12.The Friday the 13th
Tell him to take off his clothes and get in bed.
Step into the bathroom, then emerge wearing nothing but a hockey mask and carrying an ax.
Silently walk to the bed.
Raise the ax and chop his fucking head off.
Guys will adopt whatever persona they think will get them laid. I once spent a week pretending to be Dan Regester. Wasn’t quite as effective as I had hoped.
This fact that you don’t recognise all of the above as assault makes me so sad. We women have been taught that unless rape or assault happens like it does in the movies it doesn’t count. This not true, it took me a long time to accept my assault for what it was too and it wasn’t my fault, no matter what warped guilt I feel! The flasher was already acting inappropriately so it’s likely your instinct was right, and you went into denial mode. Unless he looked embarrassed or horrified by it, then on the balance of probabilities he did it on purpose, given his previous behaviour. As for the butt touching, he had no right to touch your butt like that if you were just flirting. He should’ve gauged your comfort zone, by leaning in closer first, seeing if you moved away, if you didn’t then he could try to put his arm around you gently and read your face for any discomfort at any time etc. Instead he just went straight for the butt! He was a kid, hopefully hes changed his behaviour, because a man is not entitled to touch you like that straight away, even if you are flirting! Flirting may be misconstrued, flirting could be just for fun etc. It’s not an automatic invitation to touch someone in whatever place you like. It’s a possible invitation to get closer, if someone is ok with the other getting closer then boundaries need to explored / set with delicacy. As for the second it’s rape, you were passing out you were so drunk, he was drunk too but less so, because he knew what he was doing by holding you and comforting you but then ignoring your wish for him to stop. He should’ve stopped if he was conscious enough to have sex with you. A drunk person cannot consent to sex if they are drunk, he shouldn’t have even tried to have sex with someone who was passing out in the first place!. As for the last one, it’s rape too, he had no right to continue when you asked him to stop, he cannot use you for his pleasure. Moreover, you were in pain and he did not care, he even watched you cry in pain and did not care, I’m so sorry. The fact that you don’t feel worthy of recognising these acts for what they were because you don’t think you’ve been affected the stereotypical right amount for a rape survivor makes me really sad. It took me years to accept / understand that what happened to me was something you can definitely describe as rape. Even though I wasn’t really really affected by it, it still was rape. Moreover, it took me even longer to understand that it did affect me, it did take something away from me and it did affect my life in ways I didn’t even recognise (and maybe still don’t). It doesn’t make any weaker though, or means I let him win etc. it just makes me human. It’s ok to admit it hurt you. Moreover, i realised that even if it wasn’t the worst form of rape imaginable, it was rape nonetheless and my feelings and experiences matter !!! Your feelings matter too !!! #metoo
I completely identify with what you wrote. Women are trained from birth that we are overly emotional, make a big deal out of nothing, etc. Look at movies, tv shows, heck, the president. Every rape that is prosecuted is scrutinized not for truth or fabrication but for justification. As in she was drunk so it really wasnt rape. She put herself in that position. Or just look at what she wore. Etc.
The thing is the “not that bad” is that bad if it is not ok with you. People treat us how we allow them I once heard. I initially found that offensive but it is true if you dont defend yourself a creep will find you and take advantage. Other men often dont get it but we women do. #metoo is we women banding together and fighting back as a team. Whether or not it was “real rape”, “legitimate rape”, “technical rape”, “almost rape”, sexual harrassment, “unwanted flirting”, whatever. If it really happened (and what woman would want to put herself thru what happens when you report a rape for a fabrication) and it was unwanted, i always will stand with a fellow female. I dont want to live in a world anymore where bad men get to do the disgusting things they do with a slap on the wrist.
You were in bed with a man who repeatedly watched you slip in and out of consciousness but didn’t have the respect enough to sleep on the couch or just leave, but instead had sex with you? I’m sure that qualifies as a #metoo moment.
“Did the man whose trunks dropped grab them instantly and react in horror? No.”
How do you know? The author never went into details. Nice assumption.
” Since when is grabbing an ass in public ever appropriate?”
So it’d be okay if it was in private? That’s nonsense. That being said, if a couple wants to grab each other’s ass in public I really couldn’t care less. Their business. Not mine. Stop being nosy.
“? Since when is it appropriate as a “first move” in any flirting relationship?”
Who said it was the first move? More assumptions. Stop doing that. That’s the real problem in today’s culture, people like you who make assumptions instead of approaching things logically. Stay off a jury.
” You’re less clear on the idea that MEN should be the ones to know when they don’t have consent before THEY engage in inappropriate behavior. ”
I don’t consider a seventh grader a man. I also don’t know what you’re referring to but that instance is the only one that makes sense. Pardon the assumption.
“A young woman I’ve known since she was 4 is now dealing with sexual harassment of her 8 year old. Another 8 year old told this child a vulgar vulgar “joke”. By your standards, if she thought the boy was cute last week, how could he know not to behave in a sexually vulgar manner? ”
Are you joking lady? Not only is this completely different, but it’s also completely ridiculous to say an 8 year old is capable of sexual harassment. It was a rude joke but I HIGHLY doubt the joke was made for his sexual arousal lady. The boy was probably trying to make her mad. Get real. 8 year old sexually harassing anyone. Seriously?!
Lastly, I don’t know what the joke was so it’s impossible for me to even know if it was even sexual. Did he just say something like “kiss my butt”? How can one ever get anywhere with such a lack of detail…
Do fake beards count? Because I can swing by Walmart and pick one up in the Halloween section…
12.The Friday the 13th
Tell him to take off his clothes and get in bed.
Step into the bathroom, then emerge wearing nothing but a hockey mask and carrying an ax.
Silently walk to the bed.
Raise the ax and chop his fucking head off.
I wish I had a slam freaky enough to force me to discuss boundaries, respect and social media etiquette.
Good to see you’re back. You’re the only man keeping this sad buzzfeed parody of a site open.
I would never pass up the opportunity to disappoint two girls at the same time.
Guys will adopt whatever persona they think will get them laid. I once spent a week pretending to be Dan Regester. Wasn’t quite as effective as I had hoped.
10/10 the surrogate is a virgin and they’ll name the kid Yeezus Christ.
OMG I feel so much better now!
Do not, no matter how cute you think it will be, name your children Harry, Ron, Hermione, or Neville. Especially not Neville.
7. Do not get arrested wearing your costume. There’s nothing worse than a mugshot of a person wearing a Halloween costume.
Admit it: you botched the job because you’ve always been jealous of Natalie…
This fact that you don’t recognise all of the above as assault makes me so sad. We women have been taught that unless rape or assault happens like it does in the movies it doesn’t count. This not true, it took me a long time to accept my assault for what it was too and it wasn’t my fault, no matter what warped guilt I feel! The flasher was already acting inappropriately so it’s likely your instinct was right, and you went into denial mode. Unless he looked embarrassed or horrified by it, then on the balance of probabilities he did it on purpose, given his previous behaviour. As for the butt touching, he had no right to touch your butt like that if you were just flirting. He should’ve gauged your comfort zone, by leaning in closer first, seeing if you moved away, if you didn’t then he could try to put his arm around you gently and read your face for any discomfort at any time etc. Instead he just went straight for the butt! He was a kid, hopefully hes changed his behaviour, because a man is not entitled to touch you like that straight away, even if you are flirting! Flirting may be misconstrued, flirting could be just for fun etc. It’s not an automatic invitation to touch someone in whatever place you like. It’s a possible invitation to get closer, if someone is ok with the other getting closer then boundaries need to explored / set with delicacy. As for the second it’s rape, you were passing out you were so drunk, he was drunk too but less so, because he knew what he was doing by holding you and comforting you but then ignoring your wish for him to stop. He should’ve stopped if he was conscious enough to have sex with you. A drunk person cannot consent to sex if they are drunk, he shouldn’t have even tried to have sex with someone who was passing out in the first place!. As for the last one, it’s rape too, he had no right to continue when you asked him to stop, he cannot use you for his pleasure. Moreover, you were in pain and he did not care, he even watched you cry in pain and did not care, I’m so sorry. The fact that you don’t feel worthy of recognising these acts for what they were because you don’t think you’ve been affected the stereotypical right amount for a rape survivor makes me really sad. It took me years to accept / understand that what happened to me was something you can definitely describe as rape. Even though I wasn’t really really affected by it, it still was rape. Moreover, it took me even longer to understand that it did affect me, it did take something away from me and it did affect my life in ways I didn’t even recognise (and maybe still don’t). It doesn’t make any weaker though, or means I let him win etc. it just makes me human. It’s ok to admit it hurt you. Moreover, i realised that even if it wasn’t the worst form of rape imaginable, it was rape nonetheless and my feelings and experiences matter !!! Your feelings matter too !!! #metoo
I completely identify with what you wrote. Women are trained from birth that we are overly emotional, make a big deal out of nothing, etc. Look at movies, tv shows, heck, the president. Every rape that is prosecuted is scrutinized not for truth or fabrication but for justification. As in she was drunk so it really wasnt rape. She put herself in that position. Or just look at what she wore. Etc.
The thing is the “not that bad” is that bad if it is not ok with you. People treat us how we allow them I once heard. I initially found that offensive but it is true if you dont defend yourself a creep will find you and take advantage. Other men often dont get it but we women do. #metoo is we women banding together and fighting back as a team. Whether or not it was “real rape”, “legitimate rape”, “technical rape”, “almost rape”, sexual harrassment, “unwanted flirting”, whatever. If it really happened (and what woman would want to put herself thru what happens when you report a rape for a fabrication) and it was unwanted, i always will stand with a fellow female. I dont want to live in a world anymore where bad men get to do the disgusting things they do with a slap on the wrist.
No.
I prefer standing-bent-over-the-bed doggy because my partner can comfortably use her iPhone, thus distracting her from my subpar performance.
This is a massive plot to make guys want to go down on you.
You own only one bra? Wow.
You were in bed with a man who repeatedly watched you slip in and out of consciousness but didn’t have the respect enough to sleep on the couch or just leave, but instead had sex with you? I’m sure that qualifies as a #metoo moment.
what did you use for the skirt?? it looks hella better than all the other ones I’ve seen haha
“Did the man whose trunks dropped grab them instantly and react in horror? No.”
How do you know? The author never went into details. Nice assumption.
” Since when is grabbing an ass in public ever appropriate?”
So it’d be okay if it was in private? That’s nonsense. That being said, if a couple wants to grab each other’s ass in public I really couldn’t care less. Their business. Not mine. Stop being nosy.
“? Since when is it appropriate as a “first move” in any flirting relationship?”
Who said it was the first move? More assumptions. Stop doing that. That’s the real problem in today’s culture, people like you who make assumptions instead of approaching things logically. Stay off a jury.
” You’re less clear on the idea that MEN should be the ones to know when they don’t have consent before THEY engage in inappropriate behavior. ”
I don’t consider a seventh grader a man. I also don’t know what you’re referring to but that instance is the only one that makes sense. Pardon the assumption.
“A young woman I’ve known since she was 4 is now dealing with sexual harassment of her 8 year old. Another 8 year old told this child a vulgar vulgar “joke”. By your standards, if she thought the boy was cute last week, how could he know not to behave in a sexually vulgar manner? ”
Are you joking lady? Not only is this completely different, but it’s also completely ridiculous to say an 8 year old is capable of sexual harassment. It was a rude joke but I HIGHLY doubt the joke was made for his sexual arousal lady. The boy was probably trying to make her mad. Get real. 8 year old sexually harassing anyone. Seriously?!
Lastly, I don’t know what the joke was so it’s impossible for me to even know if it was even sexual. Did he just say something like “kiss my butt”? How can one ever get anywhere with such a lack of detail…
For a 60 year old you lack a lot of wisdom.