Exactly. Respecting other people – men or women – is something that you don’t just turn on when you want something. You work at it for years, through practicing empathy and kindness. Sounds likes this guy didn’t feel the need to treat others with respect until he didn’t get what he wanted.
Not that this excuses what she did AT ALL – this story is so infuriating to read and is all kinds of messed up – this girl clearly has some serious mental issues. Like wtf?! How did no one realize how strange this situation was? I would hate to be the journalist that wrote this story, that’s her career shot for not double checking her sources weren’t psychotic.
This is actually really cute. I had a middle school identity crisis between wanting to play soccer with the boys without getting made fun of and trying to figure out how to put on mascara without poking myself in the eye…what a time
I love sex! And now I feel weird for saying that lol…yes, foreplay is great, but because of what it’s leading up to. I didn’t realize so many people felt otherwise?
Margaret Sanger was a nurse who actually founded the first all female, all African-American staffed clinic in Harlem, collaborated with MANY African-American leadres/social workers, spent a lot of time as a nurse with working class immigrant woman so saw the damage first-hand that self-induced or ‘back alley’ abortions caused and wanted to change that, lobbied to legalize contraception (birth control, condoms, etc.)…I could go on. PLEASE do your research before you spread lies about the origins of a woman who spent her whole life lobbying for woman’s/civil rights and who we have to thank for a lot of the services we have access to today. This is readily available information. Her literal purpose in life was that ‘no child should be an unwanted child.’
It’s not a lot of dead children. It’s fetuses in early stages of pregnancy, and where are you suggesting 300, 000 babies go when they are born to mothers who are unable (either financially or physically) to care of them? Are you offering to adopt them? Bringing a child into this world is a huge decision, and when a woman chooses to abort – either for health reasons, because she was raped, or because she simply is not ready to take care of a child – acting like she’s immoral because of it is unbelievable backwards.
As for your comments on Margaret Sanger (you didn’t provide any evidence for what you were saying btw) – she was a nurse who lobbied to legalize contraception (so if you use birth control or condoms, thank her for being one of the people enlightened enough to do that), wanted to prevent unsafe or back-alley abortions by promoting contraception, and founded the first birth control clinic staffed by all-female doctors. But sure, calling her “basically evil and crazy” makes your opinion sound really informed.
It doesn’t really sound like she had a fair ‘trial’ at all, and it was her personal facebook account where she was stating an opinion that didn’t have anything to do with her sorority…I’m conflicted about this. I guess it’s the same line of thinking as not having alcohol/drugs in your photos on social media b/c reflects badly on your sorority or anything that condemns the organization.
While I am 100% against de-funding Planned Parenthood – it does SO much good for women’s health, and actually helps in preventing abortions while still giving women access to safe procedures, I’m not sure revoking alumni status over a personal view is really fair.
This article is so true! It also goes back centuries lol…I mean, look at how much people love Wuthering Heights when that relationship was clearly dysfunctional af
Another helpful thing is to try and fit in a little bit of exercise each day! Even if it’s just a half hour jog/yoga session, getting endorphins flowing actually helps your memory and de-stresses your body so you don’t feel as sluggish/tired/panic-y when you’re trying to focus. 🙂 Oh and don’t forget flashcards!! They can be a life-saver in helping you condense important information
She looks stunning, honestly. We talk so much about ending the cycle on hating the way we look – whether we think we’re too fat, skinny, ugly, whatever – but it takes something like this to really take a step back and realize, “oh, other people feel this way too!” :’)
Spot on. I think this article highlights some really deeply rooted sexism that comes – not from men – but from other women. Yes, it’s totally true that guys can be amazing friends. But when you go out of your way to project that those are your ONLY friends, you’re doing more than rejecting other women – you’re seeking approval from the male gender like that’s the only opinion that matters. People are people, and you can find friends you really connect with regardless of gender, but there are also some experiences that are unique to women that bind us together, and I think that’s pretty cool. 🙂
This is a really good article and very true! I think another thing that’s super important is to remember the first, most critical thing in your decision to sleep with someone – what do YOU want? Make the choice that feels right for you. If you want to sleep with them, then do it! If you feel like it’s too soon for you to be comfortable with them/know them well enough, then don’t feel pressured to do anything – the most important factor in your decision should be your own needs. 🙂
You mentioned in the article being dropped off at college and your dad finding the signs funny, so that’s what I was specifically talking about. Your point about the president of the university not saying anything about the signs for last decade are completely valid though.
It’s *not* equality, because sorority houses don’t have a long history of issues with sexual assault like fraternities do, especially in the first few weeks of school when there’s huge parties going on. It’s called the ‘red zone’ for freshman girls for a reason, and while there are many sororities right now who are openly supporting campaigns like ‘It’s On Us’ to raise understanding and awareness of sexual assault, you’re undermining those efforts by acting like these signs don’t hint at larger problems in the Greek community.
Sure, maybe however long ago when you were in university those signs weren’t seen as a big deal, but they are now because it’s 2015 and people just have a better understanding of how much sexual assault issues affect college campuses. If you had experienced sexual assault before coming to college as a freshman, and saw stuff like ‘hope your baby girl is ready for a good time,’ outside frat houses (or if you were a parent dropping your daughter off and saw it) I’m sure you would see those signs a LOT differently.
I totally get that you’re grateful for that. And this comment is coming from someone whose parents have well-paying jobs and are paying for my tuition/textbooks etc. But I’m still able to see that it’s important to acknowledge there are plenty of people who have parents that work really long hours, or who are working two jobs, and still don’t have enough money to put their kids through college because those jobs are low-paying.
The whole article kind of leaves out that fact, and that’s kind of unfair. Your parents are not the only people in the world who work hard, and they are obviously privileged, which is great for you, but no need to shout that out to everyone. That may not be what you intended, but it’s how it came across.
Exactly. Respecting other people – men or women – is something that you don’t just turn on when you want something. You work at it for years, through practicing empathy and kindness. Sounds likes this guy didn’t feel the need to treat others with respect until he didn’t get what he wanted.
Should the column be sorority/Greek life related?
Not that it’s your job to know the climate all over North America but I promise it gets really hot in the summer in Canada! 🙂 haha
Not that this excuses what she did AT ALL – this story is so infuriating to read and is all kinds of messed up – this girl clearly has some serious mental issues. Like wtf?! How did no one realize how strange this situation was? I would hate to be the journalist that wrote this story, that’s her career shot for not double checking her sources weren’t psychotic.
“I’m not really looking for “platonic” friends.”………..
This is actually really cute. I had a middle school identity crisis between wanting to play soccer with the boys without getting made fun of and trying to figure out how to put on mascara without poking myself in the eye…what a time
I love sex! And now I feel weird for saying that lol…yes, foreplay is great, but because of what it’s leading up to. I didn’t realize so many people felt otherwise?
Margaret Sanger was a nurse who actually founded the first all female, all African-American staffed clinic in Harlem, collaborated with MANY African-American leadres/social workers, spent a lot of time as a nurse with working class immigrant woman so saw the damage first-hand that self-induced or ‘back alley’ abortions caused and wanted to change that, lobbied to legalize contraception (birth control, condoms, etc.)…I could go on. PLEASE do your research before you spread lies about the origins of a woman who spent her whole life lobbying for woman’s/civil rights and who we have to thank for a lot of the services we have access to today. This is readily available information. Her literal purpose in life was that ‘no child should be an unwanted child.’
It’s not a lot of dead children. It’s fetuses in early stages of pregnancy, and where are you suggesting 300, 000 babies go when they are born to mothers who are unable (either financially or physically) to care of them? Are you offering to adopt them? Bringing a child into this world is a huge decision, and when a woman chooses to abort – either for health reasons, because she was raped, or because she simply is not ready to take care of a child – acting like she’s immoral because of it is unbelievable backwards.
As for your comments on Margaret Sanger (you didn’t provide any evidence for what you were saying btw) – she was a nurse who lobbied to legalize contraception (so if you use birth control or condoms, thank her for being one of the people enlightened enough to do that), wanted to prevent unsafe or back-alley abortions by promoting contraception, and founded the first birth control clinic staffed by all-female doctors. But sure, calling her “basically evil and crazy” makes your opinion sound really informed.
It doesn’t really sound like she had a fair ‘trial’ at all, and it was her personal facebook account where she was stating an opinion that didn’t have anything to do with her sorority…I’m conflicted about this. I guess it’s the same line of thinking as not having alcohol/drugs in your photos on social media b/c reflects badly on your sorority or anything that condemns the organization.
While I am 100% against de-funding Planned Parenthood – it does SO much good for women’s health, and actually helps in preventing abortions while still giving women access to safe procedures, I’m not sure revoking alumni status over a personal view is really fair.
For the love of god learn what apostrophes and commas are. This writing was painful.
This article is so true! It also goes back centuries lol…I mean, look at how much people love Wuthering Heights when that relationship was clearly dysfunctional af
Another helpful thing is to try and fit in a little bit of exercise each day! Even if it’s just a half hour jog/yoga session, getting endorphins flowing actually helps your memory and de-stresses your body so you don’t feel as sluggish/tired/panic-y when you’re trying to focus. 🙂 Oh and don’t forget flashcards!! They can be a life-saver in helping you condense important information
She looks stunning, honestly. We talk so much about ending the cycle on hating the way we look – whether we think we’re too fat, skinny, ugly, whatever – but it takes something like this to really take a step back and realize, “oh, other people feel this way too!” :’)
Spot on. I think this article highlights some really deeply rooted sexism that comes – not from men – but from other women. Yes, it’s totally true that guys can be amazing friends. But when you go out of your way to project that those are your ONLY friends, you’re doing more than rejecting other women – you’re seeking approval from the male gender like that’s the only opinion that matters. People are people, and you can find friends you really connect with regardless of gender, but there are also some experiences that are unique to women that bind us together, and I think that’s pretty cool. 🙂
This is a really good article and very true! I think another thing that’s super important is to remember the first, most critical thing in your decision to sleep with someone – what do YOU want? Make the choice that feels right for you. If you want to sleep with them, then do it! If you feel like it’s too soon for you to be comfortable with them/know them well enough, then don’t feel pressured to do anything – the most important factor in your decision should be your own needs. 🙂
You mentioned in the article being dropped off at college and your dad finding the signs funny, so that’s what I was specifically talking about. Your point about the president of the university not saying anything about the signs for last decade are completely valid though.
It’s *not* equality, because sorority houses don’t have a long history of issues with sexual assault like fraternities do, especially in the first few weeks of school when there’s huge parties going on. It’s called the ‘red zone’ for freshman girls for a reason, and while there are many sororities right now who are openly supporting campaigns like ‘It’s On Us’ to raise understanding and awareness of sexual assault, you’re undermining those efforts by acting like these signs don’t hint at larger problems in the Greek community.
Sure, maybe however long ago when you were in university those signs weren’t seen as a big deal, but they are now because it’s 2015 and people just have a better understanding of how much sexual assault issues affect college campuses. If you had experienced sexual assault before coming to college as a freshman, and saw stuff like ‘hope your baby girl is ready for a good time,’ outside frat houses (or if you were a parent dropping your daughter off and saw it) I’m sure you would see those signs a LOT differently.
I totally get that you’re grateful for that. And this comment is coming from someone whose parents have well-paying jobs and are paying for my tuition/textbooks etc. But I’m still able to see that it’s important to acknowledge there are plenty of people who have parents that work really long hours, or who are working two jobs, and still don’t have enough money to put their kids through college because those jobs are low-paying.
The whole article kind of leaves out that fact, and that’s kind of unfair. Your parents are not the only people in the world who work hard, and they are obviously privileged, which is great for you, but no need to shout that out to everyone. That may not be what you intended, but it’s how it came across.