No one said that you chose to be white. My point in that sentence was arguing against the point where she spoke on sorority women and fraternity men. You may not see it but systematically speaking you are privileged sorry. Not once did I say that you were a bigot I don’t call anyone that. Tim Wolfe apologized saying that he should have acted when his car clipped a student protestor so in that instance he did nothing. Throughout that whole demonstration he sat in his car as events began to unfold. Furthermore, never in my explanation did I say that blacks are the only ones that go through racism (please look up the word racism I think the word you are looking for is prejudice.) I know that every race and color go through issues and I know white people go through I know I see that as well but don’t think that you still are as equal when it comes to struggles as other minorities. Im sorry that your life has been threatened because of your skin tone it isn’t right but for you to claim that I believe my race is the only race that goes through is distasteful.
I tried to stay open minded and put myself in other shoes to understand where some people who agree with this is coming from but I simply can not. I just have a couple of questions.
1) since you do not agree with Butler’s tactic of protest, what should he have done instead? You seem to disagree with the protesting that students and faculty are doing but gave zero solutions on how to be heard.
2)what makes you think that being in a sorority or fraternity is as equal as being a POC? You chose to become a sorority girl and men chose to be a fraternity guy. I didn’t choose to be black. No matter how nice I am and no matter how hard I work for what I have It’ll always be assumed that I’m on welfare or I’m lazy just because of my skin tone.
Yes everyone goes through something but because he is black and this directly effects him as well as students at this institution he chose to protest. Why did not the president act when informed these things were going on? Say you all had construction workers on your campus catcalling y’all. Y’all felt threatened and harassed and y’all went to administration, wouldn’t you want them to act? The students tuition pays for the administration to work and when I have an issue that is disturbing the learning I paid for I expect to see results. It simply shows that he cares. Forget that if he would have done something or said something and nothing gets handled the fact that if he would have said something it would showed that he cared. Those students were protesting peacefully and non violently to be heard just like they did in the 50s. No they did not riot but it was peaceful and people still have an issue with that? People get mad when POC riots to be heard and when they protest peacefully people still get mad. So what would you like them to do just take it? They pay just as much money as the other students there to get a quality education without their life being threatened. Has your life been threatened multiple times because of your skin color? I could go on and on but you aren’t racist, you just have to try to see it through their eyes and just not through yours.
Stay peaceful TSM ☮
I started crying while reading this. It was like you were talking straight to me giving me advice and being there for me. Thank you so much this article is what I needed.
This was a right on time article! I just got done with recruitment and I had people tell me that they seen girls crying and feeling like complete crap because of what happened and they would get invited back to our sorority but be dropped by 3 others. These people had the audacity to tell pnms that we take the left overs! Something needs to be done about the system because clearly it doesn’t work!
This article was simply amazing! As a black gal it’s kind of tough but at the end of the day I know that joining my sorority was so worth it. My mom didn’t have a problem with it which was a blessing and I’ve dealt with some sly remarks not from my sisters but others but I still love the experience.
I can honestly see why everyone is so upset with this article…it sucks, it’s horrible and maybe it hits close to home for a lot of people. Just this past spring semester I had a boyfriend (ex now) and this summer his side chick decided she was upset with me and wrote a letter similar to this (but with way more detail) to me. I cried I screamed asked myself every question in the book and it hurt me deeply…my point is some people really do think this way that it is ok to be the home wrecker or side chick and we as a society (not just a little bit of Greek life lets face it some bad people find there way into our chapters) but some women in general think it’s ok. It was once frowned upon being the side chick now songs are being made about it heck a lady came out and wrote a song about being a side chick to Jayz. We all know it sucks that people think this way and this letter is really god awful and hurtful but we don’t need to be mad at the writer (unless she really think it’s ok to be this way) we need to get back to the time when being a home wrecker was horrible.
I’m right there with you. It’s sad that girls actually think that being the side girl is ok but it actually causes the other person the girlfriend so much emotional and psychological damage
No one said that you chose to be white. My point in that sentence was arguing against the point where she spoke on sorority women and fraternity men. You may not see it but systematically speaking you are privileged sorry. Not once did I say that you were a bigot I don’t call anyone that. Tim Wolfe apologized saying that he should have acted when his car clipped a student protestor so in that instance he did nothing. Throughout that whole demonstration he sat in his car as events began to unfold. Furthermore, never in my explanation did I say that blacks are the only ones that go through racism (please look up the word racism I think the word you are looking for is prejudice.) I know that every race and color go through issues and I know white people go through I know I see that as well but don’t think that you still are as equal when it comes to struggles as other minorities. Im sorry that your life has been threatened because of your skin tone it isn’t right but for you to claim that I believe my race is the only race that goes through is distasteful.
I tried to stay open minded and put myself in other shoes to understand where some people who agree with this is coming from but I simply can not. I just have a couple of questions.
1) since you do not agree with Butler’s tactic of protest, what should he have done instead? You seem to disagree with the protesting that students and faculty are doing but gave zero solutions on how to be heard.
2)what makes you think that being in a sorority or fraternity is as equal as being a POC? You chose to become a sorority girl and men chose to be a fraternity guy. I didn’t choose to be black. No matter how nice I am and no matter how hard I work for what I have It’ll always be assumed that I’m on welfare or I’m lazy just because of my skin tone.
Yes everyone goes through something but because he is black and this directly effects him as well as students at this institution he chose to protest. Why did not the president act when informed these things were going on? Say you all had construction workers on your campus catcalling y’all. Y’all felt threatened and harassed and y’all went to administration, wouldn’t you want them to act? The students tuition pays for the administration to work and when I have an issue that is disturbing the learning I paid for I expect to see results. It simply shows that he cares. Forget that if he would have done something or said something and nothing gets handled the fact that if he would have said something it would showed that he cared. Those students were protesting peacefully and non violently to be heard just like they did in the 50s. No they did not riot but it was peaceful and people still have an issue with that? People get mad when POC riots to be heard and when they protest peacefully people still get mad. So what would you like them to do just take it? They pay just as much money as the other students there to get a quality education without their life being threatened. Has your life been threatened multiple times because of your skin color? I could go on and on but you aren’t racist, you just have to try to see it through their eyes and just not through yours.
Stay peaceful TSM ☮
Is it bad that I’m a tad turned on? #sorrynotsorry lol
I started crying while reading this. It was like you were talking straight to me giving me advice and being there for me. Thank you so much this article is what I needed.
Shots were definitely fired!
#dearme,
stop settling for less your king will find you one day.
This was perfect!
When Kylie Jenner wore her dreadlocks she was called a “trendsetter” but when Zendaya wore hers then those remarks surfaced.
You do have a valid point
Jojo13 does have a valid point
All the feels
It’s my birthday !!!! Big 21
This was a right on time article! I just got done with recruitment and I had people tell me that they seen girls crying and feeling like complete crap because of what happened and they would get invited back to our sorority but be dropped by 3 others. These people had the audacity to tell pnms that we take the left overs! Something needs to be done about the system because clearly it doesn’t work!
This is great.
This article was simply amazing! As a black gal it’s kind of tough but at the end of the day I know that joining my sorority was so worth it. My mom didn’t have a problem with it which was a blessing and I’ve dealt with some sly remarks not from my sisters but others but I still love the experience.
I can honestly see why everyone is so upset with this article…it sucks, it’s horrible and maybe it hits close to home for a lot of people. Just this past spring semester I had a boyfriend (ex now) and this summer his side chick decided she was upset with me and wrote a letter similar to this (but with way more detail) to me. I cried I screamed asked myself every question in the book and it hurt me deeply…my point is some people really do think this way that it is ok to be the home wrecker or side chick and we as a society (not just a little bit of Greek life lets face it some bad people find there way into our chapters) but some women in general think it’s ok. It was once frowned upon being the side chick now songs are being made about it heck a lady came out and wrote a song about being a side chick to Jayz. We all know it sucks that people think this way and this letter is really god awful and hurtful but we don’t need to be mad at the writer (unless she really think it’s ok to be this way) we need to get back to the time when being a home wrecker was horrible.
I’m right there with you. It’s sad that girls actually think that being the side girl is ok but it actually causes the other person the girlfriend so much emotional and psychological damage
All I could say was…wow that was well said I’ve heard this from the sides so much. Very spot on