This was 100% me until two months ago. I was so worked up for all of college about the fact that no guy had ever actually liked me that I had to set parameters to force myself to chill out and not let it wreck my first post-grad summer. Not two weeks later, I met my now-boyfriend. All I can say is that the ability to take a breath and a step back to focus on yourself and your needs is the most important thing.
If I’m not mistaken, we do have one of the smallest total number of chapters of any national. According to the numbers posted above, we do have an outsize alumnae base with respect to our low number of chapters.
As a 34D, I can’t even fathom going braless unless I’m in pajamas in my bed. Why should my back have to bear the weight when any decent bra, provided it fits correctly, will do that for me?
As a member of another sorority at Michigan, I can only reinforce the confidence that this edit was not made by the chapter. I don’t think there is any sorority represented here that, on the campus level, would advocate for this type of action. Forever Go Blue, Laura.
Until I got to college, the vast majority of the people with whom I had close friendships were guys. Sure, I had my bunk from camp and a few girls from dance, including my best friend to this day, but the crew I would hang out with at lunch and in the hallways were boys. I got along with most of the girls just fine (there are always a few who hate you for no good reason) and was included in every pregame pizza lunch and preseason sleepover for the lacrosse team. I just never found girls at my own school with whom I really connected until I got my bid about a month into college. I am closer to my sisters than I am with almost anyone in the world outside my family. They are the majority of my friends and I have separation anxiety whenever I go home for the weekend, but they did not become my friends simply by virtue of being female. In fact, many, if not most, of my friends outside of my sorority are still male, but my friendships with them have only positively affected my relationships with my sisters. Maybe some girls have an agenda behind their group of guy friends, but some just may not have found their girls yet. Give us a chance, we’ll get there.
It also really sucks to be on the other end of this. I rushed as a first-semester freshman and watched my entire pledge class get littles during our sophomore year. When I finally got a match first semester of my junior year, I was ecstatic and went all out, only to find that my little barely cared about me. The next semester, I was asked if I would be willing to take another little and, in one lovely moment, she encouraged me to do so. Upon finding out who her twin was, she froze me out completely and I had to find out from my president both that she had sent out transfer applications and that she had decided to stay. I am extremely close with my second little and I wouldn’t trade her for the world, but I still feel like I’m failing as a big.
My entire pham has birthdays within one week (one of my littles on the 11th, my big on the 12th, the other little on the 17th, and me on the 18th), and we might just have to steal your idea. So cute, ladies!
Greetings from season 7. We demand to know where Alex and tWitch’s “Outta Your Mind” and Lauren (Pi Phi at Loyola Marymount) and Kent’s “Collide” went, as well as Robert and Allison’s “Fix You”.
Having a younger brother is really amazing too. It gives you a lens into what young guys struggle with from a vantage point of (slightly) more advanced age and lets you translate that into a better understanding of why guys your own age do what they do. It’s also super beneficial for said younger brother, because he grows up looking up to and really respecting a girl. He’ll know better than to treat a girl in a way he wouldn’t want to see his big sister treated, and he can still beat up the heartbreakers. I always tell my younger brother that one of my proudest days was the first time someone’s eyes lit up when they said “Oh, you’re Sam’s sister!” upon meeting me.
Not in DPhiE, but can we collectively issue them a pass? It’s their thing and all.
This was 100% me until two months ago. I was so worked up for all of college about the fact that no guy had ever actually liked me that I had to set parameters to force myself to chill out and not let it wreck my first post-grad summer. Not two weeks later, I met my now-boyfriend. All I can say is that the ability to take a breath and a step back to focus on yourself and your needs is the most important thing.
A piece of my heart shattered upon reading your question. I weep for you, sister.
If I’m not mistaken, we do have one of the smallest total number of chapters of any national. According to the numbers posted above, we do have an outsize alumnae base with respect to our low number of chapters.
As a 34D, I can’t even fathom going braless unless I’m in pajamas in my bed. Why should my back have to bear the weight when any decent bra, provided it fits correctly, will do that for me?
As a member of another sorority at Michigan, I can only reinforce the confidence that this edit was not made by the chapter. I don’t think there is any sorority represented here that, on the campus level, would advocate for this type of action. Forever Go Blue, Laura.
Literally where are you, boy?
Until I got to college, the vast majority of the people with whom I had close friendships were guys. Sure, I had my bunk from camp and a few girls from dance, including my best friend to this day, but the crew I would hang out with at lunch and in the hallways were boys. I got along with most of the girls just fine (there are always a few who hate you for no good reason) and was included in every pregame pizza lunch and preseason sleepover for the lacrosse team. I just never found girls at my own school with whom I really connected until I got my bid about a month into college. I am closer to my sisters than I am with almost anyone in the world outside my family. They are the majority of my friends and I have separation anxiety whenever I go home for the weekend, but they did not become my friends simply by virtue of being female. In fact, many, if not most, of my friends outside of my sorority are still male, but my friendships with them have only positively affected my relationships with my sisters. Maybe some girls have an agenda behind their group of guy friends, but some just may not have found their girls yet. Give us a chance, we’ll get there.
We need an Augustina “Tina” Hess
1940s, hands down, end of story
This should be required reading. A+.
LML!
I’m definitely not crying right now… nope, no eyeliner on my face at all.
It also really sucks to be on the other end of this. I rushed as a first-semester freshman and watched my entire pledge class get littles during our sophomore year. When I finally got a match first semester of my junior year, I was ecstatic and went all out, only to find that my little barely cared about me. The next semester, I was asked if I would be willing to take another little and, in one lovely moment, she encouraged me to do so. Upon finding out who her twin was, she froze me out completely and I had to find out from my president both that she had sent out transfer applications and that she had decided to stay. I am extremely close with my second little and I wouldn’t trade her for the world, but I still feel like I’m failing as a big.
Tears of joy, tears of pride, tears everywhere. All the panhel love, sweetheart.
My entire pham has birthdays within one week (one of my littles on the 11th, my big on the 12th, the other little on the 17th, and me on the 18th), and we might just have to steal your idea. So cute, ladies!
Cheno is queen of life. Let’s be real, Galinda would be an instant bid.
Keep up the good work! LML!
Greetings from season 7. We demand to know where Alex and tWitch’s “Outta Your Mind” and Lauren (Pi Phi at Loyola Marymount) and Kent’s “Collide” went, as well as Robert and Allison’s “Fix You”.
Having a younger brother is really amazing too. It gives you a lens into what young guys struggle with from a vantage point of (slightly) more advanced age and lets you translate that into a better understanding of why guys your own age do what they do. It’s also super beneficial for said younger brother, because he grows up looking up to and really respecting a girl. He’ll know better than to treat a girl in a way he wouldn’t want to see his big sister treated, and he can still beat up the heartbreakers. I always tell my younger brother that one of my proudest days was the first time someone’s eyes lit up when they said “Oh, you’re Sam’s sister!” upon meeting me.