia’s nazi completely biased crap, be responsible for yourself and your sisters as well, and it will get better.
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If I was in that pledge class I’d be sort of flattered and the older girls should be proud they got awesome baby doves. I know a lot of girls will get mad at me for saying that but we say the exact same thing about fraternity pledge classes; girls and guys are visual and driven by sex at the basic level. There’s a lot more to us than that but I’m just pointing out that it’s not the worst thing in the world. I mean the only difference is girls tend to not write that stuff down whereas guys do. Most fraternity guys I have found to be gentlemen (open doors, pay for dates, etc) but they are allowed to talk about how hot they think a sorority is or if they aren’t. It’s shallow but don’t act like girls are any less judgmental. Sure it’s not the classiest thing but I’m not terribly offended. Maybe that’s because I don’t buy into the whole politically correct, liberal-leaning feminist ideology and don’t get worked over stupid things like this. But that’s just my opinion, don’t tear me apart ladies.
This is what a politically correct obsessed society produces. A fraternity is for guys, the crazy feminist liberals need to get over it. Sororities are for girls. Create a coed organization if you wish for both genders to work together, leave the Greek systems that are perfectly happy the way they are alone. Things like this just boggle my mind and I can’t wrap my brain around the people who do this who have never participated in anything with Greek letters besides an honor society (which I’m not putting down, academic achievement is critical to the college experience). I think the people who decide these things are actually in the minority but the rest of us are too scared to be called anti-women or sexist or whatever else these people want to label people who disagree. They can’t change a national organization’s policies. The chapters need to protest this or risk ruining their years of tradition.
This really hits home. I’ve struggled with depression since the 6th grade and have been struggling since coming to school. It’s hard to explain to people that it’s not just the freshman blues, but that the added pressures of college and sorority life in general make it even more difficult to cope. I am such an upbeat, loud, all about having a good time person, but underneath all that there’s this dark cloud that always hangs over me. You want to be someone people want to be around, so you overcompensate, but after the party or event is over and you come back to your room, the pain just swallows you whole. I know I’m not the only one, but depression is one of the most isolating things on this earth and it’s hard to see past it. I can talk to a few people, but they don’t quite understand, as much as I appreciate them trying to. Just want other girls like me to know that you are not alone, you aren’t crazy, and that it’s ok to not be ok.
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