Thank you for writing this <3 Sometimes you just need to talk to a professional. Friends are great, but they're the same age as you and dealing with their own lives, so if you feel like something is seriously up or you need to sort through feelings/bad experiences then therapy can be the absolute best thing for your health.
I think the number of people who voted in favor of disaffiliation is pretty telling. There’s always the chance that recruitment counselors can have the best of intentions but still sway pnm’s in an unfair way, especially at a time when they’re so susceptible to outside opinions of what sorority they should be in – it would be weird to have rules against dirty rushing but also not have RC’s disaffiliated. The point of their role is to be unbiased.
Best way to spot a nice guy? He complains about the “friend zone,” tells you that he’s a “nice guy” or that you can totally “trust him” and is overly flattering in a way that you know he whipped the same line out to like six other girls. Honestly worst than straight up fuckboys. At least you know they’re being honest about just wanting sex.
That’s true, I guess as I was reading through this article I was thinking ‘wow, I know so many dudes that act like this’…I guess good to know that people can actually be this callous?
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a girl feeling this way – just because you’re female doesn’t mean you inherently need to want a relationship. No one bats an eye when the majority of college-aged guys act this way, but when a girl does it she’s a sociopath? I’m not saying it’s cool to be shitty to people, but the double standard in these comments is interesting. At least she’s being honest. I feel like too many girls accept this behavior from guys so her comment about “because you let us” is spot on
“Society says we pay for our friends but the friendships I have made are worth every penny”? Come ON, that’s actually reinforcing a stereotype rather than challenging it. It’s literally saying “ya I pay for friends but it’s worth it.” These are cringe-worthy.
^Exactly. If you’re in college, you’re literally in a place that encourages higher learning, questioning, research, original ideas etc. Pretty much everyone I know respects intelligence, because it’s not high school anymore; it’s university and we all worked hard to be there. So don’t feel self conscious about it?
I feel like all of this stuff really just comes down to one thing: he’s just not THAT into you (with maybe the exception of the guy who just got out of a relationship). I’ve talked to my guy friends about this before and they basically said if they really like a girl, it doesn’t matter about timing or external factors – they’ll make it happen with her. Sometimes you just meet people that you have insane chemistry and a really deep connection with, but the issue is that those people come along very rarely, and we’re all stuck trying to make it work with people who don’t quite meet that level. I think it’s natural that we don’t want relationships unless it’s the real deal.
He has a business degree – not exactly rocket science, and comes from a well-off family. His businesses have failed more than once, he’s been bankrupt before, he says things over and over that are woefully ignorant of current global issues or political relations – no one has to call him stupid. Any decently educated person can see that he proves that all on his own.
This isn’t about “being offended” – this is about a very real thing that women experience on a daily basis. Their relationship status or the men that they’re dating or the way that they look externally being considered before their accomplishments. This girl is obviously really smart, and if you can’t see that this is goes beyond “offense” then you’re not paying close enough attention.
Thank you for writing this <3 Sometimes you just need to talk to a professional. Friends are great, but they're the same age as you and dealing with their own lives, so if you feel like something is seriously up or you need to sort through feelings/bad experiences then therapy can be the absolute best thing for your health.
This deserves more likes
I think the number of people who voted in favor of disaffiliation is pretty telling. There’s always the chance that recruitment counselors can have the best of intentions but still sway pnm’s in an unfair way, especially at a time when they’re so susceptible to outside opinions of what sorority they should be in – it would be weird to have rules against dirty rushing but also not have RC’s disaffiliated. The point of their role is to be unbiased.
Awe this is actually a really cute idea 🙂
Best way to spot a nice guy? He complains about the “friend zone,” tells you that he’s a “nice guy” or that you can totally “trust him” and is overly flattering in a way that you know he whipped the same line out to like six other girls. Honestly worst than straight up fuckboys. At least you know they’re being honest about just wanting sex.
That’s true, I guess as I was reading through this article I was thinking ‘wow, I know so many dudes that act like this’…I guess good to know that people can actually be this callous?
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a girl feeling this way – just because you’re female doesn’t mean you inherently need to want a relationship. No one bats an eye when the majority of college-aged guys act this way, but when a girl does it she’s a sociopath? I’m not saying it’s cool to be shitty to people, but the double standard in these comments is interesting. At least she’s being honest. I feel like too many girls accept this behavior from guys so her comment about “because you let us” is spot on
AWE feelings for Dan’s answer about moving to another state after </3 that sucks 🙁
WOW good for this woman, what an inspiration!!
Awe my heart </3 this is so sweet
This is perfect. Also screw your roommate for judging you.
You’re beautiful and this article was funny and honest so don’t listen to the negativity. 🙂
“Society says we pay for our friends but the friendships I have made are worth every penny”? Come ON, that’s actually reinforcing a stereotype rather than challenging it. It’s literally saying “ya I pay for friends but it’s worth it.” These are cringe-worthy.
Thanks for writing this! Really important information
This is the best tribute article ever <3
^Exactly. If you’re in college, you’re literally in a place that encourages higher learning, questioning, research, original ideas etc. Pretty much everyone I know respects intelligence, because it’s not high school anymore; it’s university and we all worked hard to be there. So don’t feel self conscious about it?
I feel like all of this stuff really just comes down to one thing: he’s just not THAT into you (with maybe the exception of the guy who just got out of a relationship). I’ve talked to my guy friends about this before and they basically said if they really like a girl, it doesn’t matter about timing or external factors – they’ll make it happen with her. Sometimes you just meet people that you have insane chemistry and a really deep connection with, but the issue is that those people come along very rarely, and we’re all stuck trying to make it work with people who don’t quite meet that level. I think it’s natural that we don’t want relationships unless it’s the real deal.
He has a business degree – not exactly rocket science, and comes from a well-off family. His businesses have failed more than once, he’s been bankrupt before, he says things over and over that are woefully ignorant of current global issues or political relations – no one has to call him stupid. Any decently educated person can see that he proves that all on his own.
“I’ll make a beautiful policy maker” yeah girl damn straight
This isn’t about “being offended” – this is about a very real thing that women experience on a daily basis. Their relationship status or the men that they’re dating or the way that they look externally being considered before their accomplishments. This girl is obviously really smart, and if you can’t see that this is goes beyond “offense” then you’re not paying close enough attention.