Not once did she talk about dating or not dating someone based on dick size. Just sleeping with them. Men don’t even get to the stage of almost-sleeping-with-a-lady because, like she said, men are able to judge our bodies before we’re undressed. Men shouldn’t have to sleep with women they don’t want to sleep with, and the same goes for women.
This kind of BC has existed for years, but not enough men wanted to use it so it never really “hit the market” so to speak.
And honestly, I forget to take out the trash and forget where I put my keys all the time. I’ve also forgotten to my BC once or twice a month in the past. It’s about trusting your partner and being comfortable enough to say “yeah maybe we should use a condom this time.” Men are capable of this kind of honesty, believe it or not.
#12 has got to be the worst thing a guy could ever say in that situation. Like here, let me hump and dump you, then ensure that you’re miserable for an extended period of time all because I wanted to get off. No thanks.
I completely agree with this. Pretty much all Christmas music is over-played and super cliche (those of us who work retail or are waitresses know this for sure, as we have to listen to it day in and day out until December 26th finally rolls around).
A man not being your type doesn’t make him any less of a man, and I find your description of guys who aren’t afraid to share certain feelings to be pretty hostile. Not every guy that wants to open up to a girl he cares about is some emotional “hipster”. He’s human.
In addition, not every girl that had an intensely caring father will end up dependent on another man later in life. I had a relatively absent father and yes, I ended up extremely independent, but I also know plenty of other women who grew up with extremely present fathers who indeed treated them like princesses, and those ladies became just as independent as you or I claim to be.
Honestly this whole article just sounded like a huge slap in the face to anyone that was raised differently, or decides to date/sleep around differently than you do. And especially insults any man that allows himself to be human and not put on the act of “alpha male” to get a woman’s attention. You’re totally entitled to be attracted to that kind of macho guy, but that doesn’t mean all other men are lesser because you prefer the former type.
Research suggests that those who watch porn more frequently have an even more difficult time getting off during sex, because they are desensitized. Why do you think men have to continue to up their porn game, having to switch from pictures to gifs to videos when the former no longer satisfies them? Maybe it’s only normal that they watch it because it is socialized to be normal and there’s an entire industry built on it. But that doesn’t make it right, and if the author of that letter feels like her boyfriend is cheating on her, she doesn’t have to minimize or ignore those feelings just because someone else says watching porn is normal and healthy, especially when research suggests that it’s not (healthy, that is). I agree that masturbating is normal, and everyone should be allowed to explore their own bodies without shame, but porn’s effects on the brain are psychologically proven to be damaging, and even more so in men than women, due to their reliance on visual stimuli.
Basically, she has the right to feel how she feels about the situation, and should definitely talk to him about it. I know of couples who watch it together, and I know of couples who promise each other not to watch it at all. And both actually do exist. She should be allowed to explore either of those options (or none of them) with her boyfriend without jumping to the conclusion that just because everyone does it, she shouldn’t be bothered by it.
Side note: I had many a conversation about this in multiple psych and human sexuality classes while in undergrad, however I swear I don’t claim to be an expert. Just throwing what I have gathered out there in hopes that it will also help the author of the letter.
Ok but seriously, #34.
Same kind of legacy! ZLAM!
Not once did she talk about dating or not dating someone based on dick size. Just sleeping with them. Men don’t even get to the stage of almost-sleeping-with-a-lady because, like she said, men are able to judge our bodies before we’re undressed. Men shouldn’t have to sleep with women they don’t want to sleep with, and the same goes for women.
So important.
Honestly, number 5 was actually enlightening. This article is appreciated!
Packaging and presentation are a part of advertising so…
#20 literally every time
ZLAM (to both my sister and that pizza)
This kind of BC has existed for years, but not enough men wanted to use it so it never really “hit the market” so to speak.
And honestly, I forget to take out the trash and forget where I put my keys all the time. I’ve also forgotten to my BC once or twice a month in the past. It’s about trusting your partner and being comfortable enough to say “yeah maybe we should use a condom this time.” Men are capable of this kind of honesty, believe it or not.
ZLAM
#12 has got to be the worst thing a guy could ever say in that situation. Like here, let me hump and dump you, then ensure that you’re miserable for an extended period of time all because I wanted to get off. No thanks.
Ok but can we talk about how much he reminds me of Nick from New Girl?
If a guy has to state that he’s actually a “nice guy”, odds are he’s the furthest from it when he shows his true colors.
“He’s voting for Trump.” Dying.
I personally preferred her blonde lob, but that’s just me.
Nice try
I completely agree with this. Pretty much all Christmas music is over-played and super cliche (those of us who work retail or are waitresses know this for sure, as we have to listen to it day in and day out until December 26th finally rolls around).
A man not being your type doesn’t make him any less of a man, and I find your description of guys who aren’t afraid to share certain feelings to be pretty hostile. Not every guy that wants to open up to a girl he cares about is some emotional “hipster”. He’s human.
In addition, not every girl that had an intensely caring father will end up dependent on another man later in life. I had a relatively absent father and yes, I ended up extremely independent, but I also know plenty of other women who grew up with extremely present fathers who indeed treated them like princesses, and those ladies became just as independent as you or I claim to be.
Honestly this whole article just sounded like a huge slap in the face to anyone that was raised differently, or decides to date/sleep around differently than you do. And especially insults any man that allows himself to be human and not put on the act of “alpha male” to get a woman’s attention. You’re totally entitled to be attracted to that kind of macho guy, but that doesn’t mean all other men are lesser because you prefer the former type.
Honestly that picture of the red-eyed girl is scarier than any period I’ve ever suffered through.
Research suggests that those who watch porn more frequently have an even more difficult time getting off during sex, because they are desensitized. Why do you think men have to continue to up their porn game, having to switch from pictures to gifs to videos when the former no longer satisfies them? Maybe it’s only normal that they watch it because it is socialized to be normal and there’s an entire industry built on it. But that doesn’t make it right, and if the author of that letter feels like her boyfriend is cheating on her, she doesn’t have to minimize or ignore those feelings just because someone else says watching porn is normal and healthy, especially when research suggests that it’s not (healthy, that is). I agree that masturbating is normal, and everyone should be allowed to explore their own bodies without shame, but porn’s effects on the brain are psychologically proven to be damaging, and even more so in men than women, due to their reliance on visual stimuli.
Basically, she has the right to feel how she feels about the situation, and should definitely talk to him about it. I know of couples who watch it together, and I know of couples who promise each other not to watch it at all. And both actually do exist. She should be allowed to explore either of those options (or none of them) with her boyfriend without jumping to the conclusion that just because everyone does it, she shouldn’t be bothered by it.
Side note: I had many a conversation about this in multiple psych and human sexuality classes while in undergrad, however I swear I don’t claim to be an expert. Just throwing what I have gathered out there in hopes that it will also help the author of the letter.