The greater point to be learned here is that it’s way better to own up to being a bitch and then having fun with it, rather than brand yourself as a “nice, down to earth, girl next door,” cause you aint fooling no one honey
Your honesty is like a refreshing swig of diet coke in a new-agey era of slimy kombucha articles that pretend he doesn’t look at our thighs. Thank you/this article is perfect
I know. It’s ridiculous that the fraternity wasn’t even given enough information, with which they could then prove that there was no function on the reported date or that there was no “lifeguard-Drew member” until after the story was released. I can’t believe they were suspended with a lack of such basic evidence.
I’m disgusted by how many significant gaps there were in the original reporting. Of course reporters can be sympathetic (they’re human), but to present an account like this as factual, there needed to have been evidence beyond a first person account. They shouldn’t have tried to “protect the identities” of a few select individuals who didn’t even participate in the investigation until AFTER IT WAS PUBLISHED, because doing that and avoiding digging deeper unrightfully tarnished the reputations of UVA, and entire organization, and even Greek life as whole. Unfortunately, the article and all its controversy has also likely made it “more difficult now to engage some people … because they have a preconceived notion that women lie about sexual assault.” It’s shame how poorly this entire debate has reflected on all parties involved.
PREACH, GTKRWN. I think telling everyone, “just be yourself, everyone will love you just as you are” often does way more harm than good. As someone pointed out above, most women tend to prefer taller guys, and for them it honestly sucks more because they actually can’t change that anything about that. If you’re so worried about being too curvy/too fat/too thin or WHATEVER, that’s much easier (albeit still a challenge) to alter than something like height. You can still be healthy, slender, and “take a dick,” but that’s irrelevant because people are attracted to different traits and it’s 100% subjective & circumstantial. But if you’re concerned about other peoples’ perceptions, you’re more likely just concerned about whatever it is yourself.
If everyone took a shot when the phrase “that’s offensive” gets thrown around, we’d all be blacked out enough to finally stop fussing over how every side of every argument could be a potential trigger or, God forbid, offensive!
YES. You perfectly explained exactly what I feel. I definitely lean right in that I live by the “I do me, you do you” mantra, and all I want is a Republican Party that supports marriage and reproductive freedom because THAT MAKES SENSE.
This obsession with “political correctness” is the worst because these people, who complain about how offensive everything is, THINK they’re “saving society,” but trying to censor everything does far more harm than good. It’s just whiny slacktivism, and in this case gets in the way of an organization doing ACTUAL good. So props to Theta for doing real philanthropy (in a really creative way) and good luck to all organizations dealing with this kind of misguided confrontation.
This woman’s story started out just how mine did, and progressed how I imagine many do. The line “I just didn’t get how they thought that was okay” is so important because it highlights a major (and sometimes unrecognized) part of eating disorders: the indirect mental isolation. Since restriction requires you to develop negative feelings about eating, it becomes too easy, and perhaps automatic, to internally judge others who are enjoying the thing you’re teaching yourself to reject. Eating disorders take as much of a toll on the mental and social parts of an individual as they do the physical. This is why I’m so grateful for the sharing of brave articles like this that help people understand, and help people help themselves. The support coming from the TSM community warms my heart, as do the comments about sororities being the supportive communities that have helped girls recover and love themselves. It’s so true that once you love yourself, you can love those around you–and that’s what sisterhood is all about.
THANK YOU for pointing out that sex is mutually beneficial. I mean props to Fernandez for bringing together two of my favorite things (sex and the economy), but as Hot Piece points out, it’s definitely something 2(+) people do to each other.
Team Miley 100%
The greater point to be learned here is that it’s way better to own up to being a bitch and then having fun with it, rather than brand yourself as a “nice, down to earth, girl next door,” cause you aint fooling no one honey
Your honesty is like a refreshing swig of diet coke in a new-agey era of slimy kombucha articles that pretend he doesn’t look at our thighs. Thank you/this article is perfect
The world needs to read this post (and watch more Amy Schumer)
I know. It’s ridiculous that the fraternity wasn’t even given enough information, with which they could then prove that there was no function on the reported date or that there was no “lifeguard-Drew member” until after the story was released. I can’t believe they were suspended with a lack of such basic evidence.
I’m disgusted by how many significant gaps there were in the original reporting. Of course reporters can be sympathetic (they’re human), but to present an account like this as factual, there needed to have been evidence beyond a first person account. They shouldn’t have tried to “protect the identities” of a few select individuals who didn’t even participate in the investigation until AFTER IT WAS PUBLISHED, because doing that and avoiding digging deeper unrightfully tarnished the reputations of UVA, and entire organization, and even Greek life as whole. Unfortunately, the article and all its controversy has also likely made it “more difficult now to engage some people … because they have a preconceived notion that women lie about sexual assault.” It’s shame how poorly this entire debate has reflected on all parties involved.
Also reminds you to not eat a ton at once. Weird indeed, but I’ll vouch for this
Def Mr Big
PREACH, GTKRWN. I think telling everyone, “just be yourself, everyone will love you just as you are” often does way more harm than good. As someone pointed out above, most women tend to prefer taller guys, and for them it honestly sucks more because they actually can’t change that anything about that. If you’re so worried about being too curvy/too fat/too thin or WHATEVER, that’s much easier (albeit still a challenge) to alter than something like height. You can still be healthy, slender, and “take a dick,” but that’s irrelevant because people are attracted to different traits and it’s 100% subjective & circumstantial. But if you’re concerned about other peoples’ perceptions, you’re more likely just concerned about whatever it is yourself.
Never have I ever agreed this much with something President Obama has said
This is painfully accurate (I love it)
If everyone took a shot when the phrase “that’s offensive” gets thrown around, we’d all be blacked out enough to finally stop fussing over how every side of every argument could be a potential trigger or, God forbid, offensive!
My exactly goes to Nantucket Red/her welfare comment
EXACTLY
YES. You perfectly explained exactly what I feel. I definitely lean right in that I live by the “I do me, you do you” mantra, and all I want is a Republican Party that supports marriage and reproductive freedom because THAT MAKES SENSE.
This obsession with “political correctness” is the worst because these people, who complain about how offensive everything is, THINK they’re “saving society,” but trying to censor everything does far more harm than good. It’s just whiny slacktivism, and in this case gets in the way of an organization doing ACTUAL good. So props to Theta for doing real philanthropy (in a really creative way) and good luck to all organizations dealing with this kind of misguided confrontation.
Could Spain first try to ban the creeps who groped at me and my friends on the metro at 2 in the afternoon? Priorities
This woman’s story started out just how mine did, and progressed how I imagine many do. The line “I just didn’t get how they thought that was okay” is so important because it highlights a major (and sometimes unrecognized) part of eating disorders: the indirect mental isolation. Since restriction requires you to develop negative feelings about eating, it becomes too easy, and perhaps automatic, to internally judge others who are enjoying the thing you’re teaching yourself to reject. Eating disorders take as much of a toll on the mental and social parts of an individual as they do the physical. This is why I’m so grateful for the sharing of brave articles like this that help people understand, and help people help themselves. The support coming from the TSM community warms my heart, as do the comments about sororities being the supportive communities that have helped girls recover and love themselves. It’s so true that once you love yourself, you can love those around you–and that’s what sisterhood is all about.
#5 every weekend, word for word. If only my checking account was as steady as the stream of texts from mom..
THANK YOU for pointing out that sex is mutually beneficial. I mean props to Fernandez for bringing together two of my favorite things (sex and the economy), but as Hot Piece points out, it’s definitely something 2(+) people do to each other.