This is perfect. I don’t know why we get in our heads that these little things mean so much but I think it’s because we’re all so accustomed to being treated like shit. Yes these things are all nice, and many do lead to a commitment, but they’re all low effort things that we probably wouldn’t think twice about doing for a guy. I think we all say we don’t, but we lower our standards and we need to stand firm a little longer and not get swept up in these kinds of things. Great article.
I’m not normally into “pretty boys,” I like rugged, lots of facial hair etc. but I went out of my comfort zone and dated one for a few months… It certainly felt nice knowing someone that pretty thought I was pretty too but he never wore just a tshirt and sweatpants, I never saw him sweaty/dirty, and I used to feel like a slob whenever I wore yoga pants or if he picked me up from the gym. Idk… Not my cup of tea.
I don’t really get the whole “being friends with your ex” thing. It’s just weird. Unless you guys were good friends before, dated briefly, and it didn’t work out, what’s the point? Maybe I’m just a bitch but I like my life this way.
I 100% agree with this list. With my last break up I tried to skip #1 and held it all in and then about a month later I was all of a sudden devastated. I wish I had just gotten all of that out of my system I probably made it all much worse than it needed to be. Great article!
If every female stuck to her guns and kept her legs closed unless he had a condom, they wouldn’t be an issue. Pretty sure 10 out of 10 guys will take condom sex over no sex.
Idk I think it’s still better than waiting tables your whole life if you can avoid it. Plus you can always work more than one job. The problem is there is this “do what your heart desires” movement for high schoolers going into college and yes to an extent you should do what you want, but if you want to be able to support yourself you need to pick a major that will give you a stable, well paying job. And those aren’t typically the easier majors.
I went opposite and got a breast reduction and I couldn’t be happier. I might not understand the whole “getting bigger,” but I do understand that boobs CAN be your biggest insecurity and if you’re willing to go under the knife and pay money to change that insecurity, more power to you. You deserve to be confident and love your body, period. And you don’t owe anyone an explanation for that.
It’s all about money. Health care is controlled by insurance companies and it’s so backwards. Health care is supposed to be patient centered but hospitals can’t always afford to do that because insurance companies never want to pay for what we need. As someone who will be working in health care soon, this is one of my biggest frustrations going into that field.
This relates to me so hard. It is a perfect description of my ex. I was with him for years and couldn’t get myself to break up with him. Now I look back and can’t believe I stayed. And even better, I have hesitancies and intimacy issues with my current boyfriend who treats me like gold. It’s like this fear that one day my good boyfriend is going to turn into your bad boyfriend and then fuck, then what? It’s all so much easier said than done and I’m a pretty self-reliant, strong minded person. I wish you the best. Take care of you. Put yourself out of this. You can’t ever leave until you’re committed so please work on making a personal commitment to yourself. I am sending you love and prayers.
I feel like if you’re “talking” to someone and you have all these worries, he’s not good enough for you. Every girl deserves a guy who has clear feelings for her and respects her enough to be straightforward about those feelings.
Yes my boyfriend and I “talked” because we didn’t want to rush into a relationship. And in older generations, this phase was simply called dating. You have to get to know a guy, make sure he’s good enough for you. It’s not only about you being good enough. You are more than good enough. Relationships are a two way street.
If you’re with a genuinely good guy who treats you with respect, you should feel comfortable enough to have a conversation about where things are going after a period of time (like a month maybe?) if you feel like he really is going to shut you out if you ask him after that long, you need to realize that he’s not what you’re looking for. Just my two cents.
I think we all need to realize that we’re worth it. All of this stress is so unnecessary. Just be happy being single until you find someone who’s good enough. And when you do, appreciate the hell out of him.
This is perfect. I don’t know why we get in our heads that these little things mean so much but I think it’s because we’re all so accustomed to being treated like shit. Yes these things are all nice, and many do lead to a commitment, but they’re all low effort things that we probably wouldn’t think twice about doing for a guy. I think we all say we don’t, but we lower our standards and we need to stand firm a little longer and not get swept up in these kinds of things. Great article.
Who gives a fuck? Being smart is good and if someone has a problem with it, why are you hanging out with them?
I’m not normally into “pretty boys,” I like rugged, lots of facial hair etc. but I went out of my comfort zone and dated one for a few months… It certainly felt nice knowing someone that pretty thought I was pretty too but he never wore just a tshirt and sweatpants, I never saw him sweaty/dirty, and I used to feel like a slob whenever I wore yoga pants or if he picked me up from the gym. Idk… Not my cup of tea.
I don’t really get the whole “being friends with your ex” thing. It’s just weird. Unless you guys were good friends before, dated briefly, and it didn’t work out, what’s the point? Maybe I’m just a bitch but I like my life this way.
I am apparently the only one… But I just don’t understand why everyone is obsessed with him. At all.
I 100% agree with this list. With my last break up I tried to skip #1 and held it all in and then about a month later I was all of a sudden devastated. I wish I had just gotten all of that out of my system I probably made it all much worse than it needed to be. Great article!
Down with that. Fuck Adams.
If every female stuck to her guns and kept her legs closed unless he had a condom, they wouldn’t be an issue. Pretty sure 10 out of 10 guys will take condom sex over no sex.
I still like ombré
Idk I think it’s still better than waiting tables your whole life if you can avoid it. Plus you can always work more than one job. The problem is there is this “do what your heart desires” movement for high schoolers going into college and yes to an extent you should do what you want, but if you want to be able to support yourself you need to pick a major that will give you a stable, well paying job. And those aren’t typically the easier majors.
Sourdough was my favorite kind of bread… Until now.
I think I’d rather be single than have some dirty, lazy, unfunny, free loader husband while I’m out working my butt off doing things that I love.
I went opposite and got a breast reduction and I couldn’t be happier. I might not understand the whole “getting bigger,” but I do understand that boobs CAN be your biggest insecurity and if you’re willing to go under the knife and pay money to change that insecurity, more power to you. You deserve to be confident and love your body, period. And you don’t owe anyone an explanation for that.
This is so true! 🙂
I have never ever gotten that much closure from a break up. Not even close.
^my point exactly
It’s all about money. Health care is controlled by insurance companies and it’s so backwards. Health care is supposed to be patient centered but hospitals can’t always afford to do that because insurance companies never want to pay for what we need. As someone who will be working in health care soon, this is one of my biggest frustrations going into that field.
I wish Khloe would’ve laughed it off! It’s all in good fun! Amy’s hilarious
This relates to me so hard. It is a perfect description of my ex. I was with him for years and couldn’t get myself to break up with him. Now I look back and can’t believe I stayed. And even better, I have hesitancies and intimacy issues with my current boyfriend who treats me like gold. It’s like this fear that one day my good boyfriend is going to turn into your bad boyfriend and then fuck, then what? It’s all so much easier said than done and I’m a pretty self-reliant, strong minded person. I wish you the best. Take care of you. Put yourself out of this. You can’t ever leave until you’re committed so please work on making a personal commitment to yourself. I am sending you love and prayers.
I feel like if you’re “talking” to someone and you have all these worries, he’s not good enough for you. Every girl deserves a guy who has clear feelings for her and respects her enough to be straightforward about those feelings.
Yes my boyfriend and I “talked” because we didn’t want to rush into a relationship. And in older generations, this phase was simply called dating. You have to get to know a guy, make sure he’s good enough for you. It’s not only about you being good enough. You are more than good enough. Relationships are a two way street.
If you’re with a genuinely good guy who treats you with respect, you should feel comfortable enough to have a conversation about where things are going after a period of time (like a month maybe?) if you feel like he really is going to shut you out if you ask him after that long, you need to realize that he’s not what you’re looking for. Just my two cents.
I think we all need to realize that we’re worth it. All of this stress is so unnecessary. Just be happy being single until you find someone who’s good enough. And when you do, appreciate the hell out of him.