Wow, TSM, I literally submitted this article to you but in different words last night… LITERALLY THE EXACT SAME THING. About my shitty ex who I thought was perfect at first until he started messing around with other girls and how I started to find out about it when one of my sisters told me she saw him making out with other girls at a bar and ending with telling girls to get themselves out of this situation and respect themselves… thanks so much for giving me credit for this idea/story!!! You guys ROCK! (And don’t bother telling me that we must have had the same idea at once, because this is literally the EXACT SAME story.) So disappointed.
I thought this was going to be a funny article until I got to the unnecessary GDI bashing… like what? This is why people hate Greeks and think we’re stuck up. Even if this is a satire site, it’s just not necessary or relevant.
Unfortunately I don’t think there is one specific way of doing recruitment that will make everyone happy. No matter what we do, it’s going to work out for some girls, but not for others. It’s a crappy situation but even at my school, where we do a no frills recruitment, girls still get their feelings hurt simply because there is not enough room for every single girl going through recruitment to join a chapter. Even if sororities did recruitment like fraternities do (simply by hanging out with the chapter), people would still get cut and be upset about it. As disappointing as it can be, it’s just the nature of recruitment.
Everyone plays “hard to get” every now and then, it’s just a game. I don’t think there’s a problem with pursuing someone at all. To be safe, if you’re ever at the point while you’re hooking up where you’re about to have sex, stop what you’re doing and straight up ask the girl. That’s really the only way that anyone (male or female) can be sure.
Although this is definitely an important point, in my situation I was completely sober, and I know that this has happened to other girls who have been sober as well. And no, this isn’t a matter of simply regretting it the next day, this is a matter of being so stricken with fear and confusion that you physically can’t speak or get up to get yourself out of the situation.
Thank you so much for writing this. I had something like this happen to me my freshman year, and a while later I started dating another guy. I eventually opened up to my boyfriend at the time about what had happened, explaining that I felt like I got raped, but at the same time I knew it wasn’t RAPE. He accused me of being the “girl who cried wolf” and broke up with me then and there, and then proceeded to tell the guy that raped-but-didn’t-rape-me-idk that I was going around telling people that he raped me (which I wasn’t, nobody knew that him and I had sex besides me, my big, and my later boyfriend). This is an issue that needs to somehow be addressed, because I know I’m not alone when I say that there’s nights where I just break down and cry because I’m not sure how I’m supposed to feel about sleeping with this guy 3 years later.
Wow, TSM, I literally submitted this article to you but in different words last night… LITERALLY THE EXACT SAME THING. About my shitty ex who I thought was perfect at first until he started messing around with other girls and how I started to find out about it when one of my sisters told me she saw him making out with other girls at a bar and ending with telling girls to get themselves out of this situation and respect themselves… thanks so much for giving me credit for this idea/story!!! You guys ROCK! (And don’t bother telling me that we must have had the same idea at once, because this is literally the EXACT SAME story.) So disappointed.
Am I the only one who finds her incredibly annoying? But props to her for doing her thing I guess.
Thanks for posting that website, it really made me think about every little issue and it explained everything really well!
I thought this was going to be a funny article until I got to the unnecessary GDI bashing… like what? This is why people hate Greeks and think we’re stuck up. Even if this is a satire site, it’s just not necessary or relevant.
To the girls getting offended by this article… you do remember that this is a SATIRE website, right?
Unfortunately I don’t think there is one specific way of doing recruitment that will make everyone happy. No matter what we do, it’s going to work out for some girls, but not for others. It’s a crappy situation but even at my school, where we do a no frills recruitment, girls still get their feelings hurt simply because there is not enough room for every single girl going through recruitment to join a chapter. Even if sororities did recruitment like fraternities do (simply by hanging out with the chapter), people would still get cut and be upset about it. As disappointing as it can be, it’s just the nature of recruitment.
Everyone plays “hard to get” every now and then, it’s just a game. I don’t think there’s a problem with pursuing someone at all. To be safe, if you’re ever at the point while you’re hooking up where you’re about to have sex, stop what you’re doing and straight up ask the girl. That’s really the only way that anyone (male or female) can be sure.
Although this is definitely an important point, in my situation I was completely sober, and I know that this has happened to other girls who have been sober as well. And no, this isn’t a matter of simply regretting it the next day, this is a matter of being so stricken with fear and confusion that you physically can’t speak or get up to get yourself out of the situation.
Thank you so much for writing this. I had something like this happen to me my freshman year, and a while later I started dating another guy. I eventually opened up to my boyfriend at the time about what had happened, explaining that I felt like I got raped, but at the same time I knew it wasn’t RAPE. He accused me of being the “girl who cried wolf” and broke up with me then and there, and then proceeded to tell the guy that raped-but-didn’t-rape-me-idk that I was going around telling people that he raped me (which I wasn’t, nobody knew that him and I had sex besides me, my big, and my later boyfriend). This is an issue that needs to somehow be addressed, because I know I’m not alone when I say that there’s nights where I just break down and cry because I’m not sure how I’m supposed to feel about sleeping with this guy 3 years later.