It’s just ironic how this powerful Ted talk is being written about alongside articles written about Pi Phi burning their letters and the girl who has sex with a tree. Posting articles like that are the opposite of message trying to be sent here. Everyone goes out that’s not the problem. Associating partying with sorority however, only encourages negative stereotypes. It just seems like this site is very hypocritical and contradicting. Just pick a side and stick with it.
Hot piece, while I agree with what you said in the article and this comment, I do have a reservation and this is it: it is difficult to respect the points you make and view your opinions as credible while TSM so often posts articles about shacking up and blacking out. If we want to combat all of the societal pressure on us right now, we need to do a lot more than just ban hoop skirts. For one, we need to take responsibility for our actions and work on our PR.
I think the steps SAE’s national office is making are really progressive and important. But it does break my heart to think of those chapter members who were not involved, or just joined, and have lost everything they’ve worked for. If it were me, I’d be devastated. I don’t really have any idea of a solution for this but it still makes me sad.
Why don’t you just have a conversation with him about it? Nobody can tell you why he is acting like that except him. If it’s something that’s troubling you, and you care about him as much as you say, then you need to ask him in a way that is respectful and non-judgmental. If you assume it’s something “wrong with his dick” or anything else, it’ll end up backfiring and you could both get really hurt. Honesty is always the best policy.
Porn doesn’t hurt relationships. If it does, that’s because there’s an underlying issue (i.e. an insecure girlfriend). I would definitely rather be okay with my boyfriend watching porn and be open about it than give him a reason to start hiding things from me. If you honestly and truly think you can stop a guy from watching porn you are kidding yourself.
I think that there are multiple factors to consider while assessing these numbers. For one, the Huffington Post is not exactly a credible source. Second, while the numbers of reported sexual assaults may be rising, this could also be interpreted as more women are coming forward as a result of increased education on the matter. Finally, we don’t know how the polls were advertised to participants, which could sway votes. My point is, schools do a tremendous amount to educate students and try to prevent sexual assault. Could they do more? Absolutely. They could always do more. But the responsibility lies with those who are committing these crimes. Instead of blaming the presidents, let’s come up with more progressive ideas, female empowerment projects, etc. to continue to help these programs grow! We need to support and nurture these processes, not tear them down.
I saw her picture on Instagram before I saw this post and laughed to myself. It was cute and charming. I’m sorry you feel that pretty girls can’t be funny… It seems contradictory to the positive body image articles that were posted recently. I personally find you to be pretty and funny, but maybe you just don’t see yourself that way? What a shame.
Guys, especially fraternity guys, love to boast. They all know what’s up. You’ve gotten yourself in quite a sticky situation there, ma’am. I’m crossing my fingers for you!
Unfortunately, the issue is that it wasn’t chapter business or ritual that was leaked. It was awful awful things and it’s possible that the chapters discipline board might not have been intact. I’m not saying it’s right, nobody likes a snitch. But what happened was more than wrong. And if the chapter has to deal with the consequences, than it is what it is. That’s how Greek life works. You’re always part of and representative of the group you joined. Period.
“You are always wearing you’re letters.” It’s the golden rule of Greek life. If I had such horrible representation of MY organization, even in private, I would absolutely be recommending them for termination repeatedly. As much as it sucks to have the whole chapter punished (and trust me I understand this from experience), the chapter didn’t hold their members accountable for their actions. Unfortunately, this is the result. And for the record, Facebook owns EVERYTHING you post. There is no privacy on the Internet.
The chapter was suspended for being brutally racist and disrespectful. If they are comfortable putting that nonsense on the Internet for the public to see, I don’t want to think about what they do and say in private.
So happy to be reading an article that brings us back to where our organizations began. Just a bunch of strong women getting together and kicking ass. I love it! I’m endlessly proud to be Greek.
I think you’re right. It’s hard because it feels like everything is offensive these days. We walk on egg shells and don’t talk openly because we don’t want to be rude. By being this way, we actually diminish the severity of truly offensive words or actions.
You might want to check back some of your old comments before you act all Mr. Wonderful. You have a history of blatantly insulting writers rather than criticizing their writing. Hot piece for example in her stereotype article. I’m just saying. You troll, and your time would probably be better spent elsewhere. But hey it’s America you keep doing you if you want.
Prince Harry, I hardly believe that a former “infantryman” would spend his days trolling a college women’s sorority site. If you really want to keep yourself busy, there are plenty of nonprofit organizations that would love an extra set of hands.
It’s just ironic how this powerful Ted talk is being written about alongside articles written about Pi Phi burning their letters and the girl who has sex with a tree. Posting articles like that are the opposite of message trying to be sent here. Everyone goes out that’s not the problem. Associating partying with sorority however, only encourages negative stereotypes. It just seems like this site is very hypocritical and contradicting. Just pick a side and stick with it.
Hot piece, while I agree with what you said in the article and this comment, I do have a reservation and this is it: it is difficult to respect the points you make and view your opinions as credible while TSM so often posts articles about shacking up and blacking out. If we want to combat all of the societal pressure on us right now, we need to do a lot more than just ban hoop skirts. For one, we need to take responsibility for our actions and work on our PR.
I think the steps SAE’s national office is making are really progressive and important. But it does break my heart to think of those chapter members who were not involved, or just joined, and have lost everything they’ve worked for. If it were me, I’d be devastated. I don’t really have any idea of a solution for this but it still makes me sad.
Why don’t you just have a conversation with him about it? Nobody can tell you why he is acting like that except him. If it’s something that’s troubling you, and you care about him as much as you say, then you need to ask him in a way that is respectful and non-judgmental. If you assume it’s something “wrong with his dick” or anything else, it’ll end up backfiring and you could both get really hurt. Honesty is always the best policy.
SNAPS!
What did I just read?
Porn doesn’t hurt relationships. If it does, that’s because there’s an underlying issue (i.e. an insecure girlfriend). I would definitely rather be okay with my boyfriend watching porn and be open about it than give him a reason to start hiding things from me. If you honestly and truly think you can stop a guy from watching porn you are kidding yourself.
Additionally, the “Daddy Issues” photo posted is inappropriate. It implies blaming victims for their assaults and that’s wrong.
I think that there are multiple factors to consider while assessing these numbers. For one, the Huffington Post is not exactly a credible source. Second, while the numbers of reported sexual assaults may be rising, this could also be interpreted as more women are coming forward as a result of increased education on the matter. Finally, we don’t know how the polls were advertised to participants, which could sway votes. My point is, schools do a tremendous amount to educate students and try to prevent sexual assault. Could they do more? Absolutely. They could always do more. But the responsibility lies with those who are committing these crimes. Instead of blaming the presidents, let’s come up with more progressive ideas, female empowerment projects, etc. to continue to help these programs grow! We need to support and nurture these processes, not tear them down.
That woman is my spirit animal. Way to go!
I saw her picture on Instagram before I saw this post and laughed to myself. It was cute and charming. I’m sorry you feel that pretty girls can’t be funny… It seems contradictory to the positive body image articles that were posted recently. I personally find you to be pretty and funny, but maybe you just don’t see yourself that way? What a shame.
Guys, especially fraternity guys, love to boast. They all know what’s up. You’ve gotten yourself in quite a sticky situation there, ma’am. I’m crossing my fingers for you!
Unfortunately, the issue is that it wasn’t chapter business or ritual that was leaked. It was awful awful things and it’s possible that the chapters discipline board might not have been intact. I’m not saying it’s right, nobody likes a snitch. But what happened was more than wrong. And if the chapter has to deal with the consequences, than it is what it is. That’s how Greek life works. You’re always part of and representative of the group you joined. Period.
“You are always wearing you’re letters.” It’s the golden rule of Greek life. If I had such horrible representation of MY organization, even in private, I would absolutely be recommending them for termination repeatedly. As much as it sucks to have the whole chapter punished (and trust me I understand this from experience), the chapter didn’t hold their members accountable for their actions. Unfortunately, this is the result. And for the record, Facebook owns EVERYTHING you post. There is no privacy on the Internet.
The chapter was suspended for being brutally racist and disrespectful. If they are comfortable putting that nonsense on the Internet for the public to see, I don’t want to think about what they do and say in private.
So happy to be reading an article that brings us back to where our organizations began. Just a bunch of strong women getting together and kicking ass. I love it! I’m endlessly proud to be Greek.
I think you’re right. It’s hard because it feels like everything is offensive these days. We walk on egg shells and don’t talk openly because we don’t want to be rude. By being this way, we actually diminish the severity of truly offensive words or actions.
You might want to check back some of your old comments before you act all Mr. Wonderful. You have a history of blatantly insulting writers rather than criticizing their writing. Hot piece for example in her stereotype article. I’m just saying. You troll, and your time would probably be better spent elsewhere. But hey it’s America you keep doing you if you want.
Prince Harry, I hardly believe that a former “infantryman” would spend his days trolling a college women’s sorority site. If you really want to keep yourself busy, there are plenty of nonprofit organizations that would love an extra set of hands.
Awesome, thank you!